Raising a child is in no way a child’s play. It becomes even more challenging when you are the sole guardian with no one to share the responsibility with. As a single father, you have to multi-task. Whatever the reason be, you first have to accept the fact that your wife will not be around and your family is now entirely dependent on you. This realization brings a lot of pressure, tension, and stress. You now have to take care of a child and simultaneously manage your work and household by yourself. Moreover, as a father, you must also understand that every child goes through a lot of changes growing up and you have to change yourself accordingly to understand your child better. The challenge of raising a child single-handedly is difficult but not insurmountable. Men have done it in the past and have been successful at it. You just need to pull up your socks and prepare yourself to become the best father for your child.
Single Father Parenting Tips:
1. Find A Good Child Care:
As a single dad, you not only have to earn for your family but also take good care of your child. You cannot be with your child all the time. S, you will need to find a reliable caretaker who can look after your child in your absence. You cannot allow any random person for the purpose. Hire a trained babysitter who will provide a safe environment for your child.
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2. Raise With Love:Sponsored
As a single parent, your child need not be the center of your universe, but you must make him feel loved and important. Do not be stingy with your praises. If your child has done something well, then go ahead and give a pat on his or her shoulder. Encourage your child to do better in life and when successful in achieving any goal, buy a gift to show your appreciation. Celebrate every occasion or events that are important for your child.
3. Do Not Pamper:
Single fathers often feel guilty for not being able to do enough for their children and pamper them out of guilt. Single fathers feel that their child misses having a mother and try to over-compensate for the absence by giving in to every demand. Feeling guilty and spoiling your child will not help in the long run. Your child will find it difficult to cope with life without your help. It is best to stop feeling guilty and focus on making your child independent and hard-working.
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4. Set House Rules:
If loving your child is important so is instilling discipline. Set house rules but they must not be too stringent or lenient. Also, they must be changed from time to time and be slightly flexible depending on the situation at home.
5. Create A Routine:
To build a strong bond with anyone you must be willing to invest time. Make a daily routine chart where you and your child can plan things that need to be done together. For example, meals must be had together at the dining table at a specific time, weekends can be special days where you and your kid either spend time out together or do some chores like cleaning the house. Ensure that you regularly spend some quality time with your child. Being accessible and available for your child makes you dependable. Your child will know that he or she has your support and is not alone.
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6. Be Emphatic:
The generation gap between your child and you will always cause a difference in opinion. Respect your child’s views and try to see things from all angles. Learn to understand your child’s perspective. There will be disagreements, there will be arguments but put yourself in his to better understand a situation.
7. Stay Upbeat:
There will be times when you may feel bogged down trying to fulfill so many responsibilities. You could feel exhausted meeting the demands of a single father. A problem at work or any issue with your child may create tension and make it difficult for you to clear your head and deal with it in the best way possible. In such a situation, take a break, and come back with a positive attitude. There’s no harm in sharing your problem with a friend or a family member. At times, it is alright to let your kids know the trouble you are facing. Your children will understand you better and will learn to be more responsible. It will unite you as a family. Facing any hardship will become easier for you.
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8. Look After Yourself:
In your efforts to be a good father do not neglect your needs and health. You have a lot of responsibilities and do your best to fulfill them but at the same time be good to yourself. Indulge in physical activities that will keep you active. Maintain a healthy lifestyle. Eat healthy food and rest adequately. Make time to meet friends. Interact with other parents. Share your experiences and learn from theirs. Try to do things that make you happy.
Father is always seen as the backbone of the family. But a single father is not just the spine but also the heart, the brain and the limbs of a family. Playing multiple roles for your kids is not easy at all, but give yourself time and learn from your mistakes.
If you are a single father and want to share some of your experiences or tips on parenting then do write to us in the comments section below.
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