A baby’s fake crying can be defined as crying without vital needs. Crying is a form of communication to express pain, hunger, tiredness, and sleep. Some babies may cry without obvious reasons or for parents’ or caregivers’ attention.
You may notice random fake crying in your baby without reasons or for specific purposes such as to hold them in your arms or soothe them. Although many parents may worry about why their baby is crying, eventually, most of them figure out the reasons.
Read on to learn more about reasons and how to handle a baby’s fake crying.
What Is Fake Crying?
A baby’s fake crying could be defined as crying that is not motivated by vital needs, such as food, sleep, change of diapers, and caregivers’ attention to pain. Infants who fake their crying are also not any discomfort due to illness, injury, or emotional issues, such as fear.
You can tell your baby is fake crying when they are in good health, and all their needs have been met. The baby who is fake crying may also pause to check their parents’ reaction and may even crawl or walk closer to the parent to make their crying noticeable. It usually suggests that the baby is aware that their behavior will lead to some reaction from their parents or primary caregivers.
At What Age Do Babies Start Fake Crying?
There is no specific age when a baby may begin fake crying. Babies usually learn several new communication skills between the ages of six and 12 months (1). Therefore, a baby may display more episodes of fake crying between the ages of six and 12 months.
Why Do Babies Fake Cry?
Babies usually fake their crying only when they know it is likely to be heard by a caregiver. Below are the reasons why babies may fake their crying.
1. Gain attention
The most common reason behind fake crying is to attract the attention of a parent or caregiver (2). Babies enjoy the company of parents and other primary caregivers. A baby may cry to gain their attention and elicit their company as a response. In such cases, the baby usually becomes cheerful once the parent is close and starts crying the moment the parent leaves.
A study noted that babies displayed a positive emotional state before certain types of crying not associated with distress (3). It suggested that the babies in the study were crying voluntarily and, thus, were fake crying. The researchers noted that it was a remarkable way to gain parents’ attention, and babies who fake cry may have better communication skills in the long run.
2. Experiment with cause and effect
Babies experiment with cause and effect from an early age, and one of the first effects they observe is the parents’ reaction to their crying. A baby from the age of four months may have a different type of cry to communicate specific emotions, such as hunger or pain (4). As they grow older, they are likely to use the skill for experimentation.
The little one may cry to play with cause and effect and observe various possible reactions (5). You may even notice different types of fake crying, depending on the situation and your previous responses to fake crying.
3. Express displeasure
Fake crying could also be used to communicate displeasure to a situation or an event. For instance, a baby may fake cry to communicate displeasure when a play session ends or when you reach the end of a book (4). Fake crying to express displeasure is usually easily discernible since it begins at the end of an interesting activity and stops the moment an activity is restarted.
4. Throw a tantrum
Tantrums could also be the reason behind fake crying, especially among toddlers. One of the common types of tantrums is a temper tantrum, which is often displayed by a toddler when their desires are not fulfilled immediately (6).
Fake crying during a tantrum is similar to fake crying to express displeasure. However, tantrums tend to be more common among toddlers older than 12 months and are accompanied by other signs of emotional outbursts, such as screaming and hitting an object or person (7).
Is Fake Crying Bad?
Fake crying is usually not considered a bad or problematic behavioral attribute. It is common for babies to fake cry to gain attention and seek parents’ company. Older babies and toddlers commonly fake cry to experiment with the reaction they receive. Fake crying due to tantrums can be managed by observing the triggers and types of tantrums, such as tantrums before bedtime. As the baby grows older, they learn to use simple words and sentences to communicate emotions rather than fake crying.
How To Stop Fake Crying In Babies?
There is usually no need to stop fake crying since it stops as the baby grows older. However, if there is a developmental concern, talk to your Pediatrician to make sure it is normal behavior. You may try the following ways to manage it until the baby is old enough to communicate through speech.
- Distract the baby: Distraction works great for babies who fake cry to express displeasure. For instance, if the baby is fake crying because a game or activity has ended, you may immediately distract them with a toy, sound, or by talking to them.
- Change responses: If you lift the baby and cuddle each time they fake their crying, your response becomes predictable. Change the way you respond to discourage fake crying. Instead of lifting the baby, you may let them stay in the crib while you sit nearby. Provide them with a toy or say “No” as an alternative response. When you display unpredictable responses, a baby is less likely to play with fake crying to test its effects and gain attention for non-essential reasons.
- Speak to the baby: Babies learn to respond to sounds by making sounds at six months and can understand “No” by nine months. Encourage the baby to use simple sounds and words to communicate their emotions instead of fake crying. One of the best ways to do it is to strike a conversation with the baby the moment you sense they are faking their crying. Ask the baby, “What do you want?” or “May I do something for you?”. You may also give simple names to objects, such as “boo” for a book or “aay” for a toy to stimulate the use of speech. Point at the named objects and talk, and the next time the baby may do the same instead of fake crying.
- Set simple rules: Fake crying due to tantrums among toddlers could be regulated by setting defined limits and rules. You may set rules for various daily activities, such as a time limit for play. You may also set a daily schedule to help make the routine predictable for the toddler. If the toddler shows adherence to rules and reduced fake crying, appreciate them to reinforce the good behavior (8).
- Ignorning: It may seem challenging, but if you know your baby is changed, fed, in good health, etc., it is ok to step away from the situation as long as the baby is in a safe space. Learning to say ”no,” is a vital part of parenting and will be beneficial in the long run.
Your baby fake crying may mean they want care and company. Babies may resort to fake crying to gain attention, experiment with their actions and consequences, or throw a tantrum. These are normal infant responses and are generally not a cause for concern. The behavior usually resolves as the baby grows and learns to communicate through speech, but you may consult a pediatrician if you suspect some underlying medical cause. Changing your responses to their crying, distracting them, or teaching them other ways to communicate will help reduce this habit in babies.
- If a baby cries without any apparent vital need such as food, sleep, or pain, it can be called a fake cry.
- A baby may fake a crying episode to attract attention or express displeasure.
- You can try distracting the baby by speaking to them, changing your response, and at times, ignoring them.
2. R.Gatrad and Aziz Sheikh, Persistent crying in babies; U.S. National Library of Medicine
3. Hiroko Nakayama,Changes in the affect of infants before and after episodes of crying; U.S. National Library of Medicine
4. Important Milestones: Your Baby By Four Months; CDC
5. Play; U.S. Department of Health & Human Services
6. Temper tantrums; U.S. National Library of Medicine
7. Emotional Development: 2 Year Olds; American Academy of Pediatrics
8. What’s the Best Way to Discipline My Child?;American Academy of Pediatrics