A breakup can be overwhelming for both partners. But the most damaging part of a breakup is a lack of closure. To have a clean breakup, the couple needs to understand what caused the breakup and why it is in their best interest. The couple should express their feelings and vent it all out one last time before they start healing individually.
But expressing your feelings in person may not be easy for everyone. Perhaps writing a letter might help. Writing a breakup letter to someone you loved can help you put your thoughts into words and gives you time to think and understand what you are saying. You also get a chance to write and edit words carefully, hoping to do maximum damage control.
Here are some breakup letters you can take inspiration from.
20 Breakup Letters To Someone You Loved
When you are in a long-distance relationship
Has the physical distance between you taken a toll on your relationship? If you feel it is time to call it off, take inspiration from these letters and write them one.
1. Dearest [Name]
Something has been bothering me for a while now, and I think I should convey it to you. Initially, I was okay with our long-distance setup because I believed our love would overcome any barrier. But sadly, I was wrong. I spend most of my time waiting to hear from you. And when your message does not come, I keep wondering about the possible reasons for the delay in your reply and feel frustrated all day long.
I cannot keep living like this, worrying about you and being uncertain of our relationship. I think we should let go of this relationship and move on in life.
I hope you understand why this is best for both of us. I will always cherish the sweet memories.
2. Dear [Name]
You know how much I love you. I cannot spend a day without you. But this attachment to you while you live miles away is driving me crazy. We may spend hours on FaceTime, but the truth is that not being able to touch you and hold you is getting too much to bear.
I cannot go on with this distance between us. It is best we go our separate ways while we still have love and respect for each other. I know this won’t be easy, but it is what we have to do for our own good. I wish you good luck.
When your love has faded
There may come a time when you feel that love has faded and there is no point in going on with a loveless relationship. If that is the case, send her a letter telling them it is best you part ways.
3. Dear [Name]
A lot of things change with time, including feelings for people. Even though you hold a special place in my heart, I do not feel that kind of love for you anymore. I’m sorry our relationship has come to the point where we do not connect like before.
It would be unfair to you if I let it continue this way. You certainly deserve someone who loves you wholeheartedly. Hence, I feel we should let go of this relationship so we can meet people who will truly love us.
All the best
4. My dearest [Name]
Nothing in life is predictable — not even love. What you feel for someone today may not be the same tomorrow. I am saying this as I think my feelings for you have gone through something similar. I don’t feel the same for you as I did when we started dating. I don’t know why this has happened, but I think I should be frank and honest with you.
I feel there is no point being in a loveless relationship, so it is best we say goodbye to each other. I hope you move on and find the happiness you deserve in life.
When the relationship is difficult to maintain
You two feel strongly for each other, but when you know that this relationship will take neither of you anywhere, it is better to part ways. Try writing a polite but firm letter to your partner conveying your feelings.
5. My Love
Falling in love with you was the best thing that happened to me. Your love helped me grow as a person, and I will always be grateful for it. But we both know that staying together is no longer a viable option for us, and it is time we accept it. Circumstances have changed and have, sadly, worked against us.
I know I will never be able to love someone the way I loved you. It is a heartbreaking decision, but it has to be taken. You will always dwell in my heart no matter where I go in life. All the best to you, and I hope you find someone who will love you more than I ever did.
6. My dearest [Name]
It is said that you can never forget your true love. I know it is a fact because I know I will never be able to forget you. But I have to let you go and end this relationship even though doing so feels like stabbing my own heart. I am willing to suffer this pain because I know you will be happy in your new life.
Thank you for coming into my life and filling it with so much love. I hope, someday, in another universe, we meet sooner and in favorable circumstances.
When there is friendship but not love
You got into the relationship because you both were compatible, but you now feel no chemistry or romance between you two. You have realized that you two are better off as friends and wish to continue being friends. Let her know about it by writing something sweet and friendly.
7. Dear [Name]
You know I love you and will do anything to see you happy. However, my feelings for you are more like that of a friend and not a lover. I feel protective of you, but I don’t have romantic feelings for you. I guess it is because we share such a good rapport that I mistook it for love. I feel so comfortable with you that caring for you is easy.
You are a wonderful person, and you deserve someone amazing who will love you unconditionally. I hope you understand that I cannot continue being in this relationship. I would, however, love to go back to being your best buddy.
Lots of love
When you have fallen in love with someone else
You have probably fallen for someone else and do not feel the same love for your partner. A kindly-worded breakup letter like these can help you convey your message.
8. Dear [Name]
It pains me deeply to write this letter, but I can’t think of a better way to convey this to you. I have fallen in love with someone I know at work, and we have decided to get into a relationship. It does not feel right to keep you in the hopes of a long-term relationship when I know I have feelings for someone else.
I hope you find your one true love in life because you can make anyone happy. Try to move on happily in life, and if possible, please forgive me.
I know you might hate me for what I’m about to tell you, but trust me, I never meant to do it in the first place. I have found someone else in life for whom I feel something stronger than camaraderie. I tried my best to stay loyal to our relationship, but, somehow, my heart betrayed me. And it is no fault of yours because you are an amazing partner, and I truly cherish every moment spent together.
I hope you forgive me and have a happy life with someone who will love you for the wonderful person that you are.
When your partner has cheated on you
Your partner is a big-time liar, and you have learned that you have been cheated on and wish to break up with them. Your letter should be strongly worded, indicating that it’s over because of their disloyalty.
If you think not telling me about your office affair can keep me in the dark forever, you must be really foolish. I know what you have been up to with your muse, and I couldn’t have been more disgusted by you. I wish you had the courage to end it with me before going on your new lust tour.
Needless to say, I am done with you, and I hope you meet someone like you, so you know how hurtful it is to be cheated on.
Kindly come and pick your stuff from the carton box I have placed right beside my mailbox because I know you are cheating on me. I do not wish to have a cheater step into my house or my life ever again.
Please do not call me or text me to clarify anything because I know everything you have been up to behind my back and have video proof supporting my claims. You do not exist for me anymore, so do not expect me to ever speak to you again.
When you are in an abusive relationship
Abuse of any kind, physical or mental, should not be tolerated by anyone. If you are in an abusive relationship, it is time you muster courage and break up with such a partner while making it clear that they can never get back with you.
I hope no one ever goes through the fear and humiliation I experienced with you. Love is supposed to make you happy, not scared. I do not wish to be on the receiving end of your mood swings and temper anymore. We are done.
Do not try to contact me ever again, as I have blocked you from my life.
When I fell in love with you, I thought it was the start of the most beautiful journey of my life. Sadly, I did not know I was dating a monster with angel wings. The mere thought of you sucks the happiness out of my life. I wish to erase every single memory associated with you because you do not deserve a place in my life.
I hope to never meet a person like you again in my life. Stay away from me and do not try to contact me because I will never respond.
When you and your partner have different future plans
You and your partner love each other, but somehow, your future plans take you both in opposite directions. Write a letter telling them how much you love and respect them but cannot be together.
14. Dear [Name]
I am happy for all that you have achieved in life. I feel proud of you. But let’s be a little more practical about our future together. We are aware of how our career plans might take us on different paths and how it can be impossible to maintain our relationship. Also, we both want different things in life, and no matter how hard we try, we cannot deny that our aims and goals in life are very important for us.
I do not want our relationship to come in the way of our career goals. So, let’s give our story a happy ending and set out on our preferred paths in life. I will always cherish our wonderful memories together. All the best for your future.
When you think your partner loves you for your money
If you are in a relationship with someone who is concerned only about your money, get out of that relationship before your bank account starts draining. Also, if someone just cannot stop getting into financial trouble, distance yourself from them.
Initially, it was out of love that I would foot all your bills, but now you have made it a habit. I don’t mind spending on someone I love, but the problem here is that you do not love me back. What you love is the amount of money I am willing to spend on you, which is the cause of the imbalance in our relationship.
I think it is high time I safeguard my money and my heart from a mean, manipulative stealer like you. Find someone who is ready to waste their money on a lost cause like you.
No longer your ATM
When have I not tried to help you out of your financial mess? No matter what problem I try to help you with, you get yourself into another the very next moment. I cannot take this anymore. Do not think it is your financial condition that is my problem. It is not. My problem is your attitude toward money handling.
If we are to have a future together, I need you to be more serious about handling money well so we can have a happy family together. But your attitude toward money and life is not ideal for a life partner, so I have decided to break up with you.
All the best for your future. I hope you find someone who is ready to splash their money on you.
When you are not ready to commit to your partner
You like this person a lot but do not want to commit to them. Well, stop wasting their time, especially if they have been imagining spending the rest of their life with you. Admit your shortcomings and take the blame for ruining a perfect relationship.
17. Dear [Name]
I hate to disclose this to you in this manner, but writing a letter is the only way I can think of right now because I may not be able to face you while telling you this. I have been having a tough time keeping up with your expectations from me as a partner. I’m afraid I cannot give you the commitment you are looking for in this relationship.
And let me tell you that my decision has nothing to do with you, and rather, it is my inability to commit. You are a wonderful person, and I know for sure you will find someone who will value your companionship for life.
I’m sorry to break this out so suddenly. Please try to understand that I had to do it to avoid more pain for either of us. All the best in your life.
18. Dear [Name]
This letter might come as a shock to you, but trust me, this is the best way I could think of to divulge this news to you. For the past few months, I have been trying to let you know of it but could never get it out of me. I don’t think I am ready for a long-term commitment with you. I really like you and enjoy your company, but I do not feel prepared to take our relationship to the next level.
I feel like I am making the biggest mistake of my life, but this looks like the right thing to do right now. You need to know that you are an amazing person, and having you for life would be the biggest achievement for anyone. But I think I am not prepared to handle that kind of responsibility, and so, letting you go is the best thing to do for both of us.
I hope you do not hate me for this. Have a wonderful life ahead.
When you do not get along with your partner’s family
For a relationship to be successful, it is imperative you get along with your partner’s family. And if you don’t, then carrying on with such a person can become difficult. If you are currently in such a situation, the following letters might help you express your feelings while breaking up with your love.
19. Dearest [Name]
After spending enough time with your family, I realized that I just do not fit in with your folks. I might be wrong or could be imagining this, but I feel that your family does not quite approve of me. I feel like they do not like me and would like to see you with someone else than me.
It would be selfish of me to ask you to pick either your family or me; hence, I have chosen to walk away from this relationship. I fear you would try to talk me out of this decision or change my mind, which is why I am writing this letter to you. Please try to understand. I cannot stay in a relationship where the most important people in your life disapprove of me. I’m sorry we are breaking up this way.
20. Dear [Name]
You may or may not have noticed, but in the last few times we were with your family, I did not get along well with them. Honestly, I always felt like an outsider whenever I was with your family. I tried to blend in and be a part of your family, but either your family did not help, or I did not work hard enough to be accepted by them.
You are an amazing person, but I don’t think we can last long if I do not get along with your family, especially when I know how much they mean to you. It is best we end this now and look for partners more suitable for us. I hope you understand.
Have a great life ahead.
We hope these letters give you an idea of what you can write to someone when breaking up with them. Remember that whenever you write a breakup letter, write it as if you are the one receiving it. Reading it from the receiver’s perspective helps you be as gentle and polite as possible. Your partner may have wronged you or hurt you, but that does not mean you should be rude to them. Be nice and keep the breakup as clean as possible because it will only help you heal faster and give you peace of mind.