Does My Ex Miss Me After The Breakup?' 21 Telltale Signs

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If you often ask yourself, ‘does my ex miss me?’ you are not alone. Breakups in a relationship may be heartbreaking and seem like the end of a happy world that you lived in once.

You might experience feelings of anger, pain, and hopelessness—these feelings are justifiable, as it is difficult to forget past happy memories. Also, when you are faced with an avalanche of negative feelings and emotions, you may sometimes be curious to know how your ex might be feeling after the breakup.

In this post, we apprise you of some suggestive signs that may confirm that your ex misses you too. Keep scrolling.

Does My Ex Miss Me: 21 Telltale Signs

1. They regularly feature on your social media

Of late, your ex is a regular feature on your social media. They like and comment on your every post or photo. Sometimes they even slide into your DMs. It is very likely that your ex is stalking your social media because they miss you. This is their way of keeping in touch.

2. They drunk text or dial you

This is one of the biggest signs that your ex misses you. Drinking lowers your inhibitions and gives you the courage to do the things you wouldn’t otherwise dare. If you are receiving late-night drunk texts or calls from your ex, they probably still have feelings for you.

3. They discuss you with your mutual friends

We usually check on the well-being of people we care about. If your ex has been enquiring about you with mutual friends, it is a big indicator that they are still interested in you. By discussing you with mutual friends, they are making their feelings obvious since they know their message will get across to you.

4. They keep bumping into you

Lately, your ex seems to always be around. You keep bumping into them regularly at the most unexpected places. Accidental meet-ups can happen once or twice, but it might not be coincidental if you have been regularly running into them. They may be visiting all your hang-out spots to catch a glimpse of you.

5. They bring up past memories

Whenever you come across each other, your ex manages to insert some fond memories into the conversation. They leave out all the bad times and instead choose to highlight your beautiful love life. While this can be just their way of having a pleasant conversation, it can also be a subtle sign of your ex missing you and remind you of all the wonderful memories you both had good together.

6. They keep finding reasons to connect with you

Your ex texts you out of the blue for some silly reason. They try to arrange a meet-up using a poor excuse such as borrowing something or giving back something. Generally, it is advisable to break all contacts with the ex if you want to move on. If your ex is behaving otherwise, they may still have feelings for you.

7. They enquire about your relationship status

A person who is trying to move on would never ask their ex about their current relationship status. It is normal to try to seek out this information from common friends or uncover it from social media. However, if your ex is directly enquiring about your relationship, this may be their way of reconciling with you.

8. They have immediately started a new relationship

It has only been a few days since your breakup, but your ex has already jumped into a new relationship and is flaunting it on social media. Starting something new without getting completely over the previous relationship could be a way of distracting themselves. It often indicates that the person is unable to cope with their emotions and it is also possible that they still have feelings for you.

9. They do special things for you

Even though you two are not together, they do special things for you. If it is your birthday, they send you a gift or a card. They remember the days that are important for you and send their best wishes. Such sweet gestures may indicate that you still occupy their thoughts.

10. They ask you to meet up

When you want to get over someone, you try to completely disconnect with them. Meeting that person is a strict no-no. So, if your ex talks about meeting you, they might not be over you. They want to see you and gauge your emotions and understand how you feel about them.

11. They appear unhappy

If your ex is unable to get over you, the most obvious sign would be their overall demeanor. Has your ex been going around with an unhappy and lost look on their face? If you or some of your mutual friends have noticed that they seem crestfallen after the breakup, they might be missing you. However, they may be worried about something else, so check other signs before jumping to any conclusions.

12. They add cryptic posts on social media

Your ex has been posting about heartbreak and lost love on social media with increasing frequency. Their social media posts could also hint at certain aspects of your relationship. Generally, people post about something they are experiencing or can relate to. Such posts from your ex can be a sign that they are pinning for you.

13. They make you a part of their social media

When you break up with someone, one of the first things you do is remove your lovey-dovey pictures from social media since they serve as a stark reminder of what could have been. If your ex is active on social media and has still kept pictures of you two together, they most likely miss you.

14. They get jealous

Your ex doesn’t like it when you get close to people of the opposite gender. If you talk about any of your dates, they express their displeasure. A strong feeling like jealousy is evoked only when there are some residual feelings. A person who has moved on will be indifferent or happy seeing their ex with someone else.

15. They try to show you that they have changed

Exes who are desperate to get back with their previous partners sometimes use this technique. They try to convince their ex that they are truly remorseful of their actions and have changed their ways. By doing this, they want to make a place in your heart again.

16. They are prompt in their replies

An ex who misses you would cherish any kind of communication from you and respond eagerly. They wouldn’t want to keep you waiting. So, if your ex is instantly replying to the most trivial of your text messages even in the middle of a workday, in all probability, they might be missing you.

17. They shower you with compliments

Does your ex shower you with compliments every time you meet? Have they been singing your praises to mutual friends? While it is not always the case, sometimes compliments are used to create a soft spot in the receiver’s heart. There is a chance that they are using compliments as a means to communicate their feelings, hoping to get back together.

18. They keep tabs on you

Whenever you talk with your ex, they seem to be up-to-date about your life. They know things about you that you haven’t told them or posted on social media. If this is the case, there is a huge chance that they are keeping tabs on you through a mutual friend. This friend could be getting closer to you to give information about you to your ex.

19. They are taking an interest in things you love

Your ex is suddenly doing things you loved but which were not their cup of tea. For instance, they hated romcoms, but suddenly you see them posting about watching such movies. Or you see them posting about songs you loved and food you enjoy. These posts are a strong indicator that they are missing you and are using these posts to attract your attention.

20. They include you in  talks of their future

Does your ex talk wistfully about an imaginary scenario where you two end up together? Have they ever spoken about things you should do together in the near future, such as going on a trip or trying out a particular restaurant? If their vision of the future still includes you in some capacity (even hypothetically), it is clear that they have hopes that you will eventually get back together.

21. They directly tell you how they feel

Laying your feelings bare requires a lot of courage and confidence. Yet your ex chooses to do this probably because they want you back. However, before you decide anything, check your ex’s eye contact and body language to understand if they are honest. Some exes might just claim to miss you because they are lonely or want to have a fling with you.

If your ex is showing a majority of these signs, there is a huge possibility that they miss you. However, even if you miss them too, don’t make a hasty decision to rekindle your relationship. You broke up because of some relationship issues, so think carefully before taking a step. Get back together only for the right reasons and not just because you think it will be different this time around!

 

Key Pointers

  • When a couple separates, missing each other is a common emotional trail they go through.
  • If your ex likes or comments on every post of yours, enquires about you with mutual friends, and asks you to meet up, it suggests they miss you.
  • Consider reconciliation only for the right reasons and not merely cause your ex misses you.

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Siddharth Kesiraju

Siddharth holds a master's degree in communication and journalism from the University of Hyderabad. He has around six years of experience in various fields of writing and editing. As an associate editor at MomJunction, Siddharth edits and ensures the articles are aligned with the website's editorial standards. Having done a certification course in Relationship Coaching, he also writes on Relationships.... more