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Dreams about crushes may be common if you keep thinking about them all day long. Your dreams at night usually reveal the state of your mind during the day. So, if your mind has been preoccupied with the thoughts of your crush, it might be possible to dream about them at night too. However, as we do not control our dreams, they can be different every night. Some dreams may be romantic and delightful, while others may be sad and terrifying. Each dream holds a meaning related to your feelings for your crush.
When science journalist Nadia El-Awady dreamt about her second-grade crush, she says she may not remember the dream but remembers the pleasant feeling as an aftereffect of the dream. She says, “But my second-grade-crush dreams are always warm and fuzzy. I couldn’t tell you what happens in those dreams. I don’t remember. I’ll remember for a few minutes after I wake up, but then the dream gently wafts away, leaving a happy feeling inside of me (i).”
Read on if you are curious to know what does it mean when you dream about your crush.
Why Do You Keep Dreaming About Your Crush?
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According to Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, dreams are derived from our experiences in the real world and influenced by our physical health and mental activities that occur as we sleep (1).
From this, we understand that dreams reflect our deepest fears, fantasies, desires, and wishes and they are an interpretation of who we are and what we think.
If your crush has been appearing in your dreams a little too often, you are probably thinking too much about them. Your dreams can be linked to your deep desire to be with them. And if your dream is negative, it can be linked to your fear of losing them or being rejected by them.
Some dreams have a deeper meaning than what you think. The following are some interpretations of dreams related to your crush.
What Does A Dream About Your Crush Mean? 23 Interpretations
Dreams involving your crush can be weird, absurd, and sometimes very real. Here are some meanings of the dreams that you have about your crush.
1. You dream about your crush having a crush on you
The best dream you can have about your crush is them having a crush on you. In a dream like this, your subconscious mind highlights everything you like about yourself. For instance, if your crush compliments your eyes, it could actually be the favorite feature of your face. It also reflects your deep desire to be attractive to your crush.
2. You dream about your crush texting you
Dreaming about your crush sending you a text indicates your eagerness to have them communicate with you. It may also indicate a deep connection you share with your crush or your subconscious mind trying to tell you something through the message you receive from your crush. Try to recall the message you received and see if it is applicable in real life.
3. You dream about your crush kissing you
Kissing in your dreams suggests your heart longs for love in real life. If you initiated the kiss, then it indicates that you are fearful of doing it in real life. And if your crush initiated the kiss, it could mean that you wish for them to initiate the gesture with you. Perhaps it could also mean that your crush is interested in you and your subconscious mind picked up a hint that you failed to notice. Such a dream symbolizes your desire to be close to your crush in real life.
4. You dream about your crush proposing to you
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Getting a proposal from your crush is a positive dream indicating your optimism and emotions about your love life. It points out that you are hopeful of your crush proposing to you someday. It can also be your subconscious telling you to act upon your feelings. Maybe your mind is hinting at making your feelings known to your crush.
5. You dream about your crush rejecting you
If your crush rejects you in your dreams, it means that you are not sure of how they feel about you. Perhaps you feel your crush is out of your league and that they will not accept you in real life. You have insecurities that you are unable to overcome. It may not necessarily be the case with your crush but more likely to be your lack of confidence taking a toll on you.
6. You dream about your crush dating you
An optimistic dream in which you see yourself in a relationship with your crush indicates that you are confident about yourself in real life. You believe that it is only a matter of time, and you and your crush will eventually be together. It could also be your subconscious telling you how life would be if you were to date your crush.
7. You dream about your crush fighting with you
Fighting or arguing with your crush could be an indicator of frustration in real life. You must be frustrated that your crush does not pay attention to you or is with someone else. It can also mean that your crush and you have compatibility issues and do not get along as much as you would want to in real life.
Point to consider8. You dream about your crush ignoring you
Dreaming about being ignored indicates your inability to express yourself in real life and a feeling of being trapped. Your crush ignoring you in your dreams is your mind telling you that you are neglecting something about yourself. You need to look deeper into yourself and find out what it is. It could also mean you are repressing some feelings that you haven’t acknowledged yet. This dream calls for some introspection.
9. You dream about your crush dating another person
Seeing your crush dating someone else in your dream could be an indicator of fear of abandonment. You probably have lost a loved one or have been left behind by your friends or family, and this fear of being left alone still haunts you and makes you anxious about being left out by your loved ones.
10. You dream about your crush sleeping with you
A dream where you see yourself making love to your crush must be analyzed by how it made you feel. For instance, if you saw yourself pleasing your crush, it means you wish to make your crush happy in real life. And if you dreamt of feeling pleasure and passion, it indicates that you feel a sense of unhappiness, longings, and emptiness in real life, and your crush can make it go away.
11. You dream about your crush passing away
Dreams of death, in general, are symbols of transformation, change, and new beginnings. If you dream of your crush’s death, it could mean that your feelings for them are slowly fading. Death does not mean your crush is in danger, but instead, it is a reflection of your changing feelings for them.
12. You dream about your crush getting back to you
If you dream about a crush who was once your friend but not anymore, it means that you miss them. Getting back with them in your dream could indicate a reunion in real life too. It is also an indicator of a positive change in your life and could also have a spiritual meaning, indicating that you are likely to get in touch with your higher self.
13. You dream about your crush hugging you
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Hugging someone helps you comfort them. Similarly, when you dream of your crush hugging you, it means you seek comfort and adoration in real life. You probably lack the sense of security in life, and your crush hugging you provides you with safety and security. If you get this dream, try to find out what makes you feel threatened in real life.
14. You dream about your crush witnessing you lose a tooth
Dreams about losing a tooth are a reflection of fears and anxiety that you feel in real life. When you dream about losing a tooth in front of your crush, it indicates your insecurity about yourself. It signifies your inability to express your feelings to your crush because you fear rejection. Such a dream is an indication that you need to start working on yourself and build your self-confidence.
15. You dream about your crush separating from you
Separation from your crush could indicate the reality that they are probably in love with someone else. If you were upset about this and shed tears in your dream, it is a good sign as it means new beginnings. Whatever path you set out on after your crush has left you can bring you happiness and fulfillment.
16. You dream about your crush friend-zoning you
Dreams of being friend-zoned by your crush indicate a feeling of insecurity regarding them. You are afraid that your crush only sees you as a buddy and nothing more. Instead of fretting and losing your sleep over it, try speaking to your crush about how they feel about you. At least this way, you will know how they feel about you.
Quick tip17. You dream about your crush being a stranger
Dreaming about your crush being a stranger could be indicative of you becoming aware of something new in life. It could also mark a new beginning. Such a dream could also mean that you have been hiding yourself from the outer world and that you need to get out there and have some real fun.
18. You dream about your crush marrying someone else
Your crush marrying someone else in your dream indicates your feelings of loneliness, heartache, yearning, and hopelessness. It could mean that you have been trying to distance yourself from someone you once held close to your heart. It also indicates that there is some issue bothering you and that you need to make some serious changes in life.
19. You dream about your crush’s crush
Dreaming about someone your crush has a crush on indicates jealousy. You probably stress about not possessing the qualities that your crush’s crush has, which makes you feel inadequate and insecure. Do not bother yourself too much about it. If your crush is meant to be yours, they will be beside you no matter how attractive the other person is.
20. You dream about your crush not liking you
This could be a nightmare for anyone. But such a dream indicates your subconscious is telling you to move on in life and not run after your crush. It could be a positive indication of a change in your life, or it could also mean that your crush feels the opposite for you in real life.
21. You dream about your crush learning about your feelings for them
This dream could indicate the beginning of new changes in your life or a discovery about yourself.
22. You dream about your ex
Dreams about an ex-partner might indicate lingering feelings from the past relationship. Dreaming about an ex may be a part of your subconscious mind working through memories and emotions related to that relationship. Sometimes, ex-partners in dreams may not represent the actual person but instead symbolize certain qualities, experiences, or lessons associated with that individual.
23. You dream about an old crush
Dreaming about an old crush could be a result of nostalgia. Your mind may be revisiting a time in your life when you had strong feelings or experiences, and the old crush represents a symbol of that period. Dreams about old crushes might also be influenced by your current relationships and symbolize memories from the past.
What To Do When You Keep Dreaming About Your Crush
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Having frequent dreams about your crush is a sign of your innermost yearnings and desires coming forth. Such dreams help you get acquainted with your own self. When you think about the hidden meanings in your dreams, you will know it has less to do with your crush and more with your true self. It makes you aware of your fears and insecurities and tells you about your needs and wishes.
Your dreams can give you some clarity and direction in life. They can also tell you when you have met the wrong person and indicate that you need to make some important changes in your life. Some dreams also indicate an imminent change or event that is likely to happen in your life.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. Is dreaming about a crush good or bad?
Dreaming or fantasizing about your crush shows that you’ve been thinking a lot about them during your waking hours. But, it might not always be true, and you may get their dreams without any reason. Nonetheless, it can be a problem if thinking and imagining spending time with them is the only thing you’re doing because it may turn into an obsession.
2. Is dreaming of my crush a prediction of the future?
Dreams may sometimes give you a clear picture and direction in your life. But there is no scientific evidence to prove that dreams can predict your future (2).
3. Is it true that if I dream about my crush they like me?
Dreams are mental imagery that different factors, including your thoughts, desires, fantasies, and experiences, can influence. Dreaming about your crush means that you are thinking about them subconsciously. However, dreams are subjective and can have multiple interpretations. Therefore, they aren’t reliable for gaining insights into someone’s thoughts and feelings. Hence, dreaming about your crush doesn’t indicate that they like you. Clear communication is the best way to know what your crush thinks about you.
Dreams primarily represent the thoughts that preoccupy your mind during the day. They are derived from your wishes, desires, or fears. So, if you are attracted to a person, it is normal to have dreams about crushes. However, since your dreams arise from your subconscious mind, you do not control them. If some dreams are frequent, they may carry a deeper meaning. If you had a dream about your crush proposing to you, your mind might be urging you to express to your crush how you feel. If you dream about your crush cuddling you, you may be feeling insecure. Thus, dreams can be insightful. If you have persistent dreams about something, take heed of them. They may indicate the direction of your life.
Infographic: Making Your Crush Dream About You
You have had your crush constantly running on your mind when you are awake and living in your dreams when asleep. Therefore, it is obvious that you hope for them to dream about you. So if you want to make your crush’s “dream” come true, you could give the suggestions in our infographic a try. Illustration: Momjunction Design Team
Key Pointers
- If you are having frequent dreams about your crush, it may indicate your desires, fears, or insecurities regarding that person.
- When your subconscious longs for your crush, you may dream about hugging or kissing them.
- Some dreams may also disclose anxiety or the distress of being left alone.
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Personal Experience: Source
MomJunction articles include first-hand experiences to provide you with better insights through real-life narratives. Here are the sources of personal accounts referenced in this article.
i. Me and my second-grade crush;https://nadiaelawady.wordpress.com/2017/09/11/me-and-my-second-grade-crush/
References
- Wei Zhang and Benyu Guo. (2018). Freud’s Dream Interpretation: A Different Perspective Based on the Self-Organization Theory of Dreaming. DOI:
https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553/full - What Are Precognitive (Premonition) Dreams?
https://www.sleepfoundation.org/dreams/precognitive-dreams
