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Most of us have grown up with the notion that marriages are forever. We associate this sacred bond with the happily-ever-after of fairytales. So, of course, no one has a divorce on their mind when they are getting married. But, at times, breaking this bond becomes unfortunately inevitable. We all have a few non-negotiable expectations that pose a danger to marriage if not met.
While most couples go above and beyond to make their marriage work, divorces still happen. And, reflecting on your relationship to figure out what is going right and what isn’t might make all the difference. Knowing what may cause a conflict tomorrow can help you prevent it. See, if you two are committed to each other and love one another tremendously, you will be willing to give it a shot and work out your differences. And, if you are able to find a middle ground to your problems, isn’t the effort worth it?
For those who are about to tie the knot soon, you can start working towards divorce-proofing your bond from today itself. Every little thing from the length of your courtship to the honeymoon plans might impact your marriage. And, for those who are already married, the most important thing you need to do is “reconnect”.
While things might look difficult when you are going through a rough patch, there are some ways in which you can rekindle your bond. Here, at MomJunction, we bring you a few of these helpful tips:
1. Just Have Fun
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If you are looking to revive the bond with your partner, continue to have fun in the same manner you used to in the initial phases. With time, couples tend to get way too comfortable in each other’s company and become complacent. Make an effort to try out new stuff together, be it indoors or outdoors. Pick out a hobby together. Just grab your bags and go for an impromptu trip. Stay inside, cuddle up on your couch, and binge-watch that new TV show. Go for things that are enjoyable for the both of you. Especially the ones you cherish doing with each other. This way, you will always have something to talk about, which will make your bond even stronger.
2. Talk To Each Other
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Every time you argue or disagree with each other, it does not have to turn into a heated conversation or a war of words. Take a step back and listen to your spouse without interrupting his/her train of thoughts. Only after hearing him/her out, respond. When you communicate with your partner with compassion, it will help you understand your significant other much better. Also, if you keep your mind clear of any negative thoughts, you will be able to articulate your problems better. Share your grievances in a calm manner and try to reach a solution together.
3. Dream Together
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Yes, you will have your own dreams, something that you wish for yourself. But, also have a shared list of goals and desires. Knowing that you are moving towards a common goal together will bring you closer to each other. Sharing this dream together will make your bond much stronger. Also, it will help you understand your partner’s path toward achieving the goal. And, he will also understand your approach since you both share this dream together. It can be anything, maybe an early retirement plan to retreat to a quiet suburban town or building a beautiful home together.
In relationships, emotions are involved and nothing is very simple. It does take a lot of hard work. At times, we are so overwhelmed by the unfulfilled expectations that we forget noticing the good things. Don’t fret about what is going wrong. Relax and look at what is going right. And the problems that you have, can they be resolved? There are a lot of answers you will find when you think with a clear head.
If you know it is worth the effort, give it your all. Good luck!
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