Love is a divine feeling and topic of discussion all through the history of humankind. If you are curious to know facts about love, you are at the right place. Love has been interpreted and defined by poets, psychologists, biologists, philosophers, among others. However, as new studies and research keep surfacing on a daily basis, the perceptions and definitions of love have changed drastically over the years. According to studies, falling in love has neurological effects like cocaine. This post brings you some astonishing facts about this beautiful emotion called love. Read on.
20 Science-based Facts About Love
1. Love and lust: The difference lies in the eyes of the beholder.
You may think that your heart knows the best. However, love is not a precondition for sexual desire, and sexual desire may not always lead to love.
A study has shown that the pattern of eye gaze can reveal the difference between love and lust (sexual desire). As per the study, the eye gaze shifts based on the person’s goal—the feeling of love leads to more frequent eye fixations on the face than on the body, whereas in lust, the eye fixation is more profound on the body than on the face (1).
Yes, the eyes do reveal your intentions and interests.
2. Love acts like a drug.
Passionate love creates feelings of euphoria and exhilaration. Interestingly, the areas of the brain that are activated by these romantic feelings largely overlap the areas that are associated with reward, desire, addiction, and euphoric states. Romantic love and use of opioid drugs, such as cocaine, trigger similar regions in the brain, releasing oxytocin, vasopressin, and dopamine, which put one in a “feel-good” or “happy” state (2).
3. Hugging your partner can lead to less stress and a healthier heart.
Hugging a partner or spouse can lower blood pressure and increase oxytocin levels in premenopausal women (3). Oxytocin hormone is known to have anti-stress properties and promote healing and well-being (4).
4. A loving relationship means a healthy heart.
Being in a relationship or being married has its perks. A study of 3.5 million people has revealed that people who are married have lower rates of cardiovascular diseases when compared with people who are single, divorced, or widowed (5). In individuals aged 50 years and below, marriage is associated with 12% lower odds of any vascular disease (5).
5. Lovers’ hearts beat in sync.
“My heart beats for you…” Do you say that to your partner often? Scientifically, you may not be wrong.
According to a study conducted by researchers at the University of California, lovers’ hearts beat at the same rate. The study revealed that the heart rate and respiration rate of couples who are in a romantic relationship synchronize when they sit facing each other for around three minutes (6), (7). Interestingly, when the pairs are mixed, no syncing is observed.
6. Love can reduce your pain.
Love can act as a painkiller. Surprised? Well, when people are in love, their moods change and also their experiences with pain. A study conducted by the Stanford University School of Medicine shows that passionate, intense love can relieve pain similar to that of the painkillers or illicit drugs such as cocaine (8).
7. Long-term commitment and memory have a strong connection.
Do you remember every aspect of your relationship—how it moved forward, and what the important milestones were?
A study has reported that committed couples remember their relationship history, including the things that happened during each stage of their relationship more accurately than those couples in a strained relationship (9). The study says that the couples in the second group often choose to misremember things to avoid disappointment.
8. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
You may have often heard that long-distance relationships do not work out. However, there is a study that presents a different picture. The study has revealed that long-distance relationships are not only successful, but also help in developing trust and satisfaction between partners (10).
9. Couples start to look alike in appearance.
Opposites may not always attract. You may have noticed that some couples do look alike. Interestingly, a group of researchers from the University of Michigan found that couples grow to look more like each other after a certain period (around 25 years) (11). The happier the couple, the closer the similarity in their physical appearance.
This may happen because couples who stay together tend to mimic each other’s facial expressions and behavior. So, if your partner has a good sense of humor or laughs often, you will probably start doing so too.
10. Men fall in love faster than women.
It is a general misconception that women are more romantic and fall in love faster than men.
A study of 172 college students has shown that men fall in love sooner and say, “I love you” faster than women (12).
11. Romantic relationships can change your behavior.
Love has the power to change the behavior of partners in a relationship. According to a study that was carried out on 245 young couples for nine months, it was observed that being in a relationship decreased neuroticism and brought about a positive change to the personality of young couples (13). Perhaps the partners became optimistic and self-confident because of the positive emotions experienced in a relationship.
12. Laughter is the best medicine for love.
Do you and your partner crack up at each other’s jokes or laugh while watching comedy movies or series? This shared laughter can lead to more intimacy between the two of you.
The results of a study of 71 romantic couples have indicated that laughing or cracking up together is associated with closeness. Couples are more supportive of each other and satisfied in their relationship when they laugh together and are happy (14).
13. Love has healing powers.
When people say love and time can heal all wounds, they may not be wrong.
Researchers have observed an association between psychological distress and wound healing.
A study of 42 married couples, aged between 22 and 77 years has shown that wound healing is slower in couples with marital discord. In addition, it has shown that couples who are more hostile heal slower than couples who are less hostile (15).
14. Love hormone is what you need for headaches.
A group of researchers has shown that the use of intranasal oxytocin or “love hormone” spray can help alleviate migraine headaches. Moreover, this analgesic effect is shown to be stronger in patients with chronic migraine (16).
Results of the study showed that about half of the participants reported their headache reduced by half after four hours, with an additional 27 percent reporting no headache at all during the same duration.
15. Like the moon, love has phases.
Researchers from Harvard have shown that like the moon, love also develops in phases. The early phase of love is quite different from its later phase. It starts with obsession (serotonin levels are high at this time) but then cements into a relationship or a more mature form of love (oxytocin levels are high at this time) (17).
16. Love and lust activate different regions in the brain.
Researchers believe that lust and love involve different intentions, goals, and interests. Now, brain imaging studies have made it possible to map out the regions of the brain that are responsible for love and lust.
A study reveals that love and lust activate different areas of the striatum (a part of the brain structure). The area activated by lust is the same area that is usually activated by pleasurable things, such as sex or food. On the other hand, the area activated by love is associated with reward or pleasure and is also the same region that is associated with drug addiction (18).
17. Kissing can help you choose the right partner.
You may think that kissing is a way to show your love to your partner. However, it can do more important things, including helping you to choose the right partner.
A study on the potential effects of romantic kissing reported that kissing helped men and women determine their compatibility with a partner. Moreover, the frequency of kissing was associated with the quality of the relationship (19).
18. Love does happen at first sight.
A study has shown that people could reject or pursue romantic relationships with someone just by looking at them. As per the study, although this judgment is formed within seconds of seeing a potential partner, it also depends on determining physical and psychological compatibility (20).
19. Music can make or break a date.
Can music help you on your date night? The answer is yes. According to a report published in Psychology of Music, the feelings of interest and attraction in single men and women increase when music was playing in the background during their first meeting compared to when there is no music (21).
20. A broken heart is for real.
Did you know people can suffer from broken heart syndrome? According to the American Heart Association, broken heart syndrome, also called stress-induced cardiomyopathy or takotsubo cardiomyopathy, can occur in healthy individuals too (22).
It is characterized by sudden, intense chest pain due to an increase in the levels of the stress hormones. This condition is sometimes mistaken as a heart attack. It can occur due to various factors, including the death of a loved one, divorce, breakup or physical separation, and betrayal or romantic rejection (22).
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What is the strongest form of love?
Unconditional love may be considered the strongest form of love where nothing is expected in return. Forgiveness may also be considered a strong form of love.
2. What are the three stages of love?
The three stages of love may be lust or infatuation, attraction and building trust, and finally, attachment or developing loyalty.
3. How soon is too soon to say ‘I love you?’
It is important to know each other before deciding to commit. It may take at least three to five months to explore each other and identify compatibility. Saying ‘I love you’ before that may be too soon.
These intriguing facts about love show how this emotion can change our lives. Love is as effective in producing euphoria as some addictive drugs that trigger the brain to release ‘happy hormones.’ Love in the form of hugs and kisses is a stress buster and can extend your life by improving your heart health. No doubt, research around love is often sensationalized. The bond of passionate love can change your behavior, make your hearts beat in sync, and even develop similarities in appearance. Although hormones play a crucial role in your perception of love, how long-lasting and loving your love story will be, depends on your choices.
- When you hug the person you love, it acts as a stressbuster.
- Unlike the common misconception that women are more emotional, men tend to fall in love much faster.
- Laughing together keeps your relationship healthy and helps you maintain the bond.
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