Father-Daughter Relationship: Why It Is Important & How It Evolves

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Fathers are their daughters’ superheroes. They can do anything to bring a smile to their daughter’s face, making father-daughter relationships unique and wholesome. The bond reflects on the daughter’s personality, which develops through the various stages of the girl’s life. A father’s influence helps shape the daughter’s upbringing and life, so it is important to protect this relationship. So, we are here to help you improve this special bond and keep it strong. Including various tips and suggestions, you can also take a test to find out how strong and special your bond is with your daughter.

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6 Quick Reasons Why Father Daughter Relationship Is Important

Father's involvement helps children in studies.

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Development a lists have focused on early father-daughter relationships as an important aspect of psychological adjustments in a later stage. An emotional attachment with their father benefits girls throughout their lives.

Here are a few more reasons why the relationship with her father is crucial for a girl:

  1. Fathers are role-models for their daughters. They lay the foundation for love, trust, loyalty, and security.
  1. A father sets a standard for their daughters by which they will judge other men who come into their life.
  1. A good bond with her father helps a girl to develop self-esteem and confidence.
  1. Girls, whose fathers are involved in their education, do better than those whose dads are not involved.
  1. A father’s influence in early years helps daughters have a better career; they are more achievement-oriented and successful.
  1. A loving father helps his daughter love her growing and changing body and feel good about herself.

The relationship is not static but changes as the girl develops from a little girl to a young woman.

Influence Of The Father In The Three Phases Of A Girl’s Life

Every father-daughter relationship goes through three different phases of life. Some are easy and fun while some are difficult but important.

First phase: Influence of a dad during childhood

First phase, also known as the hero dad-princess daughter phase, is an easy and fun phase, where dad is the superhero and daughter is his little darling princess. Here is how a man influences his daughter at this age:

1. Mental and emotional development:

Emotional attachment with fathers benefits them throughout life.

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Involvement of fathers during early stages of a girls’ life helps in her mental and emotional development.

Studies (1) have shown that toddlers who are securely attached to their dads are better at solving problems. They are able to manage school stress better with the presence of fathers at home. Daughters achieve academic success with father’s warmth and affection. Girls exhibit less anxiety and withdrawal behaviors if they are close to their father.

Develop-mentalists have focused on early father- daughter relationships as an important aspect of psychological adjustments in later stages. Having an emotional attachment with fathers benefits them throughout their life.

A large-scale study (2) has shown that girls, whose fathers were absent during the first five years, are more likely to be depressed in adolescence compared to girls whose dads left them when they were aged five to ten years. If the wound is severe, then daughters can have low self esteem and trust issues.

Research finds
Involving together in physical activities will enhance the father and daughter relationship, besides improving the daughter’s socio-emotional well-being (7).

2. Sense of security:

The men in the house are considered the source of strength and power for that family. Security is vital for girls and if she gets this protection from her dad, then it enables her to thrive in a relatively safe environment. She will be free of inhibitions and it helps to develop self-confidence.

Second phase: Influence of a father in adolescent years

This phase is also known as dorky dad-adolescent daughter phase. As a father, you will not enjoy the second phase much because your daughter will keep rolling her eyes to everything you say.

This phase mostly lasts from her 11th birthday to her 21st birthday. The second phase is confusing but important as she is figuring out the world and herself. Fathers prefer to step back but this is the time to step in and help her raise her self-esteem. Teach her about men and the world she will be facing in the near future. Here is how a father guides his teenage daughter in the matters of her changing body, education and psychological traits.

3. Moral guidance:

Parents’ communication and connection will help girls in making wise decisions. Adolescents get attracted to bad influences; some start experimenting with premarital sex, and indulge in drugs and alcohol. A father serves as a primary caregiver and provider, imparting stability and moral guidance in a child’s life. He helps in guiding his girl through her troublesome teen years.

4. Body image:

A study done in Canada (3) shows that daughters, who have a good relationship with their fathers have fewer instances of body dissatisfaction, depression, and low self-esteem. They develop healthy eating habits and avoid eating disorders. Also, a girl gains confidence about her body image if her father appreciates her appearance.

5. Confidence:

Fathers’ involvement plays a vital role in daughters’ self-confidence.

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Fathers’ involvement plays a vital role in daughters’ self-confidence. Fathers who are affectionate towards their little girls provide them a sense of self worth. If fathers ignore them or treat them harshly, the girls could develop low self-confidence and have self-doubt.

Summer is a certified self-discovery coach and guides fellow mothers through motherhood. She grew up without a father and lived with a stepdad who she had no father-daughter relationship with as a little girl. However, things have taken a positive turn in recent times. She says, “I know if I had had a father in my life at a young age telling me I was valued by him or pointing out my best qualities, I would not have searched in all the wrong places to find a guy to fill that void (i).”

The absence of fathers or inability to deal with conflicts with fathers leads to low self-esteem in young women.

6. Education:

A study done by the US Department of Education has concluded that fathers who are actively involved in their daughters’ academics were more likely to have straight As than girls whose fathers didn’t pay attention to them. Well-fathered daughters had better verbal skills and intellectual functioning.

Absence of dads in daughters’ lives can lead to difficulties in the learning process. Daughters with absent or uninvolved dads usually perform poorly in school.

Point to ponder
Girls who share a good relationship with their fathers tend to be regular to school, more interested in extracurricular activities, and have strong mathematical skills (8).

Third phase: Influence of the father in adulthood

This is the best phase, which is also known as the world’s greatest dad – adult daughter phase. In this phase both can communicate and understand each other. This is the time a father should guide his girl in her career, love and marriage.

7. Career:

A man helps his daughter to follow her dreams.

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Dads help their girls think logically, solve problems, become competitive and become goal-oriented. A man helps his daughter believe in herself and encourages her to follow her dreams.

8. Romantic relationship:

Daughters learn what to look for in a romantic relationship by observing their fathers’ behaviors and actions. Tests have proven that if a daughter has a healthy and loving bond with her father then it’s easier for her to find a caring, loving boyfriend or spouse in the later stage.

A father sets a standard for his daughter, and she judges the men in her life based on those standards. Summer says that hearing her father’s perspective about boys was as important as listening to her mother’s side of things, as her father was once a boy himself. She says, “If I had heard my father tell me how I never needed to be something different to gain a boy’s affection, I would have probably made better choices in men as a young adult. If my father had told me the values a boy should have for a young lady, I would have set better standards.”

Happy marriages are associated with warm and secure child-parent relationships. A girl tends to be anxious, insecure and aggressive if her parents have marital problems.

9. Handling stress:

There is an intriguing link between how daughters deal with stress as adults and the kind of bond they had with their fathers during their growing stage. A woman who does not have a good relationship with her father had lower morning cortisol level than normal (4).

Cortisol is also known as the stress hormone. Low levels of cortisol appear to make a person sensitive and overly reactive when faced with stressful situations. Girls with warm, supportive fathers have lower cortisol levels.

Now you know how important it is for your daughter to have you in her life. You must be doing all the right things, but may want to work on it further to build on the relationship.

Ways To Improve Your Bond With Your Daughter

Here we help you with some tips:

When she is a little girl:

  1. Respond quickly to your baby’s cries. Hold her in your arms, sing or talk to her often.
  1. Little girls love praises from their fathers. Compliment her when she achieves some task, no matter how small it is, for example tying shoe laces or brushing her teeth. Give positive feedback when she cannot complete the tasks.
  1. Participate in activities together, particularly sports.
  1. Be involved with your girl’s school work, her projects, and exam preparation.
  1. Meet her friends; help them organize a slumber party or a get-together.

When she is a teenager or an adult:

Always talk encouragingly.

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  1. Invest time in your daughter: There is no quality without quantity. You need to spend ordinary time with her to make it extraordinary.
  1. Go on a drive with her, just the two of you.
  1. Teenage girls need their space and privacy, provide her the space she wants but always be available when she needs you or when you feel she might get into trouble.
  1. Trust her.
  1. Things you say to her last a lifetime for her. Therefore, always talk encouragingly and give positive feedback. Criticizing her will only hamper her self-esteem and confidence.
  1. Share your emotions with her, so that she will share hers with you.
  1. When you are with her, pay complete attention to her. Show interest in her life and problems. Be sensitive to her needs.
  1. Set appropriate ground rules and also grant her the right amount of freedom from time to time.

A father is the head of the family, and the children look up to him for support, guidance, and mentorship. We know how a man influences his daughter to have a better life. And an active dad goes out of his way to keep his little girl happy.

But what happens when that most important person is not there in a girl’s life?

A Father’s Absence And Its Effect On Daughters

Children may not have a father for several reasons including a divorce, legal separation, incarceration, or death. A dad can also be absent in a child’s life as he is busy with work or is emotionally unavailable.

The effects of the father’s absence are highly detrimental to the overall well being of girls. Fatherless daughters are deprived of affection, confidence and self worth.

  1. An absent father or father figure creates a void in a girl’s life, and others try to influence her actions and attitude. Such girls allow others to define them. According to authors Franklin B. Krohn and Zoe Bogan, girls who do not have fathers become desperate to have men in their life and long for their attention.
  1. The absence of the father triggers hormonal changes in girls which jump starts puberty (5). This along with other behavioral problems could be the reasons why fatherless daughters have early menstruation and teenage pregnancy.
  1. Girls seek support from their father in their academics, especially in mathematics (6). Krohn and Bogan say: “Mathematics is typically associated with masculinity therefore females without father figures may have less interest in the subject matter. Females are discouraged from pursuing a career in mathematics and father absence contributes to this phenomenon by not providing them with a male role model to stimulate interest.”

A father-daughter relationship is so crucial for a girl’s development that his absence cannot be filled by anyone. Therefore, it is never too late to build the bridge between you and your daughter.

Ways To Fix A Broken Father Daughter Bond

  1. Healing starts once you share your sorrows with others, preferably friends or a therapist. Share your pain and wounds by talking or perhaps writing about it.
  1. Don’t let the past dictate your present or future; you have the power to control your own life.
  1. Daughters need to know whatever happened was not their fault. She was not responsible for your absence from her life.
  1. Talk to your daughter. Tell her how you missed her. Ask about her emotions, and how she coped with your absence.
Quick tip
Pen down your feelings in a letter or send a message or email to tell your daughter what she means to you. In addition, show interest in her life’s happenings and buy her thoughtful gifts to display your care and adoration towards her.
  1. Give confidence to your daughter that you will be there in every walk of her, and will not desert her again.
  1. Have patience, and give time to your daughter to come to terms with reality. She may not readily accept you, but your perseverance can win her confidence.

Your daughter will recognize and understand that you are making sincere efforts to get closer to her. But for some girls, this relationship can never be rebuilt. In fact, they would shred at the mention of their father. Why?

Inappropriate Relationship Between A Father And Daughter

Unfortunately, incestuous relationships happen between a father and daughter. Incest is a sexual relationship between close family relatives. This inappropriate relationship between a dad and a daughter can give the girl a lifetime of trauma. It has a huge impact on her psychological growth.

It may also lead to emotional problems, borderline personality disorder or substance abuse, or other psychological symptoms. She might grow to feel worthless unless she engages in a sexual relationship with a man.

The inappropriate incestuous relationship brews anger and poor self image in the girl. She develops hatred for both the parents.

Instances of fathers taking advantage of their daughter’s innocence and vulnerability are not many but they are not rare too.

However, such episodes should not make us lose our faith in the pious dad-daughter relationship, because for every one such instance we have innumerable examples of loving fathers who can do anything for their daughter’s happiness.

Do you belong to that clan of dads who are friends with their girls? Take this test.

Quiz: 10 questions to check how strong your father-daughter bond is.

1. How will you describe your relationship with your father/ daughter?

  • a) We can’t stand to be in the same room. (0)
  • b) We argue sometimes but otherwise we get along. (5)
  • c) We are extremely close. (10)

2. If you are experiencing some kind of turmoil in your life, do you explain it to your father/daughter?

  • a) Yes, if it will help the situation. (10)
  • b) No, it is none of her/his business. (0)
  • c) Only if it directly impacts her/him. (5)

3. Is your time with you father/daughter happy?

  • a) Yes, we have fun together. (10)
  • b) No, she/he is impossible to get along with. (0)
  • c) It depends on the mood. (5)

4. Do you ever feel disrespected by your father/daughter?

  • a) Sometimes I do, but I know that he/she loves me. (5)
  • b) Not really, we respect each other a lot. (10)
  • c) Yes, every time, I get respect from strangers but never from him/her. (0)

5. Which emotion comes to you first when you think of your father/ daughter?

  • a) Joy (10)
  • b) Anger (0)
  • c) Respect (5)

6. Can you name three of your daughter’s/father’s friends?

  • a) Yes (10)
  • b) No (0)
  • c) Can name 1 or 2 (5)

7. I help my daughter with her extra curricular activities.

  • a) Always (10)
  • b) Never (0)
  • c) Sometimes (5)

8. Your father criticizes you for something:

  • a) You try to win his respect back. (5)
  • b) You try to soften him with your winning smile. (10)
  • c) You pretend not to hear. (0)

9. What happens when your new partner meets your dad?

  • a) You watch your father and exchange knowing glances. (10)
  • b) You watch your father closely to see if he approves of him or not. (5)
  • c) You do not expect much from your father. (0)

10. How often do you argue with your father?

  • a) You argue quite regularly but it never amounts to anything major. (5)
  • b) You rarely argue at all. (10)
  • c) You don’t really speak that often to argue. (0)

Best friends (score: above 60)

You and your daughter are like two peas in a pod. You are the person your daughter will turn to when things get difficult. You both share similar interests and like to spend time together. There might be a time when you do not agree with her but that only strengthens the bond. You respect each other and you will depend on each other for love and support

You get along (score: 35-55)

You both don’t share the best of relationship but you get along with each other. There is respect but you prefer not to share much. Helping hand will always be available if need be. You both prefer to maintain a safe distance and have need-based communication. There is still scope to improve your relationship. Spending time together doing activities you both like and communicating often will help you build a better bonding.

Distant relationship (score: below 30)

You both do not want to be in the same room for long. She doesn’t expect you to understand her or help her out in difficult situations and vice versa. You both crave affection and understanding from each other.

Beautiful Quotes On Father Daughter Relationships

To a father growing old nothing is dearer than a daughter. -Euripides

No one in this world can love a girl more than her father. –Michael Ratnadeepak

Certain is it that there is no kind of affection so purely angelic as of a father to a daughter. In love to our wives there is desire; to our sons, ambition; but to our daughters there is something which there are no words to express. -Joseph Addison

No one is able to make the female a queen except her father. -Arab proverb

It is admirable for a man to take his son fishing, but there is a special place in heaven for the father who takes his daughter shopping. -John Sinor

A father is always making his baby into a little woman. And when she is a woman he turns her back again. -Enid Bagnold

I am a princess not because I have a prince, but because my father is a king. -Anonymous

The reason why daughters love their dad the most is…that there is at least one man in the world who will never hurt her. -Anonymous

A girl’s first true love is her father. -Marisol Santiago

When my father didn’t have my hand…he had my back. -Linda Poindexter


Family circle
When I am born, you are here
In your eye, I see a tear
Times flies and already I’m two
“Look daddy, I can tie my shoe!”
Before you know it, I’m five
Everyday, you thank god I’m alive
Pretty soon, I turn eight
You tell me I’m never allowed to date
I’m already twelve in my preteen years
Which means yo’ll help me with all my new fears
Now fourteen with my permit to drive
Waiting to hit the big one-five
Too early comes sixteen, with my license now
It went by too fast, you just ask how
You want to meet my boyfriend when I’m eighteen
I pray to god that you’re not too mean
The same guy two years later asks for my hand
I’m relieved when you say, that’s just grand
About a year later, you walk me down the aisle
Through all the tears, you bare a smile
Three years later, you’re gonna be a grandfather
You show love and pride for your new granddaughter
Another year down the road
Mom dies, oh the many tears that flowed
You’re not doing so well without her
Less than a year later, you forgot all about her
Alzheimer’s sets in and it scares me so
Not long after, you decide to go
Now I’m regretting not saying goodbye
Every time I think about it, I start to cry
The cycle has begun again
It has started over with little Megan
The other day, she turned two
And said, “Look, daddy, I can tie my shoe!”
– by Melissa G. Nicks

He never looks for praises
He’s never one to boast
He just goes on quietly working
For those he loves the most
His dreams are seldom spoken
His wants are very few
And most of the time his worries
Will go unspoken too
He’s there…a firm foundation
Through all our storms of life
A sturdy hand to hold to
In times of stress and strife
A true friend we can turn to
When times are good or bad
One of our greatest blessings,
The man that we call Dad.
– Karen K. Boyer

How was your experience seeing your daughter grow? If you are woman, what has been your relationship with your father? Let us know about your experiences in the comment section below.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What are the common barriers to a healthy father-daughter relationship?

Common barriers that prevent a healthy father-daughter relationship are lack of communication, differing views and opinions due to the generation gap, emotional detachment, failure to meet expectations, and past traumas.

2. When should a father let go of control in a father-daughter relationship?

A father should let go of control in a father-daughter relationship when the daughter reaches adulthood. It is the time when she will want to make her own decisions, and it is important for her that her father not only guides her but also trusts and supports her choices.

A father is his daughter’s biggest supporter and a constant source of inspiration. We hope that this post on a father and daughter’s relationship has helped you appreciate it even more. It is essential that a father is actively involved in their daughter’s life and have a strong emotional relationship with them. This is important as it helps in boosting the daughter’s self-confidence and gives them a sense of security. So enjoy the journey of watching your little princess grow and cherish every moment with her.

Infographic: Influence Of Fathers On Daughters

Every daughter considers her father to be her first love. Fathers play a crucial role in shaping their daughters’ lives through their presence and involvement. Check out the infographic below to learn about the father’s influence on different stages of a daughter’s life.

father influence on different phases of daughter life (infographic)

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Key Pointers

  • The father has a crucial role in his daughter’s psychological and emotional growth.
  • A father’s presence can positively influence his daughter’s perception of love, security, and trust.
  • Active fatherly involvement can have a positive impact on a daughter’s academic performance during her schooling.
  • Father-daughter relationships undergo three distinct phases, each with their unique influences and impacts.
  • The absence of a father can have highly negativel effects on the overall well-being of girls.

Check out this video to learn about creating a strong father-daughter relationship. Get tips on fostering a loving bond and building a lasting connection.

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