10 Useful Tips To Help Your Teens Solve Their Problems

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Teenage is a rollercoaster of emotions and challenges. As parents, it would be helpful to provide them with some useful tips to help your teens solve their problems and make them responsible and strong individuals.

If you continue to handle their problems like when they were a child, they may not learn to overcome tough situations. Alternatively, some may not want your help even though they need it. Situations like this can leave you helpless. Hence, teaching them certain skills, such as focusing and understanding the problem and developing the patience to listen to useful advice, can be helpful.

If your teen learns to be calm and focus on an effective solution, they can easily handle difficult situations. So teach your child to be smart and brave when dealing with adverse situations. Read on to learn some constructive advice and tips to help your teenager solve their problems.

Steps To Solving Teenage Problems And Solutions:

The following steps will help your child to solve most of the problems with ease.

1. Identify The Problem:

The first step is to teach your child to identify the problem. Ask him about the current situation and how he wants it to turn out. Also, encourage him to approach the problem with a positive attitude.

2. Focus:

Tell him to focus on the issue, not the person or the emotion. It will help him face the problem bravely rather than suffer from anxiety and frustration.

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3. Listen:

Listening is very critical to problem-solving skills. Tell your child to listen without arguing or debating. Encourage him to use statements like ‘I need, I want, I feel’.

4. Generate A Solution:

Sit down with your teenager and encourage him think about all the possible ways to solve the problem at hand. Ask your child to reflect on his experience during an earlier crisis. Your child may come up with a variety of solutions. Some of them will also be unrealistic. Let him explore his creative abilities. Do not discourage him.

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5. Evaluate The Solution:

Teach your child to evaluate the pros and cons of each of the possible solutions. Help him omit the options in which the negatives outweigh the positives. It will help your child sort out the most promising solution.

[ Read: Building Self Confidence In Teenagers ]

6. Put The Idea Into Practice:

Now tell your child to implement the idea that can resolve the crisis. Encourage him to give his best and see how it works. Your goal should be to allow your child to solve the problems independently, without much intervention.

7. Evaluate The Outcome:

Lastly, evaluate the outcome of the solution. The solution may take time to work. Also, at times you cannot solve problems in one attempt. So tell him to try all the possible solutions and prepare backup plans. It will also teach your child to not give up easily in life. Then ask your child the following questions:

  • What has or hasn’t worked well?
  • What can be done differently to make the solution work more smoothly?

[ Read: How To Communicate With Teenagers ]

Benefits:

  1. Problem-solving skills will teach the teens to find constructive solutions to problems. It will strengthen your child’s empathy skills. These abilities are valuable in both social and work situations.
  2. It will help your child learn about the positive implications of another person’s intentions.
  3. Problem-solving skills will teach your child to listen and think calmly and to respect the opinions of other people.
  4. Kids do not have the skills to solve their problems by birth. We have to help them to develop these skills. When teens inculcate the skills to resolve conflicts by themselves, they will feel more independent, mature and responsible. It will help them face the bigger challenges that life throws at them confidently.

Instead of being a strict parent be a friend for your teen, so than he can count on you for advice without any inhibitions.

If you have a teen at home, tell us how you helped him turn a trouble-shooter. Please share your experience and tips here.

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Mitha Shameer

Mitha is passionate about writing on topics related to women and children. She loves to present the brighter side of life to her readers in the form of her articles. She writes on games, stories, arts & craft, celebrations and more for MomJunction. When she isn't glued to online shopping websites, she loves reading books and watching F.R.I.E.N.D.S.