5 Signs To Know How Soon Is Too Soon To Propose

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You have met this wonderful person, and you both have made an instant connection. You like spending time together, and you are sure that you both have feelings for each other. You might now want to make the next move and must be wondering how soon to propose to them because you are excited.

When it comes to proposing to someone, it is always best to follow your instincts. However, before popping the big question, you should be sure that they are the one for you. In this post, we delve into the topic and answer all your questions.

How Soon Is Too Soon To Propose?

There is no right or wrong answer for this question as it differs for every couple. However, here are a few indicators that it is too soon for you to propose.

1. You and your partner are not on the same page

You may be completely smitten by your partner and do not want to waste any time before making them yours. But does your partner feel the same for you? If your partner shows no interest in making a long-term commitment or has told you that they need time before they make a decision, it means you are thinking too soon about your proposal.

2. You have hardly spent any time together

A new relationship is exciting and beautiful. If it has been only a few weeks or months to your relationship, then it is too soon to propose to your partner. In the first few months, one is likely to be at their best behavior. It is only with time that you get to see all aspects of a relationship and then understand if you are compatible or not.

3. You haven’t even had your first fight

As a couple, if you never had an argument or a fight, it means one of you is silently giving in to the other partner’s demands, which can eventually lead to resentment and frustration. Disagreements and occasional tiffs are a sign of a healthy relationship. The real test of a relationship is being able to argue and disagree without hurting each other. Only when a couple knows how to fight and reconcile, do they last long together.

4. You do not feel a connection

Your partner is lovely, and you like everything about them, but you still do not feel a strong connection. This means it is too soon to propose. A romantic bond takes time and effort to form and strengthen. If you feel that the bond is missing in your relationship, spend more time with your partner and get to know their values and goals which can create a stronger connection.

5. You don’t trust your partner

Your partner must be beautiful to look at and fun to talk to, which is why you adore them. However, somehow you do not trust them completely. For some reason, you have this fear that they might leave you or break your heart. Also, your friends may have verbally confirmed this fear to you. If there is no trust in your relationship, it is difficult to be open and vulnerable which means it is certainly not the one to be pursued for long-term commitment.

Should You Date Before Getting Engaged?

Yes. Dating before getting engaged helps you understand your partner a little better. If you are clear about what you want in a partner, then dating gives you an idea of whether the person is suitable for you or not. Also, if things do not work out, you can call it off.

How Long Should You Date Before Getting Engaged?

It is never too soon to take the plunge with the right person. As a couple, you should spend enough time understanding each other’s temperament, values, preferences, and goals.

Average dating time before engagement depends on the individuals and the rapport they share. It could be one or two years for some or even five or six years. Some may even connect within a few weeks or months. It is when you know the most about your partner and are willing to spend the rest of your life with them. And when they feel the same with you, an engagement is the right step forward.

5 Signs To Know The Right Time To Propose

Sometimes even after spending a lot of time together, you may still not be sure if it is the right time to propose. Here are some signs giving you a thumbs up to propose to your partner.

1. You are not nervous

If making a formal long-term commitment scares you, it means you are still not ready for the big plunge. However, if proposing to your partner does not make you nervous at all, and you are eager to propose most romantically, it means it is the right time for you to ask the big question.

2. You are aware of one another’s financial standing

“Money should not matter in love” is a romantic notion but not a practical one. After all, you do not want to spend your married life paying off your partner’s debts, right? When you and your partner know each other’s financial situation, it means you are serious about the relationship and are comfortable with each other’s side. So, the official proposal can be your next milestone.

3. You like them the way they are

Not wanting to change anything about your partner is a big sign of acceptance in a relationship. It shows how well you get along with each other. Also, you know what you are getting into and are willing to compromise and adjust to be with the one person because you love them. And where there is love, there can be commitment too.

4. You have your family’s approval

Families play a huge role in making the big decision in your life. If they do not approve of your choice, maintaining a harmonious relationship can become difficult. But if they approve of your partner, things will be a lot smoother. It is a big sign of popping the question as no big hurdle threatens your relationship.

5. You cannot imagine your life without them

Lastly, if thinking about a life without your partner seems impossible and unbearable, it means you have found the right person for yourself. You have found a person who knows your good and bad sides, and you have qualms about sharing even your weakness with them. You wish to achieve your dreams with them by your side and know that they have your back in testing times.

Love cannot be measured in time. When you love your partner and trust them , it means you have advanced in your relationship. Reaching this stage can take you a few weeks or even several years. The right time to propose is when you see signs your partner is ready to accept your proposal, and you know in your heart that this is indeed the right time.

Key Pointers

  • Before proposing to your special someone, be sure they are compatible with you and willing to commit for the rest of their lives.
  • It may not be the perfect time to propose if you haven’t spent much time together or if you lack trust and connection.
  • There is no fixed duration one should date before committing. It solely depends on you and your partner.
  • Their shortcomings don’t influence your love, you’re confident, and there are many other signals that it’s time to propose.

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Jason Polk

Jason Polk is a licensed couple’s therapist. He’s a Level II PACT (Psychological Approach to Couples Therapy) therapist and has been trained in the RLT (Relational Life Therapy) model. He’s a certified HOCII (Healing Our Core Issues Institute) therapist. Having experienced his own difficulties in relationships, he pursued a career in couples counseling to learn how to have a healthy... more

Ratika Pai

Ratika has experience writing in various fields including finance, education, lifestyle, and entertainment. After her masters degree in Commerce, she acquired a PG Diploma in Communication and Journalism from Mumbai University. She is inquisitive about human relationships and likes to study people and how they manage their relationships, during her freetime. At MomJunction, Ratika writes insightful and informative articles on... more