Liking someone is a beautiful feeling. You wish to meet that person again, but asking them out could be nerve-wracking. If you like a guy, you may have a fear of rejection. Also, the possibility of losing a friend can make it difficult to open your heart out.
But do not worry as there are some unique and interesting ways to do it. You can be cute, flirty, and even upfront. Be smart and confident so that you do not look desperate. Read this post to know the different ways to ask a guy out and win over him.
21 Ways To Ask A Guy Out
It may seem difficult initially, but it is simple to ask a guy out. Here are a few ways that make it easy for you.
1. Text innocent messages
Asking in person can be scary for some, so why not ask him over a sweet text. You can send him cryptic or incomplete messages such as:
I think I’m in love and you know this person very well.
I think we were a couple in our last birth because we are too compatible.
Let’s go out….oops nevermind.
You know I like yo……yogurt?
2. Send cute notes
You can try something cute like pasting post-its secretly on his desk or someplace where only he can see. You can write ‘I like you,’ ‘Looking good, my handsome’ or something you wish to tell him. Then text him saying you left something for him to read. He might feel excited and impressed by your sweet attempt.
3. Write a sweet poem
If you have strong feelings for this guy, put them down in the form of poetry. It does not have to be the best poem. Even a silly verse expressing your feelings for him will do. Conclude it by asking him to reply through an e-mail or by meeting you at a particular place at a specific time.
4. Seek his help
A simple way of asking him out is by seeking his help with something you think he would do well. Once done, offer him a treat at a coffee house or lunch at your favorite restaurant. Make sure you don’t look desperate for a date.
5. Tell him you are hungry
In case you share a good camaraderie with him, walk up to him and express your hunger. Tell him you hate eating by yourself or that you wish to try the new restaurant. If he joins you, you have your date. Talk to him and get to know him more before revealing your feelings.
6. Ask for a gift
When he wishes you on a festive day or your birthday, cutely ask him for a gift. He might feel flustered at first but if he asks you what you want, tell him you want to go on a date with him as his girlfriend.
7. Offer him an ‘extra ticket’
Find out about a game or event of his interest and tell him you have an extra ticket for it. If he accompanies you, you’ve got your date.
8. Hang out casually
If you think the guy likes you, ask him to hang out with you. You can call him to a food joint or a coffee shop for a conversation. When you feel the time’s right, tell him what you feel for him.
9. Try using a pick-up line
Not all women use pick-up lines, so using one on him may come as a surprise. It’s okay if the line is silly. Your aim should be to make him smile and ask him to go out with you.
10. Find out any common interests
The guy you like could be into guitars or books. If you two share common interests, it can make a good conversation. You will also have his undivided attention, and he will warm up to you before you share your interest in him.
11. Be funny
You may be good friends with him, and you often hang out together. Try telling him your feelings in a light and funny way. If he takes you seriously, that’s your chance to seize it. If not, let it be a joke to avoid any awkwardness between you.
12. Flirt with him
You can flirt with him by asking questions such as ‘do you have a girlfriend’ or ‘would you like to have a girlfriend?’ Based on his response, try to gauge the situation. If you get a positive reply, go ahead and tell him you like him.
13. Ask a friend to introduce you
In case the guy is not directly approachable, try to find out common friends. Ask them to mediate and introduce you to him. Before meeting him, prep yourself up by asking about his interests, likes, and dislikes.
14. Play a fun game
Find out what he feels about you by asking him a set of questions as a part of a game. Start by asking casual questions and then go ahead and ask about the kind of girl he likes. If you feel he is giving positive answers, ask him out on a date.
15. Ask a friend to be your ‘wing woman’
If you cannot approach him directly, ask your friend to do it for you. Your best friend may not feel nervous approaching a guy and play a cupid. She can tell him it would be great if you two could talk and know each other.
16. Place a note in his book or CD
Borrow a book or a CD from him and when you return it, place a note inside it. Write your feelings for him and mention that it is okay if he does not share the same feelings that you feel for him.
17. Research about his passion
Find out what interests him the most and use it as a pretext to talk to him. For instance, if he likes guitars, you can approach him for guitar lessons. If he offers to teach you, you get a chance to spend more time with him before confessing your feelings.
18. Ask for a group date
If asking him out on a date alone seems uncomfortable, try planning a group date. You can even get yourself invited to a group outing where he would be joining. Once together, strike a conversation and try not to leave his side. You can easily talk to him in the company of your friends, and if he does not show interest, you can safely move on to speak to other friends.
19. Trick him into asking you out
Guys like to save the day for someone. So, if you tell him that you have been wanting to visit the new bowling alley or restaurant but haven’t been able to find someone to go with, chances are he might offer to take you.
20. Offer him an escape
Suppose you are in a group and you find him bored or disinterested, offer to take him to a better party or place where you know he might enjoy. Once you are outside, take him to a nice quiet place and tell him you wanted to spend time alone with him.
21. Be upfront
Sometimes, being upfront works. If you have been in touch with this guy for a while, and you think he likes you too but is too shy to ask you out, be confident and ask him out directly. He might be pleasantly surprised by your gesture and might be more than happy to oblige.
Asking a guy out may be difficult but remember to act cool. You may be on tenterhooks waiting for his reply or sweating bullets before approaching him but do not show it through your demeanor or speech. Approach him with confidence and see how you sail through it. And in case things do not go your way, don’t feel disheartened. Brush it off and move on to find the right guy for yourself.