How To Flirt With A Guy: 25 Tips That Always Work

How To Flirt With A Guy 25 Tips That Always Work

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Flirting is a skill you either have inherently or develop with practice. If you have a crush on a guy and wish to have his attention, you can try flirting with him. Even if you are not naturally a great flirt, you can become one by practicing a few tips and tricks of flirting.

But first, remember that flirting should be healthy and fun but not uncomfortable for either of you. Secondly, you have to exhibit confidence. It’s okay if you blurt out something you did not intend to. All you have to do is act confident, and your crush will never know you made a mistake. Read below for some more ways to flirt with a guy over texts and in person.

How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text?

Flirting with a guy in person can be quite scary for someone who has hardly any experience. So, why not try flirting through texts first? Texting gives you more time to plan and think so you can avoid making mistakes.

1. Use a nickname

To grab the attention of your crush, message him using a nickname. It could be of a famous personality he admires or how others know him. You could also come up with a creative name that he can relate to. The nickname will draw his attention, and he might feel more comfortable talking to you.

2. Throw a question

When you ask a guy a question, it implies you want to keep the conversation going, and his opinion matters to you. Start with general questions before moving on to flirty ones. Ensure you ask open-ended questions. For instance, start with ‘What do you think about last night’s episode?’ before moving on to ‘Which character do you think is like me?’

3. Mention something that happened

If you study or work together, you can mention something that happened during the day. For instance, if there was a fun session in which he was asked to sing in front of everyone, text him, ‘When I shut my eyes, I felt like I was listening to John Legend. You sang that well.’ It’s okay to flatter him a little.

4. Say something funny

Men love women with a sense of humor. If he finds you funny, he will be engaged in the conversation. Comment on common interests. For instance, tell him, ‘I think the Lannisters must hate turtles.’ He may ask ‘why?’ and you can reply, ‘Because they cannot stab them in the back.’ If he laughs, it shows he had a good time with you, and he may want to talk more to you.

5. Create some suspense

Get him a little excited. Tell him you have something to share but will do so only when he meets you. Send him a text, saying, ‘You will not believe what happened in the hallway today. Will give you the deets in class tomorrow. Ciao.’ This way, he will think about you and will want to meet you. However, the trick can work once or twice. Do not overuse it, as he might end up losing interest in any news you want to share.

6. Text when you share the same room

Texting when in the company of other people can be exciting. Suppose you two are in a boring training session, send him a funny text. He might look up from his phone and smile at you. If he finds the session boring too, he would be thinking about you.

7. Flirt innocently

Subtle flirting has a unique charm to it, especially when he is not aware of it. For instance, you can text him, ‘If this book is ever adapted into a movie, you must play Noah. You have dark hair, sexy eyes, and a manly voice.’ Do not delve more into this message and quickly change the topic or go offline. Your compliment will surprise him, and he may want to know more about what you think of him.

8. Give him a hint to ask you out on a date

If you think your crush likes you and needs a push to make him ask you out, give him that push through your text. Send him a message asking for help. For instance, ‘I just had chicken pasta at the new Italian joint near the bookstore, and I’m craving for more. I think you should try it. I’m sure you will love it.’ With your ‘craving’ hint, he gets the message that you are asking him to visit the place with you.

9. Leave when still engaged in a conversation

You might run out of topics when chatting, but don’t extend any topic as it could make him bored. Leave the conversation with an excuse and continue the next time. For instance, ‘I have an early class, so I gotta go but will let you know where you can find those classic movies to watch DVD tomorrow. See you.’ It is a hook that can make him come back to you.

10. Send him some emojis

Emojis can sometimes speak a lot more than your texts. On a regular evening, send him a heart or lips emoji. If he asks what it is for, tell him it is up to his interpretation, and then, send him hearty eyes. Next, you can go offline or go to sleep and let him wonder what is with the hearts and kisses you are sending out of the blue.

11. Text him at night

Night is the best time to send intimate and flirty texts. The guy might be done with his work and would be relaxed to give you his full attention. You can send him, ‘On a cold evening like this, it gets difficult to sleep alone.’ Or something less intimate, such as, ‘the climate is so warm and cozy tonight, isn’t it?’

12. Text him at different times

If you can get flirty all day, keep texting him all through the day. But don’t make it a routine. Sometimes, take a break for a day or two and let him text you first. For a change, text him early in the morning or during lunch. Do not let him predict your messages. Instead, make him wait for your messages.

13. Speak with pictures

When he asks you about your day or your project, reply with a cute picture of you smiling widely to show you are doing well or a sad pouty face to indicate you are bored. Whatever you plan to send, make sure it doesn’t go overboard. You never know whose hands those pictures might land into, so take care not to make a mistake you cannot correct.

How To Flirt With A Guy Face to Face?

Flirting face to face is a whole new ballgame as you need to pay more attention to body language. Here are some ways to flirt healthy with a guy face to face.

14. Smile often

Smile to look more appealing and approachable when you are flirting with a guy. Flash him a gentle smile when he looks in your direction to let him notice you. Even while talking, wear a warm smile and look him in the eyes.

15. Touch him gently

A slight physical contact is okay when you are comfortable with him. While talking to him, gently touch his shoulder or arm and let your hand linger for a few seconds before moving it away. Your flirtatious touch can encourage him to be more open with you. If he likes you too, he will flirt back.

16. Maintain eye contact

Making intense eye contact with the guy you like is one of the essential elements of flirting. Look at him while he talks, and gaze a little longer than usual before looking away. You can smile if you wish to. It will give him a clear signal that you like him, and he might even reciprocate the intense look. Sometimes, giving a soft glance longer than usual will do the trick.

17. Play with your hair

Have you ever felt your heart skip a beat seeing a man roll up his shirt sleeves? If yes, you will understand what a guy would feel when he sees a girl gently playing with her hair. It may be an innocent gesture, but for a guy, it is a visual treat. Don’t ruffle it but slowly twirl the ends around your finger or pull it up in a ponytail and see him getting excited.

18. Tease him

Teasing is also a form of flirting. Light teasing about something you find funny or weird about him is harmless. For instance, if he tells you he liked watching SpongeBob SquarePants growing up, you can playfully call him Mr. SquarePants or even SpongeBob. However, if he seems uncomfortable with the teasing, stop it immediately.

19. Mirror him

Mirror his posture and gestures. For instance, if he smiles, looking down at his palms, copy that. If he rubs his neck while talking to you, rub your neck too. Mimicking his actions imply that you two are in sync. In case he likes you too and notices you mirroring him, he would smile at your efforts.

20. Take an interest in his life:

When you talk to him, ask questions related to his interests, passions, and hobbies. Keep the topics focused on him, and let him know that you are interested in him and want to know more about him. Remember specifics of details he shares with you to reference in later conversations.

21. Listen to him and repeat important details:

Whenever he speaks, give him your undivided attention. This could work well when you are in a group setting and everyone is talking. Let him know your whole focus is on him. You could also repeat certain words that he says to show that you are indeed listening to him. For instance, if he tells you that he watches Netflix only when he feels stressed, you could say, ‘So you mean Netflix is your stress buster?’.

22. Let him notice you notice him

Usually, when someone catches you looking at them, you might feel awkward and quickly look away. But when flirting, you can be a little more obvious. If you are in a room full of people, gaze in his direction. Do not look away when he catches your glance. That would make him feel drawn and connected to you, even in a crowded place .Use your gaze as a flirty, not eerie gaze.

23. Give him compliments

Give him genuine compliments occasionally. By complimenting him, you are telling him you notice him. Never overdo it, though, as it could backfire on you and make him take you less seriously.

24. Act mysterious

Add an element of mystery in your flirting. You may send a text over WhatsApp and delete it in a second. Hide a package from him or giggle at him. Keep some stuff exclusive, so he feels the need to come back and figure out more about you.

25. Be a little bold

If your crush and you are on good terms and are comfortable with each other, you can take things a notch higher and flirt openly. It is best when you catch him off guard. For instance, if he asks you about some event you attended, tell him you missed him.

Flirting is healthy and energizing. When flirting with a guy, remember to notice his reaction either through his texts or body language. If you find him enjoying it, go ahead and continue. But if he seems reluctant, stop. Do not make the mistake of considering it a sign of shyness and continue pushing at him to open up to you—it does not work that way. If he is comfortable, he will certainly wave the green flag and encourage you.

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Danielle Sheppard

Danielle Sheppard is a licensed clinician who helps individuals and couples realize and achieve their true potential. She recognizes that every person or couple is different in terms of goals, aspirations, and the pursuit of happiness, and that each journey is different. She has a passion for being witness to individuals as they see and express the strengths in themselves... more

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Ratika has experience writing in various fields including finance, education, lifestyle, and entertainment. After her masters degree in Commerce, she acquired a PG Diploma in Communication and Journalism from Mumbai University. She is inquisitive about human relationships and likes to study people and how they manage their relationships, during her freetime. At MomJunction, Ratika writes insightful and informative articles on... more