He comes closer to you. Gives a naughty look, and then pulling you nearer to his masculine body, makes you feel wanted. Slowly he starts kissing your neck and just when you get into the mood, you hear the doorbell ring.
Then you wake up, realizing that it was a dream. Of late, such things have been happening just in dreams as you and your partner are busy with work and children. Your sex life takes a back seat.
If your soulmate is becoming more of a roommate and you want it to change, then read on. We tell you how to turn up the heat, reach your ‘sexpectation’ and most importantly how to impress your husband.
Types Of Intimacy
Before we go into the details, let us explain the kind of chemistry every couple may want to achieve. There are four types of chemistry, and to impress your husband and get the spark back in your life, you need to have them all:
- Physical chemistry: it generates physical desire and arousal
- Emotional chemistry: this creates care, affection and trust
- Mental chemistry: generates interest, compatibility and receptivity
- Spiritual chemistry: brings respect, appreciation, happiness
[ Read: How To Keep Intimacy In Marriage ]
Now let’s reveal the secret.
12 Simple Ways To Impress Your Husband
Surely marriages are made in heaven but you have to put some extra effort here on earth to keep it going.
1. Show the gorgeous side of you:
Maintain basic hygiene, comb your hair, smell nice and wear fitted clothes. Dressing well will always have a positive impact. Wear a dress that your husband likes, and brush up your appearance. Wearing clothes that compliment your figure not only make you attractive but also boost your self-confidence.
Get regular haircuts, go for pedicure and manicure, get your arms and legs waxed and have a facial done. Spend some money on good perfume.
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2. Update your knowledge:
Men like women who are well-read. They prefer women who know what is happening in the world. An intellectual wife, who can hold a discussion and have her view point on various topics, will keep her husband engaged in a healthy conversation. Read the newspaper and novels for starters.
3. Be independent:
Do not depend on him, be it financially or otherwise. A strong independent woman is surely attractive. When it comes to money, men really do not care how much you earn, but they do not want you to be a financial drain on them (well most men).
For your daily tasks as well, avoid seeking help for him. While it is good to share responsibilities, not asking for help might tempt him to help you.
4. Take care of your health:
Follow a fitness regime. Exercise strengthens your immune system, improves stamina and your concentration. It has added advantage too: it will keep your man attentive and attracted towards you. Seems worth it!
5. Wear your apron for your man:
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Cooking is an admirable quality. Your husband will feel special when you cook him his favorite meal. You need not be a great cook, but the fact that you made an effort to cook something, especially for him, matters. Also, cooking together is an awesome way to rekindle your bond. It is an affair with food.
6. Take interest in his interest:
Be it sports, cars, bikes or movies, show interest in what your man likes. He will definitely appreciate the effort you are putting. It will make him feel close to you and this is a great way to spend some quality time together.
7. Express your love:
Show your love, every single day. Let him know how much you value him. Tell him how much you love him. Do something sweet or different for him, for example write ‘I love you’ on the bathroom mirror for him or slip a small note with his lunch, bake his favorite cake. Care for him in sickness and health.
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8. Plan a date night:
Book a table for two in a fancy restaurant or plan it at home. Make your children sleep early. Spend time together, just the two of you.
If you thought that we are giving you just some platonic ideas, no, we are, actually, preparing you for the more physical (read: bolder) ones:
9. Take the initiative:
You need not wait for your man to make the first moves in the bedroom. Let him know you need him, show him you are waiting for these private moments to come. Move your fingers over him seductively, while you keep open your dress just enough to tantalize him. You will surely love what follows next.
10. Give him a surprise:
Surprise him with a naughty encounter whenever you get a chance. Do something mischievous when he is in the bathroom, or in the kitchen or when he is engrossed in his phone.
When the kids are asleep or are not around, wear a sexy dress that you have bought without his knowledge, arouse him with your acts. This will leave him asking for more.
[ Read: Birthday Surprise To Your Husband ]
11. A warm bath can do wonders:
Get into a shower with him. Seek his help to undress you, and turn on the shower. Make the bath playful by rubbing his back, while he caresses you. You can make it more seductive by putting some aromatic room freshener or flowers in the bathroom.
12. Get a bit oily:
What can be a better way to relax your husband after a tiring day? Pour aromatic oil on his back, and begin massaging him. Press his shoulders, so that he forgets everything about work and starts thinking about the task ahead.
Being touchy makes things interesting between you and your husband. You need not have to wait for a time and place. Simply steal a moment. And if you do it the right way, a simple gesture like a kiss on his ear can be followed by a long story.
A Right Touch To Turn Him On
Know how to touch him. There are many places where men would like to be touched to get into the mood:
- Ear: Kiss him behind his ear or whisper sweet nothings into his ear. Use your tongue a little too. Biting the top of the ear lobe lightly or breathing deep behind his ear will drive him crazy.
- Neck: Give pecks on the front or back of your man’s neck. Nibble on the nape of his neck. Neck is a very sensitive area, it has several nerve endings and that does the trick.
- Back: Give him a sensual back and shoulder massage. Doing this will increase his blood circulation and relax him. Kiss his back in between the massage sessions.
- Back of his head: Caress the back of his head while kissing him softly.
- Chest: Stoke his chest gently. Play with his chest hair.
- Butt: Arouse him with a light smack on it. Or massage his butt after you are done with his shoulders and back.
- Foot: A foot massage will relax him and kissing the foot or biting the toe will arouse him.
- Inner thigh: While your husband’s sex organ is obviously the most erogenous place of his body, explore the area around to maximize the pleasure.
You need to be confident and bold enough to make the first move and impress him with your sexuality. And for that you have to take care of your attractiveness.
[ Read: How To Make Your Marriage Work ]
How To Be Attractive For Your Husband:
Here’s how to attract husband:
- Get your beauty sleep: No matter how much make-up you wear, you cannot look attractive unless you have enough sleep. A tired face or red eyes do not look appealing. Therefore, sleep for eight hours every day.
- Smile: When you smile you send signals that you are friendly and approachable and are in a good mood. Smiling is appealing and attractive.
- Be polite: Talk to him softly, and answer him politely. This will make sure the mood at home is calm. Do not pounce on him if he forgets to switch off the light in the bathroom or leaves his wet towel on the bed.
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- Stand tall: By standing or walking tall, you begin to feel confident and comfortable. This will show on your face and confident woman attracts her partner closer. So, keep your head up, and body straight.
- Maintain eye contact: Look into your husband’s eyes when you are talking with him. That makes him understand that you are listening to him and are interested in the conversation.
- Be feminine: Men like taking care of their girls. They want to feel needed. Show them your delicate side from time to time or let your partner to assist you. Men want to be with women, who look up to them for advice and help.
- Chill out: Give your man some space. Do not pester your husband about where he is or with whom. Do not nag him if he is on the phone or watching his favorite match on the TV.
[ Read: Qualities Of A Good Wife ]
Again all platonic? Here is something juicy, then.
Ways To Be Sexy In Bed:
If you expect to have great sex, then you need to work hard for your ‘sexpectations’.
- Splurge a bit on fancy lingerie: Wearing a bright red lacy bra or sexy corset may make you the seductress your husband would want. Wear things that suit your body type. Accentuate your assets. Lift the parts that sag.
- Wear his clothes: There is nothing sexier for a man to see his beautiful wife wearing his clothes. Wear a sexy lingerie with a loose, oversized shirt of your husband and leave the buttons open. Casually do your chores without making it look too obvious.
- Talk dirty (if your husband likes that): Tell him what you want him to do to you in bed. Use your finger to write imaginary words on your husband’s body. Drive him crazy by whispering sweet nothings into his ear. But before doing this, make sure that is what he likes.
- Lather on oil: Essential oil makes your skin look smoother, shiny and smell good. And that’s sexy for a man.
- Set the stage: Bring on the mood by creating an intimate setting with nice music and dim lights or scented candles. You can also fill the bathtub with warm water and sensuous bath salts, a few rose petals and two glasses of wine. Waiting for him in the tub will be all the more sexy.
- Add flirtation and seduction to your romance: Men like it. They find it mysterious and exciting, even if you have been married to your man for years.
- Have some foreplay: Sometimes foreplay is more enjoyable than the sex. The anticipation of what’s going to happen next will make your husband want you more.
- Strip for him: Perform a striptease for your lovely husband. Focus on removing one cloth at a time. Maintain eye contact. Show him some of your dance moves.
- Lie down on the bed and cover yourself only with a sheet: Spread your hair across the pillow and cross your arms under your breasts so that you can push them up. Leave top of your cleavage exposed. Show only one leg till calf. A bit of skin showing with rest left for imagination will drive your husband wild!
- Take initiative: Want to know how to attract husband? Then, get a little bossy in bed. Tell him what you want and what turns you on. You control the moment, men crave for it.
- Tie him up: And if you want to know how to attract husband in bed, here’s an idea. Take control! Some men get excited by the idea of a sexy woman taking control of the situation. Use some comfortable and soft scarf or his tie and tie him to the bed or sofa. Put a comfortable cushion or pillow below his head.
- Watch porn together (only if you both like it and are comfortable watching): Some couples like watching porn together in the bed. If you are one such couple, giving your husband a visual treat will drive him crazy, and the added advantage is you can mimic those moves.
- Go slow: Sex is not a fast food. There is no way you can feel satisfied with a quickie. You need to enjoy what you are doing.
The most important thing to remember is that you need not shy away from your husband or feel guilty for having sexual desires. It is not sleazy or vulgar to impress him sexually. It strengthens your bond and makes sure that the physical needs of both you and your husband are met amply.
What are your ideas of impressing a man? Let us know in the comment section below.
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