Top 15 Expert Tips To Keep Him Interested In You, Forever

If your loved one pampers you, takes care of you, and always makes you the center of attention, you may also be wondering how to keep him interested in you. While the internet is full of ideas on how men can charm women, there are ways you could make your man feel special too.

Contrary to what many women believe, you don’t have to purchase expensive gifts to make him feel appreciated. Instead, simple gestures or moves can sustain his liking for you and fall for you all over again.

In this post, we have compiled some interesting ways women can make their better halves feel special.

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Ways To Keep Him Interested

These tips don’t mean you have to change yourself for your partner. They are meant to help you highlight your attributes and apply them for your man as much as he does for you.

1. Don’t be over-possessive

Everyone needs some private space even when they are in a relationship. Support him, but don’t judge him or raise suspicions when he talks to other women, be it in person or on social media. Do not fixate on his behavior. When you love your partner, let him be himself the same way he gives you freedom. It helps you have a healthy relationship.

2. Show your cooking skills

Show your cooking skills to keep him interested

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Food can be a way to a man’s heart. That’s a common adage and holds true for most men. You can try cooking or baking some of his favorite dishes to excite him. It doesn’t have to be absolutely perfect every time. It’s your kindness and thoughtfulness that counts the most. If you’re not into cooking, you can captivate him by buying some delicious goodies or taking him to his favorite food joint.

3. Support him in his interests

Everyone desires a partner who understands, appreciates, and supports them. This can be effortlessly done by showing interest in his hobbies or activities. It doesn’t mean you should participate in his hobbies since they may not be your cup of tea. But you can listen to him, encourage him, and help him pursue his desires. You can lure him towards you by sharing the latest updates and resources relevant to his interests.

4. Be your unique self

Every person should be strong and independent in their own way. One of the easiest ways to keep him interested is by being interesting in your special way. Recall what made him fall for you and your attributes that impressed him. Be yourself, and he will always feel a tug of love towards you.

5. Appreciate him

Appreciate him to keep him interested

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It’s not just women who like to hear compliments. Men do, too. Express your feelings for him and let him know why you love him so much. Make him feel special. Praise him for his qualities, and appreciate him whenever he helps you out. Those simple words can fascinate him and get him hooked forever.

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Most men love being seen as leaders in relationships. So tell him you trust him and thank him for his care and support.

6. Stay positive

When you have a positive and happy mindset, it adds to your allure. Some of it trickles to your man, as well. Of course, it is not always possible to have a smile on your face since life brings its share of low moments. But when you take each experience in a positive stride, you let yourself shine in your partner’s eyes. All that positivity and zeal will make him even more enticed with you.

7. Be respectful

Respect your partner, whether you are alone or in public. Don’t criticize him, don’t use harsh words, and don’t shout at him. Talk politely, even if you are angry. If you sense that you are becoming annoyed, then have a discussion in private. Remember the golden rule. Treat him the way that you want to be treated.

8. Be playful

Create beautiful memories with him

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Stay playful, and your partner will love to be around you. Enliven the atmosphere with a dance. Hug him, give him surprises, and play with him. Create beautiful memories with him so that he misses you when you are not around. Be cheerful and keep showing him your bright side. Your positivity will hypnotize others toward you, especially your man.

9. Indulge in intellectual discussions

Having intelligent conversations is another way to form a deep connection with your partner. Show your studios side by discussing current events, career goals, and future plans. It is an excellent way to learn more about each other and stimulate each other’s minds. Try to understand his thought process, and bring him closer to you.

10. Be truthful

Truthfulness is one of the essential characteristics of a healthy relationship. When you are open and honest, your guy will find that he can trust and rely on you. It is an attribute that any partner would value and appreciate. So, be genuine at all times. Show your delight at his accomplishments and criticize him when required.

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Don’t feel insecure about your man’s female colleagues. Develop a secure attachment style, as it will project your confidence and trust in him.

11. Charm him with love

Charm him with love

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Awaken your inner tigress and shower him with love using his love language. Show him your sex appeal. Make love to him, cuddle, and hug him. You can enchant and tempt him with your words and actions, too. Just make sure you do whatever is most comfortable for you and for him.

A vlogger from New Orleans who goes by her YouTube channel name nollagirl504 says that it is essential for women to make an effort to take care of their bodies and appearances to keep their husbands interested in them since they would also want their husbands to give the same effort. She says, “You know, being the lady, I should try to look nice for my husband. I believe in working out, taking care of your figure, keeping it trim, and, you know, taking care of my hair, my skin. Those things are just part of being a lady, and I just feel like that’s what women must do (i).”

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Learn about his fantasies in bed and surprise him by trying them out. Your love life can be dull if you always depend on him to initiate things in bed.

12. Try new things

Your partner may enjoy seeing you involved in a variety of activities, such as sports, baking, painting, or planning trips. Stay open and adventurous. When you are open-minded and engage yourself in new activities, your life becomes exciting. When your life is exciting, you become more attractive, which in turn will make you more interesting.

Spouses Megan and Chris share how, amidst their opposite interests, they try to find new things or common likings to have fun together. They say, “For us, it’s exploring new downtown areas, finding restaurants that are unique with a different atmosphere, touring model homes, and watching movies together (ii).”

13. Laugh together

A couple looks perfect when they laugh and enjoy each other’s company. When you laugh together, it shows your like-mindedness. Such quality will lay a strong foundation for your relationship, and your partner will look forward to enjoying more fun moments with you. Look for ways to amuse your partner and you both will end up laughing together.

14. Know his friends

You can meet his friends and get along with them, too. Try to know who his close friends are, his school friends and friends he trusts the most. It doesn’t mean that you have to be with him and his friends every time they’re together. Showing interest in his friend circle is about validating his social skills, making him appreciate you even further.

15. Be the source of peace

You can be his haven of peace

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After spending most of their time at work, people look for peace at home. You can be his haven of peace. If he is sad or tired, divert his attention by talking about something positive. Avoid questions that might provoke him or may give the impression that you are nagging him or trying to be a controlling partner. Instead, give him some ‘alone time.’ You can save your discussions for later when he wants to talk. Creating a peaceful aura around yourself is good for your relationship and will also draw him close to you.

How To Text A Guy To Keep Him Interested?

Keeping a guy interested through text messages involves a balance of being genuine, engaging, and respectful. Here are some tips to help you maintain his interest:

  1. Initiate conversation: Don’t hesitate to start conversations. It shows your interest and initiative to keep the conversation going.
  2. Ask thoughtful questions: Think of a few fun questions you might ask him to know him better. Opt for open-ended questions that require more than a simple yes or no response, such as “What do you usually do during the weekends,” or “What do you enjoy most about your job?”
  3. Compliment sincerely: Guys seem more interested in people who uplift their ego. A little flattery can indeed work well for guys. Compliment specific things you genuinely appreciate about him, like “you have a good sense of humor” or “you are such a caring person.”
  4. Share interesting updates: Share snippets of your day or exciting things happening in your life. It gives him a glimpse into your world.
  5. Give some time: Give him time to respond. Avoid bombarding him with messages; understand that people have different response times.
    It is important to note that the key is to enjoy getting to know each other through text while being respectful of each other’s boundaries and preferences.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Why do I want to keep him interested?

You want to keep your man interested in you because he is too precious for you to lose, and you want to ensure he doesn’t fall out of love with you and remains loyal and honest to you.

2. What can I say to him to keep him interested?

Using words to express your love can help you keep him interested in you. Try complimenting him, flirting with him, giving him sweet and adorable nicknames, telling him why you love him and what you like best about him, and talking to him about his day, interests, hobbies, and his work life. Be mysterious and intrigue him with your words and actions.

3. What to do when a man is no longer interested in me?

Start thinking better of yourself to remind him of why he fell in love with you; sometimes, something might be bothering him and is causing this fallout. So, have a one-on-one with him and make an effort to understand his needs, but remain calm and try to empathize with him. If you are sure that you’ve tried everything and see no change, it is better to move on, which is good for both of you in the long run. Occupy your mind with your hobbies and interests and surround yourself with your family and friends.

All it needs are just some simple gestures and a few tips that will help you keep your man interested in you. Thus, we have prepared this list on how to keep him interested that you may want to try. Showing interest in things that he is interested in, appreciating him, laughing together, and being the source of his peace are a few basic tips that could help you keep the spark alive and let him know that you care. So, try incorporating these tips into your relationship and work towards making your bond stronger and happier.

Infographic: Ways To Keep Him Interested

As much as love and respect are crucial in a relationship, so are the happiness and entertainment factors. Hence, if you want to keep your man hooked, you must maintain a fun quotient in your relationship. This infographic can help you learn how you can keep your man interested in you.

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Illustration: Momjunction Design Team

Key Pointers

  • Women desire to keep their partners interested in them at all times.
  • Learning some easy tricks and implementing them could help you draw your partner’s love and attention.
  • Besides being honest and caring, try new fun things together, show your true emotions, and be his confidant.
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Andrea Riley

Andrea Riley CTHF, CLC, CMS

Andrea Riley is a TV talk show host, blogger, podcaster, author, certified life coach, certified trauma healing facilitator, licensed relationship instructor, certified biblical counselor, licensed minister, and keynote speaker. She has an overall experience of 14 years and co-founded the Marriage Service Technicians with her husband, Clifton, in 2008. Their mission is to ‘equip relationships with tools to go the...read full bio