19 Clear Signs To Know When To Walk Away From A Relationship

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It is tough to break ties with someone you love, but for the sake of your peace of mind and self-respect, you should know when to walk away from a relationship. We all need to make some tough calls to lead a better life. One should never compromise on peace and dignity. Being in an unhappy relationship will make you feel miserable, incomplete, lonely, and constantly disappointed.

Being in a toxic relationship can make you feel awkward while getting intimate or imagining a life together. Read this post as we tell you about when is the right time to walk away from a relationship.

Is It Okay To Walk Away From A Relationship?

Yes, it is okay to walk away from a toxic relationship. If you feel unhappy and dissatisfied in your relationship, it is not wrong to find your happiness. Your relationship with yourself is undoubtedly the most important one and the first relationship of your life.

Relationships thrive when you honor your commitments, keep your promises, spend quality time with each other, and share responsibilities. However, when you have put in all the effort that you possibly could into your relationship, but your partner does not reciprocate, it might be time you call it quits and move on to find your happiness.

Read on as we tell you a few signs, some subtle and others obvious, that can help you know if it’s time to walk away from your relationship.

19 Signs It Might Be Time To Walk Away From A Relationship

1. They do not respect you

Respect is the essence of any successful relationship, and when there’s a lack of respect in a relationship, it indicates an imbalanced partnership. If you feel your partner doesn’t respect your feelings, thoughts, goals, and needs, you should be concerned. A disrespectful partner will disapprove your opinions and decisions, look down upon you, and neglect your efforts to make your relationship happy. If your partner manifests all these signs of disrespect, it might be time for you to walk away.

2. There’s no trust between you

If there is no trust between you two, your relationship is bound to crumble. When your partner knows about your insecurities but still does not feel the need to resolve them and gain your trust, and if their actions and words do not merit your confidence, it is time to walk away from the relationship.

3. They do not value you

Love blooms when you value each other and care for each other. A partner who values you will ask for your opinion on important matters, give you space to take up your hobbies and interests, and do everything they possibly can to keep you happy. If you feel that none of these are happening and your relationship has become one-sided, you should rethink if you should be in this relationship.

4. There is abuse involved

The relationship should be ended the moment abuse begins. Physical abuse is not the only kind of abuse you should be worried about. Verbal abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and any form of abuse should not be tolerated. Abuse majorly impacts your self-esteem, sense of identity, and confidence, and may even lead to depression. If there is abuse involved, you should walk away without giving your partner a second chance.

5. The relationship has become toxic

When partners do not support each other in any situation, are in constant conflict, and jealousy, competition, and dishonesty creep in, the relationship has become toxic. If this is the case in your relationship,  it can take a toll on your physical health and emotional health, and thus, you should walk away from the relationship.

6. They have cheated

If you have enough proofs that your partner has cheated or is cheating on you, but they deny it or don’t seem to regret their act, you should be parting ways with them. The very fact that they are not remorseful is a clear indication that they would do it again, and you do not want to be with such a person.

7. Communication between you two has broken down

Good communication is vital to any healthy relationship. If you are unable to communicate with each other, your relationship cannot survive. When you are not able to communicate, have meaningful conversations, or develop a deep intimacy, misunderstandings become common. An irresolvable communication gap is an alarming sign that you might need to walk away from your relationship.

8. They are selfish

It is hard to be around a selfish partner. When your partner is focussed on themselves, doesn’t take an interest in your interests, manipulates you with tactics like guilt-tripping, and has a dominating behavior that you can’t stand anymore, you should consider walking away from such a relationship.

9. They take you for granted

When your partner takes you for granted, it signifies that they no longer care for you. If you feel you are being taken for granted, it’s time to act for yourself. Try to solve this issue by making your partner aware of the situation. And even after constantly emphasizing how you feel neglected, if they are unwilling to work on it, you have the option to walk away.

10. They do not have a sense of responsibility

A responsible person is dependable. When your partner does not take responsibility and is not aware of their obligations to keep your relationship going, they can’t be relied on. In a relationship, both the partners need to share responsibilities. If you are the only one who is taking on responsibilities, consider walking away.

11. You are the only one who is making compromises and sacrifices

When two people share a common life, they bring along their own set of baggage and flaws. They need to consider each other’s feelings and make some adjustments to get everything to work. Making small compromises and sacrifices helps build a strong relationship, and the adjustments, compromises, and sacrifices should always be from both sides. But, are you the only one making compromises and sacrifices? If yes, you should consider walking away from the relationship.

12. You and your partner are incompatible

It’s completely normal if you both have individual differences in your choices and likings. It will give you a chance to explore new experiences in life. However, if your aspirations, core values, and beliefs differ significantly, and you are incapable of coexisting, you should walk away from the relationship.

13. You don’t spend enough quality time together

Quality time is when you spend time together doing things you both love and giving your full attention to each other to show your affection, appreciation, and care. Spending quality time together is necessary for your connection to last. Does your partner show disinterest in spending quality time with you? Can this be resolved? If no, then contemplate walking away from the relationship, because you deserve to be loved.

14. You don’t feel comfortable

Being comfortable with each other is the foundation for keeping your relationship happy. An uncomfortable relationship is one where you feel weird being around each other and can’t be yourself. If you do not feel comfortable expressing your deepest feelings to each other and constantly fear being judged or ridiculed, you are probably in an unhealthy relationship and should walk out of this relationship.

15. You feel your partner is emotionally immature

An emotionally immature person lacks the ability to understand and handle their own emotions and feelings and empathize with people. You will notice commitment issues, disagreements, defensiveness, and loneliness with an immature person. Being in a relationship with an immature partner contributes to uncertainty in life. Does your partner never accept their mistakes? Is your partner immature to understand their responsibilities and the importance of supporting you? Rethink about staying in a relationship with such a person.

16. They indulge in body shaming

Does your partner pay more attention to outer appearance than the beauty of a person’s heart? And do they indulge in body shaming? It is the clearest sign that they are immature, ignorant, and abusive. When you are with such a person, it could compel you to see yourself differently, in a negative way, and lead to depression. And are you a victim of comments that gag you from within? Say goodbye to them, and go your way.

17. They have lost interest in you

Do you feel your partner runs away from problems and shows disinterest when you suggest ideas or plans? When you feel that they do not show passion any longer, and you are the only one trying to keep the relationship alive, it’s time to move on.

18. You do not find a sense of fulfillment

We expect to be treated with love, kindness, care, affection, and respect. Fulfillment forms the basis of whether the partnership could be successful in the long run. If you both are willing to live up to each other’s unbiased expectations and help each other grow, you will find fulfillment in the relationship. When we focus on appreciating our partners for their efforts, It will strengthen the relationship. If your relationship lacks any of these, you may have to ask yourself if being in the relationship is right for you.

19. They do not respect your personal space

In a healthy relationship, each partner works at helping the other person grow. While spending time together, doing fun things together, and having common goals are all fine, you should also be able to take up your own interests and hobbies. When you can take care of your personal needs, you’ll be able to take care of your relationship. You should be able to pursue your interests, passions, dreams, and goals, and more importantly, be yourself. If you are not getting any of these, you might need to get vocal, and if that doesn’t work either, walk away.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How to walk away from a relationship when we still love them?

Goodbyes are heartbreaking and painful but have a bigger motive in the long run. When love and romance begin to fade away, the relationship gets physically and emotionally draining; priorities change, don’t see a future together, then it is better for you to let go of them. Staying together if the relationship is unhealthy can further damage the equation between couples.

2. When should I walk away from a toxic relationship?

Staying in a toxic relationship can take a toll on your physical, mental, and emotional health. You may love them deeply, but when a relationship hits rock bottom, feelings of dislike, jealousy, and hate may creep in. Also, when you see no future with them and continue to suffer day in and day out, it is time to take a stand for yourself and part ways with a toxic partner.

It is better to leave the table where respect is no longer served. Lack of respect and trust are prime indicators of when to walk away from the relationship. If your partner does not value you enough or starts hurling abuses during an argument, then it may be time you draw the line. If you are not comfortable in a relationship, find your partner immature and irresponsible, or do not find fulfillment, you may need to walk away before the relationship turns toxic and ugly. Admire and acknowledge your worth, spend time on self-love, and set your life goals for a happier future.

Key Pointers

  • Walking away from a relationship can be a tough decision to make, but it is important for your mental health.
  • If your significant other does not value you or the relationship has taken a toxic turn, it might be time to leave.
  • The involvement of abuse in the relationship is a surefire sign of walking away.

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Shreshtha Dhar

(M.A, M.Phil )
Shreshtha Dhar is a licensed Clinical Psychologist running her private practice Thought Craft in Kolkata. She has special interest in the emotional and behavioral issues of both children and adults. Shreshtha has previosuly worked as a lecturer, published various research papers and contributed to magazines. She provides long distance teleconsultation in English, Hindi and Bengali.

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