You have been in a relationship for a while. You have done everything possible to make him happy, but might still be trying to figure out your boyfriend’s intent. You have recently started hanging out with the most incredible guy, and you both seemed to bond well. But you want to know how serious he is about you. You have been married for years, but your husband blows hot and cold. You are worried that your husband is taking you for granted.
What can you do in such situations? Tease him by making him feel jealous. A bit of harmless jealousy may improve your relationship, but be sure to keep it light and fun as jealousy can be a double-edged sword that can make or mar a relationship. You have to know when, how, and how much to use it. If you go overboard, it might just backfire on you.
Will Jealousy Work?
Jealousy is one of the most primal instincts in us. It is one of the most intense feelings in a romantic relationship. Even the most romantic of partners will feel jealous although they don’t express it explicitly. At times, you may feel the spark in your relationship is missing. You may want to tease your partner to win back the lost love or affection.
However, making your guy jealous is a dangerous game. If played the right way, you might win it but if played for too long or if you cross the line, it might push your partner away from you or harm you/ your relationship.
Always remember to put yourself in your partner’s shoes before you play the game. If you feel you are doing something that can damage your relationship, stop immediately, and take a step back.
27 Ways To Make Your Man Jealous
We have listed a few ways to make your man jealous. Some are naughty, some are nice, and some are outright wicked. Hope these tips will lure him back and help you rediscover the magic of romance in your relationship.
1. Go out with your girlfriends
Men feel jealous when their girl goes out with her gang. They don’t know what goes on at these get-togethers, and there is no way they can find out without spying. This makes them feel insecure. Dress up sexy and go out for a night with your friends. Do not answer his calls immediately. Answer after 3–4 calls, and talk to him briefly. Keep the call going to let him know that you are having a great time without him.
2. Dress up
You do not need any occasion to dress up, apply make-up, or get a new haircut. Take some time out for yourself and put on a sexy dress. If you don’t have anything on hand, go shopping and buy a dress you wouldn’t wear normally.
Your partner will notice the changes and get curious. He will be intrigued and may try to find out the reason behind the changes, but don’t explain anything. Keep smiling to keep the mystery alive. Your enigmatic smile and confidence might make him jealous because he will think you are hiding some secret.
3. Ignore his texts and calls
Ignoring him might draw his attention. Avoid texting or calling him. If you receive text messages from him, do not reply immediately. Instead, you can text him every once in a while. Similarly, ignore his calls a few times before answering. Let him know that you have your own life, and you actually enjoy spending time with other people. You can be active on social media. He will start chasing you and give you his undivided attention if you ignore him. Do not ignore him for long, though.
4. Laugh at his friend’s jokes
Even if it is his best friend, laughing at his (the best friend’s) joke may not go down well with your partner. If he is a person, who wants to be the funniest man around, then your simple laugh over his friend’s joke can make him feel a pang of jealousy.
5. Flirt with a person he doesn’t know
Indulge in some harmless flirting with your co-worker. When you lightly flirt with a man he doesn’t know, it might cause him heartburn. The other guy could be a stranger or your co-worker. Deliberately talk with this person when you know your partner is watching, act like you are flirting with him.
6. Be active on social media
Start posting pictures of you and your friends doing some crazy and interesting stuff. Show your man how popular you are among your friends. Show that life can be exciting even without him. The idea is to make him miss your attention and see that you are giving it to others. Stay active on social media to let your partner know where you are, but sometimes withhold the details. Be ready for lots of love and attention when you get back.
7. Have a male best friend
Male best friends can make your boyfriend or husband feel insecure. If you are in regular contact with your male best friend, it is most likely that your partner will try hard to keep you close by his side. But you should know where to draw a line.
8. Be the center of attention
You don’t have to hold your partner’s hand all the time. In social gatherings, play hard to get and mingle with other friends at the party with confidence and poise. Let your partner wait for your attention while you are having a fun time with your acquaintances. If your partner has not been available for you for some time, this will make him jealous enough to realize his error and shower his attention on you.
9. Do things without his help
Men usually feel protective of their women and try to be in control of the situation. To make them jealous, you need to show them that you are independent. Do little things by yourself, and don’t be dependent on your man. For instance, you may seek your friends’ help when you are moving house. Your guy might feel piqued that you didn’t take his help.
10. Point out well-dressed men
While walking down the road with your partner, point out well-dressed men. Talk about fashion or how to dress well for a while. This will be enough to trigger the jealous instinct.
11. Tell him you are getting attention
If someone at work is flirting with you or you are getting attention from someone you met online, make sure you mention it to your partner. This will make him jealous and prompt him to ensure you are ‘protected’ from this someone.
12. Start going teenager-crazy on celebrities
As teenagers, we all had celebrity crushes at some point. If you want to grab the attention of your man, talk about your teenage dream of marrying your favorite celebrity. Your man may just say he never liked your celebrity crush.
13. Talk about a childhood friend
Talk about a childhood friend and the good times you had. The fact that you had a good time before your man came into your life can make him jealous.
14. Ignore him when he flirts
Flirting is a game both can play. If you flirt with other guys, chances are your man will do the same. Ignore his flirting and show him that you are not really worried about it. If anything, it will make him wonder why so.
15. Leave in the middle of a conversation
When discussing something with your partner, especially if he has initiated the conversation, get up, and leave before the conversation is over. The moment your guy senses that you are not giving him importance, he will feel jealous.
16. Ask your friend to speak for you
If you want to make your man feel jealous, ask your best friend to talk to your partner about how popular you are among your circle. You need to plan this carefully so that it doesn’t appear contrived or unnatural. Tell your friend to ease it into the conversation and watch your partner’s reaction.
17. Do not agree to last-minute plans
If your man is well-known for making last-minute plans and expects you to play along, let him know for once that you will not. Make some amazing plans for yourself, or if you do not wish to do so, tell him that you have plans for the day and treat yourself to some much-deserved me time. Either way, do not automatically agree to his plans and keep him wondering why you aren’t accompanying him. This will have two outcomes. One, he will stop announcing things at the last minute and expect you to tag along. Two, he will feel jealous of your “plans” as he can never be sure what you might do without him.
18. Get a new hobby
Try to spend time away from him by indulging in a new hobby. If you suddenly stop paying him attention and start pursuing your hobbies, he might feel jealous. The thought that you have other important things to do will make him to get closer to you.
19. Withhold sex
Stop giving in to his demands. Say you are tired or just not interested. This will pique his jealousy as he won’t understand why you are refusing sex. He will try harder by showering you with love and attention so that you agree.
20. Buy yourself a gift
If you are used to your boyfriend or husband giving you gifts, it is time you took control of things. Go shopping and buy something you want with your money. If you are in the mood, get something for him too. When your partner notices that you are independent, he may feel overly protective and try to prove that he is capable of giving you your favorite things.
21. Do not contact him first
Women tend to message or call their man if they do not hear from him regularly. If you are one of those, stop doing it. It gives your partner a sense of power. He will be disappointed if he assumes that you will contact him no matter how much he ignores you.
22. Be super-sweet to him
Whenever you meet, make sure you go out of your way to be sweet to him. Buy him gifts and pamper him. However, stop all this the moment you leave. Do not contact him. If he works really hard to get you, grant him a good time again and then stop. This way, you will keep your man on his toes and make him want to meet you.
Men usually think of their women as a trophy, so this works well if you want to keep your boyfriend pining for your attention.
23. Learn things that are typically done by him
Engage yourself in learning things that are typically done by him, such as washing the car or changing light bulbs, and excel at them. When your man sees you doing these things, he will feel a little insecure that you won’t rely on him anymore. Watch him put in the extra effort while doing household chores the next time around.
24. Prioritize yourself
Both partners need space. Take some time off for yourself. Book a spa appointment or go to a library. Do not take your partner along. When you return feeling fresh and relaxed, he might get jealous because you had a good time without him.
25. Text your friend while he is talking
Your man wants your complete attention when he is talking to you. If you start texting your friend in the middle of the conversation, he may not like it. This may prompt him to gain your attention.
26. Start doing something you love
Some women stop doing things they love because men disapprove. If you love doing something and if it brings you happiness, you should definitely do it. It boosts your confidence and independence. When your man sees you engrossed in an activity of your choice, he may feel jealous because you are not devoting him enough time. This might make him protective and loving.
27. Ask your friend to praise you
Ask your best friend to praise something about you that he cannot do. It could be cooking, upkeep of the house, coding, or research. Ask your friend to consistently talk about how good you are at what you do. Your partner will grow jealous of your capabilities. He will either try to match up to those skills or starts praising you. Either way, you get some love and TLC that you deserve.
Making your man jealous can be fun but is a risky proposition. If you do it in the right measure, you can be on top of the game. However, if you drag it on for too long, it could be counterproductive. So play the game safely and enjoy the extra love and attention that you deserve.