How To Please Your Husband: 23 Tips That Always Work

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Husband loves you, pampers you, makes you laugh when you are angry, and turns your fantasies into reality. You may also make him feel special whenever possible. Knowing how to please your husband can do wonders in your relationship. Relationships are awesome when both partners please each other with the same approaches. For example, you may make him smile when he is angry. Mutual respect and care are essential for healthy relationships. You may please him by simple steps such as showing affection and giving compliments. Being a good listener and expressing your feelings and opinions can also impress him. They also love the support and encouragement from their partners. However, you may remember that pleasing does not mean that you insult or degrade yourself. Read on to know some effective ways to please your man.

23 Ways To Please Husband

1. Shower compliments

Sweet words have the power to make your husband feel extra special. He may like to listen to praises once in a while. Your encouraging words could strike the right note. You can compliment him for being a good husband, on the way he pampers you, and also on his physical attributes. Tell him something as simple as, “You have such hypnotic eyes.” Or “You look so handsome in a tux.” Or “You always satisfy me.” and watch your husband inch closer to you.

2. Be affectionate

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Physical intimacy is important, but men also yearn for some affection. Try some new ways to make him feel warm. Send him a surprising love letter, hold his hands, or just say sorry when he is angry or you had a tiff. Little gestures can never go wrong. You can even get flirty and startle him with a sudden kiss, or give him a shoulder or back massage.

3. Discuss fantasies

Men may be hesitant to be open about their fantasies. You can make him share his expectations, imaginations, or fantasies by using some deep conversation starters and let him know you are all ears. Once you and your spouse know each other’s expectations, it becomes easy to make them into reality.

4. Use the power of touch

Physical touch is quite powerful (1). When words fall short, using touch may keep your husband happy. Soft and satisfying touches can do the trick and make him feel content. Know the sensitive parts of your man, whisper in his ears, tickle him, and trigger his sexual sensations.

5. Play games

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Games can add spice to your special nights. Break the routine and have some fun by playing games. Blindfold, truth or dare, role play, and kissing scrabble are some of the out-of-the-box games that you can enjoy with your husband in private.

6. Be prompt in your actions

You cannot always plan and execute things methodically—it may turn dull with time. Amaze your husband by being spontaneous in your actions. Come out of your comfort zone, and do something that your partner would love. It could be going for a long drive at midnight, kissing him when he dresses up, taking a swim together, or planning a weekend getaway to his favorite location. You can even make him speechless by seducing him on a casual day.

7. Be expressive

Not all men are good at catching your hints. Let your husband know that you enjoy being in his company. You may use simple words such as ‘yes,’ ‘wow,’ ‘that’s great, or ‘I love it,’ and communicate your feelings to him. You can even talk and have open communication about what you expect from him and what you want him to do for you. Your husband may like it when you are straightforward.

8. Keep experimenting

Is your husband the one who always initiates and comes up with ideas of physical intimacy? Sometimes, even men want their partners to make them feel desired. You can rub his back or give him a massage and be the leading lady to please him. Variation in sexual fantasies can turn on your man and keep your relationship spicy. Trying new stuff and sometimes different positions with your man can please him.

9. Build excitement

Creating an atmosphere of anticipation can set the stage for satisfaction and pleasure. You may take your own sweet time. As they say, ‘Enjoy the journey, and the destination would be your reward.’ Physical touch, gentle teasing, alluring words, and body language can help increase dopamine levels.

10. Participate in his fantasies

Your husband may want to see you in a sexy outfit or may want you to dominate him. When you are in an honest and respectable marital relationship, you can indulge in his fantasies, and he will be glad to open up to you.

11. Get flirty

Flirting is nothing but playing with your husband. You can do so once in a while, and not regularly. Get cute with him by sending a flirty text or a kiss emoji, giving him a slight pinch, or just staring at him dramatically. Such gestures can please him and keep your relationship vibrant for many years to come.

12. Move out of the routine

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To add some variety and extra pleasure in your sexual life, making love in different places could be fun. You can book a fancy hotel, go camping in a serene place, or plan a vacation to a new location. Breaking out from the usual routine can bring excitement in life.

13. Wear stylish outfits

Reinvent your look at times. Wear something attractive or seductive that your husband would like to see you in. Accessories and makeup can add value to your entire look too. Look different, try to get his attention, and please him by dressing up a little hot and sexy.

14. Enjoy roleplay

You can try some interesting role-plays and get touchy. Try some roles in which you both can act comfortably. Your lovemaking can become memorable, and your husband would be pleased with the idea.

15. Take control in bed

Sometimes, your husband may want you to take the lead. There is no rule that suggests only the husband has to dominate in bed. Take control, look sexy, talk dirty, entice him, and enjoy the intimate moments.

16. Plan a fancy date

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You can plan a cozy date at home by creating a romantic ambiance with dim lights and subtle fragrance. Arrange or cook delicacies that he likes the most. Don’t forget to add his favorite dessert and drink on the table. After a lavish meal, kiss your husband and enjoy some intimate time.

17. Add some mystery

You can please your husband in bed by bringing in some mystery. Hide and reveal elements of the special night in bits and pieces. Have a satisfying pillow talk, cuddle in each other’s arms, and slowly show your sexy and daring side. Make the evening enjoyable so that the night will be delightful.

18. Be adventurous

If you and your husband have a healthy and open relationship, you can discover new elements of pleasure and ignite the fire in your relationship. Your husband would be glad to see some new changes, and your relationship would grow stronger with time.

19. Stay calm

This tip works when your husband is angry. Arguing or counter-attacking may fuel the fire and make things worse. Instead, let there be peace for a while. Wait for him to settle down, and listen to him if he wants to talk.

20. Be transparent

You need not hide anything from your spouse. Keeping secrets could lead to mistrust and damage your relationship. Share your problems, fears, vulnerabilities, and desires freely.

21. Adore him

Appreciate him, say ‘I love you,’ express your feelings, be kind to him, and adore him in ways he would like. Consistent display of affection both indoors and outdoors would please your husband and lay a strong foundation for your marriage.

22. Give space

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If your husband is angry, give him some space. Understand the reason behind his bad mood. It could be work pressure or financial crunch. Talk to him, but don’t force him. Let him explain the reason. And whatever it is, help him, but do not judge him.

23. Make home a paradise

Home should be your husband’s heaven. The outside world can be rough on him at times. Whenever he is angry, he may want some peace and relief. Make your home a serene place where he can calm his mind.

Knowing how to please your husband helps foster your bond. Being affectionate, showering compliments, using the power of a touch, and discussing fantasies are some of the best ways to please your man. Expressing your emotions and trying out ways to keep the spark in the relationship, such as going on a vacation together, is needed to keep life exciting. It is also a good idea to plan a date and spend some time sharing the most precious memories from the past. On the other hand, good communication, transparency, and giving personal space can help avoid conflicts. It is also important not to go out of your way and hurt your self-respect to please your partner.

Infographic: Bonus Tips For Pleasing Your Husband

He would love it when you surprise him with thoughtful gifts or make the first move in intimate moments, but sometimes it is also the simple things you do for him daily that he adores the most. So, check out this infographic where we share easy yet compelling tips that will surely allure your husband.

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Key Pointers

  • There are no set rules to please your spouse; follow his likes and preferences.
  • Most won’t say, but men feel pleased when showered with compliments or made feel special by having intimate conversations.
  • Use more simple yet sweet, fun, and quirky gestures shared below to please the man of your life.

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