Do you have a child who is more than happy in her company? Are you worried that she may be unduly inhibited and do you feel it could hamper her social and emotional growth? Have you tried to get your child out of her shell? Do you feel she is reluctant, and nothing seems to work?
If you have an introverted child at home, your parenting strategies require a different approach. Read our post and learn tips on raising an introverted child how to handle the situation best, while making sure she is comfortable.
How To Raise An Introverted Child?
Often you may confuse being an introvert with being shy, but let’s bust that myth right now. If your child is an introvert, here are some behavioral things you will notice:
- Your child enjoys her company and seems content with her imaginary friends or toys.
- She is attached to very select, often only one or two friends and is not comfortable in a large group.
- It takes time for her to open up to new people or situations. She may often take some time to open up to the same person every time she meets him.
- Your child is a listener, observer, and a thinking child.
- She loves doing assignments or projects by herself.
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Here are a few ways in which you can nurture and raise the introverted child:
1. Let Her Enjoy Her Alone Time:
Your child will need a lot of alone time to think things through and get back to her charged up self.
- At the end of a busy day or after an emotional episode, your child will always want to be by herself, instead of sitting and talking about it.
- It will help her go through the events of the day and analyze things for the way they are, in her way.
- Make for some alone time every day where you child can relax and unwind. It could be spending some time in bed reading a book or in the same room as yours while you both are engaged in your work.
- Do not force her to come and sit with you and ‘discuss’ things. Give her some time to herself.
2. Let Her Form A Connection First:
One of the best ways to learn how to help an introverted child is building a bond. It is important that she forms an emotional connect with anyone before interacting with him.
- When your child meets someone, she may not want to do small talk but instead discuss more meaningful things.
- It does not mean that she is shy or rude, but that she wants first to know whether the person will be of some importance in her life or not.
- Help her build a connection with the person before you move on to conversations. It will help your child trust the person and know that she is safe with them.
- Do not rush her to talk to someone. Worse still, do not label her as shy or scold her in front of them if she refuses to speak.
[ Read: Tips To Make Your Kids Overcome Shyness ]
3. Understand Her Feelings Without Words:
Your introverted child may be less vocal about her feelings, but she surely feels them and bottles them inside her.
- Your child may go through an emotional episode or suffer stress, but it will take a lot of time for her to talk about it.
- She may want to think why it happened and what needs to be done before she speaks to you about it. She may want to talk to you but take her time first before she can explain it to you.
- Understand her emotions through her actions. See if there is a sudden change in her behavior, if she seems unnecessarily upset or suddenly angry. Learn to read between the lines when it comes to her feelings.
- Do not push her to open up and discuss everything immediately.
[ Read: Tips To Handle A Highly Sensitive Child ]
4. Move Slowly, But Do Move:
Your child may not be comfortable in meeting new people or being in new settings. Understand and respect her feelings, but help her get there eventually.
- Let your child take her time in accepting something new. Make sure you keep encouraging her to do so in a non-forceful way.
- Do not allow her to opt out of everything just because she is not comfortable or is unsure. Help her get there.
- If you see your child making a special effort somewhere, like interacting with a new person, tell her she did great.
- Do not throw her into situations just to get her to deal with them.
Your introverted child is a treasure of love, kindness, warmth, and care. Understand and respect her for the way she is, and let her know how proud you are.
Now you know how to raise an introverted child. Have an introverted child? Share your experiences, questions and tips here.
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