You were both once madly in love, but now that spark seems to have fizzled. Though you love your spouse, that adoration, charm, and passion seem to be fading with time. Recalling the fun times and missing them is not the best of feelings in the world. If you think your relationship seems to be going through a lull, it is time to rekindle that fire and bring the romance back to life.
In this MomJunction post, we list down some interesting tips that can rekindle your marriage of many years.
How To Rekindle Your Marriage?
You can awaken your romantic feelings and bring your relationship back to life with these tips for you.
1. Recall those good old times
Remember when you and your spouse shared everything? You admired their positive attributes and loved their company. But now, you complain about their negative aspects, and that is not helping make the relationship better. So, pause and look back in time. What was it about your partner that you loved the most and were attracted to? How amazing were your initial dates? Remembering those moments can bring back the magic in your relationship.
2. Get away from the world for some time
You have job assignments to do and family responsibilities to fulfill. But you should also give your relationship the importance it requires to strengthen your bond. Bring a thoughtful gift for your spouse, plan a special dinner, go for a vacation, and create some magical moments. Such random and adorable gestures help make your relationship long-lasting.
3. Let go of the fights
Disagreements are bound to be there in a relationship. You may have fights, but you don’t have to win everything. Sometimes it is okay to lose so the relationship can win. Let go of some fights and arguments and give importance to your bond to revive your relationship.
4. Play together
With time, your lives get busier. There is work pressure, financial responsibilities, family issues, and more. Amidst all these, you might fail to pay attention to your relationship and each other. But before it gets too late, try to bring back the fun element into the marriage. Have some fun playing games with your spouse and see how helpful it can be for your bond. You can either play a game of cards or go for ice skating or do anything that interests you.
5. Don’t involve third parties
To rekindle your relationship, you don’t need anyone except you and your spouse. Third parties or outside influencers (friends or family members or colleagues) may not be able to do anything unless you two act. Also, it is best to resolve any issues yourself and keep others out of it. But if something starts going out of hand, then it is okay to seek a family member or friend’s help. Therapy can also be an option if you need a third person’s objective take on the relationship issues.
6. Schedule a time to resolve conflicts
One of the tactful ways to deal with any conflict is to sit calmly and talk about it. You may be very busy with work and other obligations. But set aside a time to discuss these things and solve issues. The ideal time would be when you both are free, say a weekend or a holiday, when you have no other important or urgent work to do. You can commit a few hours, share your intentions, and sort out the matter in a matured way.
7. Try something new
After a few years of relationship or marriage, things might slow down and get monotonous. This might make the relationship less interesting. To keep that excitement intact, try to do something new and fascinating now and then. It will help you to reconnect with your spouse mentally, physically, and emotionally.
You can learn a new activity, try cooking a new dish together, redecorate your house, or do something innovative. This lets you spend quality time with your partner and rekindle your romantic connection.
8. Enjoy each other’s company
During the initial stages of your marriage, you only want to be with your spouse. But eventually, you tend to take your spouse for granted, and your relationship might get spiritless. To avoid that, try to be enthusiastic about your relationship and do something delightful for your partner so that both of you can enjoy being with each other. You can plan a date, go to a movie, workout daily, or just go for daily walks.
9. Get closer physically
Over the years, sex might become a routine as the magic of touch seems to fade. To ignite that spark all over again, try and become playful with your spouse. Hold hands, cuddle and hug each other, get flirty, and be seductive. Physical touch helps partners take their relationship to a higher level.
10. Use your words cautiously
Avoid hurting your spouse’s feelings or damaging your relationship with your words. At the same time, you can use some powerful words to rekindle your romantic relationship. You may write something special for your spouse, record poetry, or write a letter expressing how you feel for them.
11. Go for a vacation
When you find your marriage falling apart or sense a dullness in the relationship, you should plan a vacation together. This will give you enough time together. Take a break from the everyday responsibilities back home and go somewhere. If not a long vacation, go on short trips for the weekend. Whatever you plan, make time to connect and not worry about other things.
12. Keep surprising your spouse
Little gestures such as bringing flowers to your spouse, ordering their favorite dessert, gifting something special, or taking them to their favorite concert can keep things interesting between the two of you. If your spouse or partner loves surprises, a good surprise every now and then can be a wonderful way to keep the bond intact.
13. Appreciate and compliment each other
Your spouse prepares a meal for you, or they bring something for you. And your response is ‘thank you!’
You might think that’s enough because your relationship has come a long way, and you need not impress each other. But that’s wrong. Appreciating your spouse with some kind words and complimenting them with truthful words will help you add spark to the relationship. Focus on your partner’s positive features to reconnect with your partner. That will help take your relationship ahead.
14. Don’t lose faith in your marriage
Finally, stay determined in a relationship. You love your spouse and will always do. So, don’t lose hope, irrespective of whatever happens between the two of you. Be available to them, listen to them, and hold their hands when in need. It is one of the most important things to keep your relationship alive even during tough times.
It might not be in your hands when you fall out of love. But it is up to you to fall back in love. Sometimes, you need to take a step back and then move forward in your marriage to rekindle your bond. It might not be easy to do so, but it is possible.
Do you have any more tips to share? Tell us about them in the comment section below.