“Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it inflames the great.” — Roger de Bussy-Rabutin
Being in a long-distance relationship can be a tricky business, taking you on an emotional rollercoaster ride — from hysterical laughter to waves of tears. It requires tender care, and you need to ensure that physical distance doesn’t get converted into emotional distance.
So, how do you sustain it? And how do you allow it to blossom? Keep reading as we tell you some effective ways to spice up your long-distance relationship.
20 Ways To Spice Up Your Long-Distance Relationship
1. Plan romantic virtual date nights
Instead of occasional dates just on birthdays or anniversaries, celebrate your love often. Select a day and a time that is convenient for both of you, and devote your special attention to your special one as you would on a physical date.
Cook a meal and wear your favorite attire. Create an elegant ambiance in your balcony, terrace, or any other open area with soft music, candles, and dim lights in the background.
Make sure your internet connection is good so that they can witness the beauty of that breeze playing with your hair, that glow on your face in dim light, and that charming smile of yours. Let your eyes capture the slightest hint of each other’s shyness, blush, and dreamy smile.
2. Let spontaneous sexting be your savior
Don’t be disheartened if you are not able to express your love with interlocked lips and entwined fingers. Let your screens play cupid in your love life. Sexting is a great way to keep that spark alive.
If you are new to sexting, you can casually bring the topic of your past intimate experience and relive it, slowly shifting the focus on your fantasies. From there on, let the curiosity and imagination take over. From flirty texts to serious foreplay talks, sexting can be more intense than sex thanks to our mysterious minds.
3. Have tipsy late-night phone sex
Phone sex can be considered as a boon for LDR couples. Whisper something dirty in your husky voice and drive them crazy. You could ignite the fire by sending them an appealing full picture of you in a seductive pose or a desirable dress in advance. You could also send them a playful and inviting video of yours to fuel their imagination. Talk about your fantasies and desires on the phone and narrate what you would do to your partner if they were physically close to you, to keep your love hormones bouncing.
4. Create your own tales
Read erotic literature together. And if your love finds poetic ways of expression interesting, you can write your own fictional erotic love story, narrating the passionate lovemaking that you wish to experience with your partner. Alternatively, you could write poetry with a slight touch of erotism created for and dedicated to your partner. Sometimes, naughty letters directed towards them can also bring about fun, giving wings to your partner’s imaginations about your intimate time together.
5. Connect in creative ways
Creativity and naughtiness, when balanced well, can be the cherry on the top in your relationship. You can try sending naughty messages and quizzes that require decoding, decrypting, and deciphering. Let your partner solve the puzzle and guess the answer. The curiosity to know the correct answers will keep your partner exuberant.
6. Watch, learn, read, repeat
Converting your “me time” into “we time” will give you more topics to discuss. You can choose a book, a movie, or a series based on any genre that both of you prefer.
Just like a virtual date, if you have a home theater, you can create an atmosphere of a movie date. You can be connected via a video call while watching the same movie or TV show together and laugh or cry. This way, you can share the feeling of experiencing the same movie together.
7. Surprise them with a thoughtful gift
Your surprise presents can create a lovely experience for them. If you want to choose a thoughtful surprise, the sky’s the limit. For example, in their illness or a recovery phase, a package of supplements, herbal tea, books, and DVDs can cheer them up. Or gift them a bottle of champagne to celebrate their promotion.
How about creating a craft on your own and adding a personal touch with a handwritten letter? A beautiful handwritten letter with a spritz of your favorite perfume and a clear picture of yours attached to it is a sure-fire way of surprising them. And yes, chocolates, cards, flowers, or something that can be used daily—such as a mug, a pillow, a diary, or a fitness accessory—and sent in snail mail can never disappoint anyone.
8. Gift them your presence with a surprise visit
Nothing beats the surprise element of them seeing you in person without them knowing about it. You can plan this surprise visit in a way that doesn’t disturb their schedule by getting a prior confirmation from their colleagues or local friends. Ensure that every second you spend together feels like a gift and is filled with lots of positive energy.
9. Learn a new art form to surprise them
You can learn how to play a heart-melting tune of a soft romantic song on a guitar and surprise your partner on your next video call. An erotic dance, a painting, or a sketch can also help you see the sparkle in their eyes. Let your partner know that they are like a sweet habit to you, and you are head over heels in love with them.
10. Walk down the memory lane
Recall all those perfect moments that gave you butterflies in the stomach, and remind each other of what brought you together. You can proudly assess how much you have grown and evolved in this relationship. Share old photographs and relive old memories. Highlight reels on Instagram can provide a great opportunity for such imaginary trips.
11. Keep a journal to record your memories
When you two are miles apart, journaling your life and emotions and reading them to each other when you meet in person may eventually make you realize that, amidst all the chaos, you were always there in each other’s thoughts though not physically. You can also record your conversations during the calls and play them later when you two are together.
12. Use apps specially designed for LDR
Exploring various such apps can be a blessing in disguise. Using such apps, you can create a private timeline to record your precious moments and keep everything related to just you two, such as your videos or games in a single frame instead of keeping them scattered. You can play online games together with different apps too.
13. Be expressive on social media
Instead of just regular phone calls and video calls on apps, try to communicate via different social media platforms. Dedicate posts to each other and tag each other. This can give extra assurance of your deep attachment towards them.
14. Take up a fitness challenge together
Having a common goal and taking up a fitness challenge, such as marathon training, can motivate both of you and keep the pain of separation due to the physical distance off your mind for a while. You can also follow a common diet and track each other’s progress in your workouts. Inspire them or take inspiration from them.
15. Involve each other in your plans
While setting life goals, being on the same page is very important. Let your partner have a say in decisions concerning you both. You can help each other and decide on things that you collectively want.
Let your partner know what’s happening in your life. Share updates regarding friends, co-workers, and whatnot so that you feel reassured.
16. Compliment each other often
Sometimes it’s not about perfection. Your loved one wants to be loved unconditionally and wants to feel flawless in your eyes. Noticing the little things of your partner and appreciating them can reassure them that you are observant of their positive changes and their efforts in becoming a better person. So, don’t miss any opportunity to compliment them.
17. Keep the communication captivating
Have some fun question-and-answer sessions or rapid-fire sessions about each other. Explore new facets of each other together by planning your next meet as a date. Choose a specific time and place for your next romantic meet, and discuss everything that comes to your mind without any qualms.
Naughty late-night conversations filled with giggles when the whole world is asleep has its own charm in LDR.
18. Embrace each other’s differences and uniqueness
No matter how deeply one is in love with another, there will be differences in opinions, choices, and thought processes. If the diversity is cherished, you can experience a deep attachment in your relationship. Try to find out your partner’s hobbies and give them a shot yourself. This way, you can learn the way they think or feel or process the world through their perspective.
19. Learn from mistakes
To err is human. So, accept and learn from each other’s mistakes and let go. Keeping a room for imperfections helps you overcome blame games and pessimism. Instead of embarrassment, ensure embracement.
20. Spend some “me time”
In your quest to keep your LDR alive, you both may forget to focus on yourselves. Make an effort to meet yourself in your comfort zone. Shake all the layers off and just be you, doing all the things you love the most, even if it means doing absolutely nothing. Make time to do the things that you enjoy, but your partner isn’t fond of.
Spend time with your friends, explore a new hobby, and rejoice in your life’s accomplishments. Take up a new challenging career project that demands absolute concentration and no distractions, and pamper yourself with special treats once you accomplish it.
LDR can be emotionally challenging due to work commitments or family requirements. Still, this sweet pain can be rewarded with better outcomes if you focus on not just sustaining or maintaining it, but also enhancing and cherishing it with a positive mindset. Set positive goals, do things out of the ordinary, and surprise each other often to make your LDR more exciting.