How To Tell If A Guy Likes You, Over Text?

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Texting has become the new normal for conversation with friends and dating interests. But, at times, it can also make it difficult to understand the other person’s intention. For instance, how to tell if a guy likes you over text? Although the 24×7 messaging apps have made it easier to communicate with people any time of the day, a lot is missed out over text. The facial expressions and body language speak a lot about a person, and text messages make it tough to know if they are being sarcastic, flirtatious, or funny. So if you are curious about a guy you are texting, then read on to know about some signs he likes you.

28 Signs To Tell If A Guy Likes You Over Text

You don’t need psychic abilities to find out if a guy is interested in you. He will behave differently, even over text. These signs can help you in your quest.

1. He wants to know more about you

It is pretty evident that if a guy is interested in you, he would want to know more about you, your likes, dislikes, and interests. He may even ask questions to learn about your friends and family. It shows he is engaging in a conversation to build a connection.

2. He compliments you

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When you like someone, you tend to admire several things about them. Compliments express our admiration. The same rule applies to dating. If a guy gives you compliments, it is a tell-tale sign that he likes you.

However, be watchful as some guys shower compliments even when they don’t mean it. You will know if he is just bragging or saying random things about you or if he is mentioning subtle things about you—the latter shows he is paying attention.

3. He responds quickly

If he replies to your messages immediately, it shows he likes you and wants to indulge in a conversation with you. Also, it indicates he doesn’t like to keep you waiting and guessing.

On the other hand, don’t worry even if he doesn’t message quickly as some guys do not want to look desperate.

4. He sends you long texts

If he spends time writing long, personalized, and thoughtful texts to you, it reflects that he is interested in you. He may want to keep talking with you, sharing his thoughts and stories.

5. He gives you a nickname

Did he give you a pet name and uses it often? Giving you a nickname is one of the common signs that shows he likes you. Notice that he is trying to establish a close connection with you.

6. He discusses what you’d do in his presence

Does he say things like “I wish I was there with you” or “If I weren’t stuck with this work, we would be hanging out ...” These clearly show that he is thinking about being with you as he enjoys spending time with you.

7. He texts you throughout the day

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He keeps texting you throughout the day, and you both share each other’s details 24×7. Does it feel like you both are virtually together? It is a sign that you both like each other’s company and don’t mind chatting all day. He is probably busy, and he still makes time to talk to you throughout the day. It means he likes you.

8. He is the first one to start a conversation

Generally, people find it challenging to start a conversation. If your interest overcomes this hurdle and initiates conversations time and again, it is a good sign. Perhaps he likes talking to you and so he goes the extra mile to get an inch closer to you.

9. He sends you texts for no reason

Do you keep getting messages from him, one after another? Does he check on you or ask you random stuff such as your interests or hobbies? He may also mention something like, “I saw this, and it reminded me of you…” These show that he is finding excuses to talk to you and does not want to lose your attention.

10. He texts you when he wakes up or hits the bed

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Do you find his texts the moment you wake up and before you sleep? Does he try to impress you with morning and night messages? He may want you to know that you are always on his mind. He must be trying to make a connection to ensure he is the first and last thing on your mind.

11. He texts you even on a busy day

You are aware that he is having a busy day, and yet he still manages to text you. It demonstrates that talking to you is a priority for him.

12. He texts you when he is with his gang

Even when he is out with his friends, does he keep talking with you? It is a sign that he misses you and wants to continue the conversation by telling you what he is up to.

13. He texts you flirty emojis

Flirty emojis, such as an emoji with two heart eyes or a hugging emoji, are a great way to show how one feels. However, be watchful as it could be a slippery slope. Some people use flirty emojis with everyone they chat with. If he makes an exception for you by sending flirty emojis only to you, he probably has a soft corner for you. Emojis make the conversation more intimate and eliminate the serious part of the conversation. He may use them to make his intentions clear or make the conversation fun.

14. He keeps you posted about his day

Did his presentation go well or otherwise? Did his friend recover from an injury? What did he have at lunch? You know it all because he keeps you posted about his day’s occurrences. It’s an indicator that he is comfortable with you and likes to share about himself.

15. He doesn’t keep you waiting

A guy who likes you will respect your time and not keep you waiting for replies. He would inform you when he is unable to text and restart the conversation when he can.

16. He double texts you

If you haven’t replied to his message, he might double text you. It shows that he has checked his phone to see if you have replied. Although it may show desperation, it could also indicate that he likes you.

17. He texts you to meet in person

Has he been dropping hints about how much he would like to meet you in person rather than texting? If he constantly asks out for a coffee date or says he wants to show you a beautiful location, these are the clues that he wants to be with you.

18. He shares inside jokes

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You have been texting each other long enough to have things that are funny to you both. It is an unmistakable sign of growing intimacy between you two.

19. He shares important things over text

Did he text you when he got promoted or when his work proposal was accepted? If yes, your guy likes to share the important things of his life with you right away. It also shows that you are becoming an essential part of his life. People share their accomplishments with people they like, and he wants you to be proud of how his life is going.

20. He makes you laugh

Do you get memes, gifs, and funny videos from him? If he sends you all these to lighten your mood, he wants to make you laugh. It shows he cares for you and wants to see you smiling.

21. He remembers little things about you

During a conversation, he might surprise you by bringing up some details that you may have mentioned in previous conversations. For instance, he may ask you if you bought a new headphone as you mentioned the old one was not working. It shows that he pays attention to you and puts effort into remembering things you tell him.

22. He wants to know about your day

If a guy likes you, even little things about you will interest him. He would like to listen to all the details of your day, even stuff like what you ate for lunch or what you wore to office. On your bad day, he may spend hours listening to you to comfort you. All these make him feel connected to you.

23. He shows concern

It is natural to be concerned about someone you like. If he is interested in you, he will show genuine concern for you. He may even ask you questions about you and your loved one’s well-being.

24. He tries to know about your love life

He may ask direct questions such as “Are you seeing someone?” or indirect ones such as “Oh, did you go to the movie alone?” He might also mention subtly that he is single, hoping for a ‘me too’ from your side.

25. He helps you with your problems

Did you mention a problem you were facing? And did he come up with a solution for it the next day? Does he try to help you with projects and share informative links and videos with you? It is his way of telling you that he cares for you.

26. He laughs at your silly jokes

Even if you tell a poor joke, he goes “ha ha ha” or “lol.” It shows that he likes you even at the expense of looking silly. He wants you to feel comfortable with him.

27. He closes the conversation in time

It can get uncomfortable when a conversation is left hanging or ends without proper closure. He may message you an emoji or “catch you later” to end the conversation. It shows that he doesn’t want you to be waiting for further messages as he cares for you.

28. He apologizes quickly

If something goes wrong, he apologizes quickly. For instance, if he misses to message you or sends something to you unintentionally, he says sorry immediately. The gesture shows that he doesn’t want anything to impact the bond that you two share.

Knowing how to tell if a guy likes you over text can help you communicate your interests to him. If he responds quickly, compliments you, asks questions to get to know you, gives you nicknames, sends long texts, and texts you throughout the day, he may be interested in you. Guys may send texts for no reason and initiate conversations when they like a girl. Ensuring you don’t have to wait for his messages, flirting, and sharing about his day are common behaviors in guys when they are interested in someone.

Infographic: Texting Him Back

If it is confirmed that he likes you through texts, your response depends on whether you feel the same about him. Once you’ve acknowledged your feelings for him, our infographic will help you communicate the same to him.

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Key Pointers

  • Knowing someone’s feelings over a text or message can be tricky and often misguiding.
  • If a guy sends you long messages, often compliments you, wants to know more about you, and texts you throughout the day, it could signify that he likes you.
  • Every guy is different, and not every message they send is a true reflection of their feelings.

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