How To Tell If Someone Doesn’t Like You: 15 Clear Signs

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No matter how good you are or how well you treat others, there will still be people who don’t like you. Thus, in this post, we apprise you of how to tell if someone doesn’t like you.

These signs will help you identify those who pretend to like you but, deep down, have a grudge against you. This way, you can cut them off from your life and avoid heartbreaks. Keep scrolling to learn more.

15 Signs On How To Tell If Someone Doesn’t Like You

1. They have a closed body language

People who don’t like you may express through their body language. You can often see such differences between introverts and extroverts too. People who like you lean towards you and engage in conversation. Meanwhile, not looking you in the eyes, leaning away from you, and crossing their arms or legs or both are signs that they don’t like you.

2. They give a fake smile

If a person’s smile doesn’t seem genuine to you, it might mean they do not like you. In a happy relationship, when people are relaxed with each other, there is no need to force a smile. However, if a person doesn’t like to be in your presence, they may force a smile when you interact.

3. They scratch their neck

Scratching the neck is a common sign if someone doesn’t like you. However, it can easily be misunderstood as flirting. When you know for certain that the person is not flirting with you, this can be a sign of dislike. Sometimes, the person may raise their shoulders and try to hide their neck. It means that they are hiding something from you or they disagree with you but are not willing to discuss it further.

4. They try to create some distance from you

If a person is continuously moving away from you while you are interacting with them, they might not like you. While walking away is perfectly normal if they are busy, you need to observe if they do this regularly even when they aren’t busy. Many times, a person who doesn’t like you might avoid you consciously or subconsciously. It simply means they aren’t interested in interacting with you.

5. Their conversations are surface level

If a person talks on a superficial level with you, it can mean they do not care about you. When someone cares, they will want to know genuinely how you are doing. They will ask questions that convey they are interested in you. This may make you feel comfortable enough to share intimate details about yourself. This happens because you know they care and are trustworthy. A person who doesn’t like you will not ask deep questions. They will be careful not to get in too emotionally deep.

6. They purse their lips

If a person purses their lips when you are talking to them, it might mean that they are uncomfortable in your presence. Sometimes, it could also mean that they do not agree with the topic of discussion. If you feel so, change the subject and see if they purse their lips again.

7. They do not maintain eye contact

It is a basic etiquette to maintain eye contact when you are talking with someone. If a person is deliberately looking away from you while you are speaking, it could mean they don’t like you. They do not feel connected to you and so, they do not feel the need to maintain eye contact. They might be more interested in other things around them than what you are saying.

8. They maintain too much eye contact

While not maintaining eye contact is a way to tell if someone doesn’t like you, the opposite is also true. A person who looks you continuously in the eyes doesn’t want to be in your company but feels guilty about their feelings. To overcompensate for their dislike, they stare at you while talking. They do this unconsciously but you can take it as a sign.

9. They don’t mirror your actions

When a person likes you, they unconsciously tend to mirror your actions, body language, or even your voice. It is one of the ways of socializing and making others believe that they are similar to you. However, when a person dislikes you, they do not mimic your actions. They do not see the need to be a part of your circle and hence, maintain their own stance.

10. They do not touch you

When a person likes you, even if you are just platonic friends, they tend to reach out and touch you. Touching is an intimate gesture that shows trust and also that they are interested in you. But if someone doesn’t like you, they will make no effort to touch you. Even if you are in a romantic relationship, and they have generally been open to touch with you in the past, they may touch you as little as they can.

11. They have forced conversations

There are times in everyone’s lives when they are too busy to answer your questions. However, if they persistently show an aversion for conversation and give monosyllabic answers to your page-long questions, it means they are not comfortable in your company or they do not like the topic of discussion. They do not see any reason to be affected by your talk and might withdraw into a shell, giving cold answers.

12. They keep checking the time

If a person doesn’t like you, they do not wish to spend more time than they can in your presence. They look for escape routes and check the time often. It is said that time flies in the company of friends. The opposite is also true. When you are with a person you dislike, time doesn’t seem to move at all. This might cause impatience and hence the constant time checks.

13. They talk only about themselves

While some people give out signs when they don’t like you, some people are too self-absorbed to do so. They are not interested in you or your life. All they want is a person who will listen to them. If a person genuinely likes you, they will ask questions and try to elicit answers from you. People who dislike you will not be too interested in you.

14. They are too busy to meet you

It is understandable when someone cancels a meeting at the last minute. However, if a person continuously drops out of plans of meeting you, you might want to reconsider the relationship. Everyone is busy with their studies, work, children, and errands. But if a person cares about you, they will surely keep some time aside to spend with you.

15. Their feet are pointed away from you

The next time you are meeting someone you aren’t sure is interested in you, take a glance at their feet. A person who likes you will have their feet turned towards you, and a person who doesn’t has their feet turned away from you.

It is sometimes hurtful when you realize that someone doesn’t like you. Especially, if it is a close friend, a crush, or a romantic partner. You might not want to accept the reality. However, knowing that they don’t like you, you can know how to go about next. If there is an awkward vibe when you meet, it might be time for you to leave the relationship and walk away. It will also keep your heart from breaking.

Key Pointers

  • You may be friendly and accommodating, yet there can be people who may not like you.
  • Avoiding looking into your eyes, having a forced smile, and continuously moving away while talking to you suggests that they dislike you.
  • Look for more signs and signals to ascertain the person’s true feelings before moving away from them.

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Jason Polk

(LCSW, LAC)
Jason Polk is a licensed couple’s therapist. He’s a Level II PACT (Psychological Approach to Couples Therapy) therapist and has been trained in the RLT (Relational Life Therapy) model. He’s a certified HOCII (Healing Our Core Issues Institute) therapist. Having experienced his own difficulties in relationships, he pursued a career in couples counseling to learn how to have a healthy... more

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Shikha is a writer-turned-associate editor at MomJunction. Her core interest lies in writing articles that guide couples through their courtship to marriage and parenthood. She also specializes in baby names. Being a postgraduate in Human Resources, she likes understanding people and their relationships. This reflects in her relationship articles, where she deals with both the rosy and the grey side... more