How To Tell Your Crush You Like Them Over Text: 17 Simple Ways

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You met a person some time ago and have fallen for them. Are you unable to share your feelings in person and wondering how to tell your crush you like them over text? Firstly, you need to understand if your feelings are pure love and not just infatuation. Once you confirm, gather the courage to talk to her about your feelings or shoot an ‘I like you’ message. And if you are looking for unique ways to reveal your feelings through text, read this post for some tips that will help you up your game and express your emotions. But remember, do not force your crush to respond immediately.

17 Tips And Ways To Tell Someone You Like Them Over Text

If you’re wondering how to open up to your crush about your feelings, here are some easy and doable tips for overcoming your nerves and speaking your heart out!

1. Think if you really want to say it

Telling your crush about your feelings is not a casual event. You need to think about how you feel about your crush in the first place. Do you want a full-fledged relationship with them or something with no strings attached? This is something you must think about at length before sending a text.

2. Be prepared for any outcome

When you send a text to your crush, there could be three possible outcomes – they say yes, they say no, or they don’t say anything at all. You must be prepared for any outcome. If they say yes, then you should be prepared to take your relationship to the next level. If they say no, you must have the capacity to accept it, and if they don’t respond, you should leave them alone and move on with your life.

3. Be clear

A text is not similar to directly speaking with someone. Depending on the receiver’s mood or their equation with you at the moment, they could interpret your text in a million different ways. You must be sure that your text is absolutely clear about your feelings. If you are unsure, ask a friend to read it over before you send it.

4. Check the number before texting

This is a basic mistake that happens a shockingly high number of times. As you will be nervous at the time of sending the text, mistakes are bound to happen. Check and double-check the number of your crush before you press send. If you are talking or venting to some other friend at the same time, check their number as well because you don’t want a vent message to be sent to your crush, even by mistake.

5. Do not overthink

Overthinking can spoil the best of plans. If you spend too much time planning and thinking about the words, the time, the language, the tone, and the possible replies, you will never be able to send the message at all. Even if you do, your heart’s voice will not go through to your crush. It is best to keep it simple. Stop overthinking and write what you feel in your message box.

6. Make sure they have time

It is not a good idea to text about something so important in the middle of the day in the week when your crush could be at work or doing practically anything. Pick a relaxed time when you know your crush will be in a more receptive mood. Set the conversation going, talk about their favorite topics first, and then send your text.

7. Skip abbreviations

Use abbreviations only when you are texting with friends who understand them. When you text your crush about your feelings, it is important not to use these abbreviations. For one, they make your deep and emotional texts seem childish. Using slang might also put your crush off. Secondly, your crush might genuinely not know the meaning of these abbreviations. This will defeat the purpose of your text.

8. Don’t keep texting

If your crush doesn’t reply soon, it might be tempting to resend the text or ask them to reply. This is one of the basic mistakes anyone can make. Double texting can come off as desperate, and it may also annoy the receiver. Even if you say that there was a network issue, everyone knows what the truth is. Once you send your text, give your crush some space to process the message and reply to it.

9. Keep the tone light

Before you send the text to your crush, keep the conversation light and relaxed. This way, your crush will engage with you more readily. Make them laugh, laugh at their jokes, and in general, make them feel at home in your company. Once you send your important text and they respond positively, you can move on to deeper things. Be patient and move slowly.

10. Get your friends together

This is a crucial point in your life, and the more support you get, the better. Get some of your closest friends together for moral support. As a bonus, you could ask them to check your messages before you send them to your crush. Friends are great for boosting your ego as well as taking care of you in the event of rejection.

11. Ease into the conversation

It is important to let your crush know what to expect before you send a text containing your heart’s desire. Instead of abruptly stating your feelings in the middle of a totally unrelated conversation, try to ease it in. You could flirt lightly over text and then tell them that you want to say something important to them. This way, your crush gets a hint of what is to come.

12. Don’t declare your love

This is the first time you are telling your crush about your feelings. Even if you are in love with them, it would be better if you took things slowly. Do not declare your love in your very first text. This is sure to push your crush away. Instead, try to get closer to them by saying, ‘I like you’, and then proceed.

13. Don’t message continuously

Whether your crush says yes or no, do not keep texting them continuously. It is basic texting etiquette and will be appreciated by your crush as well. It is common for you to get excited if they say yes and start texting incessantly, but it could get annoying pretty soon. Decide a meeting time and place and leave the conversation.

14. Don’t reveal too much too soon

This is another mistake many people make. In the initial excitement of their crush reciprocating their feelings, they reveal too much about themselves to their crush. This makes you vulnerable in the relationship. Spend time with them in the following days and reveal a bit of yourself every time you meet. This way, the excitement in your relationship remains for a longer time, too.

15. Give them an out

You must first accept that there could be an outcome that you won’t like. However, it is your crush’s decision, and you must respect it. When you send a message stating your feelings, you must also allow them the option of refusing your overtures gracefully. Whether you want to remain friends with your crush or not depends on what both of you want.

16. Discuss with your friends

Your close friends are those who have seen you at your best and worst up close. They know what you want and how you are. Talk to your friends about this whole texting thing. Friends are great at giving pep talks and boosting your confidence even when you are not too sure about your crush’s feelings.

17. Don’t play games

This is a time for you to act mature. Stalking your crush or hounding them with endless questions about their unavailability will certainly push them away from you. Even while flirting, make sure you remain within limits. Insulting or belittling them in the garb of a ‘joke’ is a complete no-no.

Saying ‘I like you’ to your crush can be scary indeed. But with these tips on ways to tell someone you like them over text, you can prepare yourself well. As this is not a face-to-face conversation, you needn’t worry about your clothes, location, state of your hair, or stale breath. Focus on your words and make magic with them!

Key Pointers

  • Expressing your feelings for her through texting is not a bad idea if you do it the right way.
  • Make sure you are clear and keep the tone casual.
  • Wait for an answer and do not keep on texting for her response.

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