Have you lately been experiencing vacillating affections for the man in your life? Don’t be surprised if we say it is perfectly normal. On one hand you care for this man, you love to have him around you, but on the flipside, you simply cannot digest some things about him – at times his very presence included. Every relationship carries different strokes, some of which also happen to be situational. Ebbs and tides are expected in any relationship which many couples take as a reflection of a love-hate relationship. When you look back, you may find it funny as to how you could kind of love and hate your man at the same time.
You love him when
1. He treats you on a regular basis:
Women can swoon over their husbands when they take them out on fine-dining, buy them their most wanted outfit or accessories, and take them on weekend getaways. Can there be anything more flattering than being treated so well and so often!
2. He makes you laugh until you are in tears:
If you have a husband who has a good sense of humor, there will be little in life that you can complain about. You are laughing things off most of the time. There is barely any scope to be unsmiling or sullen. Couldn’t be happier, could you?
3. He makes you a meal at the times when you can’t:
Sometimes he could surprise you with a home-made meal. It can turn out to be so angelic if you are sick, tired or held up with work! He comes as your sole savior when you are hungry and all you can think of is for someone to serve you right at your table while you simply recline back and relax.
4. He surprises you with unexpected gifts:
Few sweet surprises could spruce up your love for your husband. Could there be a thing better than surprise wrapped up by the wash basin before you can reach for you toothbrush in the morning? A perfect ploy to make up for a past tiff!
5. He allows you to have the last say:
For the yapping women, it’s nice to have a husband who can allow them to do all the talking. For the opinionated women, it’s even nicer to have a husband who nods to wife’s verdict about things. Guess what, wife’s opinion on things counts even if they aren’t perfect!
You Hate your husband when
6. He is not the cleanest guy on earth:
Men will be men. To make a man understand how to stay organized is one of the most juggernautical tasks. So for the wifeys out there who have got tired of their tutoring falling on deaf ears, we totally totally empathize.
7. He spends too much time socializing:
There is something about men that will have them talking to many people at one time; they are social butterflies that can have gig with pals right on Facebook. His poor female counterpart wants the much-coveted attention of his, which sadly goes scattered at different levels and at different times.
8. The emotional spats:
Men think through their heads, unlike their wives who think through their hearts. So comes the troubled game. Men might not understand the emotional depth of their women. If they did, they don’t know how to reciprocate at the same level. In short, emotional drama means some rough handling for men.
9. Women think husbands are poor listeners:
Actually not. Because if they were poor listeners, they would not choose to stay mum at things that had been discussed already. Women simply love to begin all over again.
10. You wonder whether your marriage has a purpose at all:
After the first few years of being happily married, quite a few couples feel lost. Does your marriage have a goal? Where are you heading to?
11. Somehow the deep connection seems to get shallow:
The mundane life gets the better of you as you progress in your matrimony. Responding to the demands of life makes you feel that your deep connection is falling apart.
Despite the see-saw going feelings between you and your husband, which crop up after the days of dating are far over and you have settled down with each other, the best ways to handle your love-and-hate relationship towards each other is to talk it out, be open to each other, communicate as much as possible and be well receiving of your partner under all circumstances. Curb any blame games, jot down what needs to be discussed, talk to a confidante, else seek professional help. With little common sense in place, you are likely not to take the matter to length and could resolve the little ups and downs on your own.
