Are INFJ and INTP Compatible In A Relationship?

Are INFJ and INTP Compatible In A Relationship?

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Do you know that German physicist Albert Einstein and British naturalist Charles Darwin belong to the INTP (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceptive) personality? Greek philosopher Plato and Russian writer Leo Tolstoy have INFJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling and Judging) personality?

Among the 16 different personality types, INTP and INFJ are two rare types. These personalities are known for logic, rationality, and curiosity. They seek meaning in events, relationships, and thoughts.

These two personalities have two things in common, namely introversion and intuition. The Myers-Briggs type indicator is a personality test that can classify people’s personalities with common characteristics. Based on these characteristics, you can determine which personality can make a good couple together.

Now, let’s see some reasons why INTP and INFJ make a compatible pair.

What Are INFJ And INTP Personalities Like?

INTP personality types are logical because of their reserved and analytical nature. They like to spend solitary time thinking about problems and come up with the best possible solutions. They like to live in their world instead of the external world. They are flexible and adaptable and can always learn new ideas.

Also known as ‘advocate’ or ‘idealist’, people with INFJ personality types have a caring and gentle nature. They are creative people who seek far-reaching meaning in interpersonal relationships and the material world. They are insightful and often think about the meaning and purpose of life. They are rare, constituting less than 3% of the world’s population.

What Makes An INTP and INFJ Click?

Even though both personality types are introverted and intuitive, what sets them apart is people with INTP personalities think logically, while those with INFJ traits think emotionally. It is not that INTPs do not have emotions. They prefer analyzing situations from different angles instead of making decisions based on emotions. Similarly, INFJs do not lack logic, but their compassionate nature makes them more dependent on their feelings.

What makes INTP attractive to INFJ is creativity and humanitarianism. They also appreciate the ability to think out of the box. INFJs are naturally attracted to intelligence, which is why they are attracted to INTP.

Both of them have a strong interest in art and like to cultivate multiple hobbies. They enjoy each other’s unique perspectives, enriching their lives and making them more fulfilling.

5 Reasons Why INTP And INFJ Make A ‘Golden Pair’

INTP and INFJ together are called the ‘golden pair’. Here are some reasons that make the INTP and INFJ couple compatible.

  1. They balance the relationship: If an INTP and INFJ become a couple, they can keep the relationship balanced. For instance, when an INFJ person tends to wander in their romantic world, an INTP partner can bring them back to reality because they are not easily affected. Similarly, when the person with an INTP personality becomes too practical dealing with other people, the INFJ partner will adopt more sensitive and humane methods to refresh their perspective.
  1. Both are introverted and intuitive: Their introverted and intuitive nature helps them enjoy similar activities, such as long and in-depth conversations, learning new things, exploring different ideas, and so on. They like to share thoughts and ideas. Discussing abstract ideas may bore others, but not this couple. They can spend several hours discussing various aspects of it.
  1. They understand each other: Since both are reserved, they understand each other’s need to spend time alone. They understand the complex thinking process when looking for ideas. They will be happy to maintain a long-distance relationship because they happily share each other’s daily activities.
  1. Both are rare personalities: INTP and INFJ make up a small part of the world’s population. This is why the opportunity for them to meet is rare. However, when they meet, they feel like they have met someone who knows them and can establish a deep connection.
  1. Both can help develop a comprehensive approach: Since both have different perspectives, they can benefit from a comprehensive strategy for any situation. They are open to different and unique ideas, and there is a lot to learn from each other. Their love for art, culture, and science will help them enjoy common activities.

4 Challenges INTP and INFJ A Couple Faces

Even if it is considered a perfect match, this rare couple may have itsproblems and challenges. Here are some possible reasons for friction between these two personalities.

  1. Difference in motivations: As a couple, they may be equally interested in innovation and change, but the reasons behind them are different. INTPs pay attention to scientific development to improve living standards or increase business prospects. But for INFJ people, change and advancement should help make the world a better place and eliminate social evils. The difference in the approach may lead to conflicts between the two.
  1. Emotional disconnect: Although both partners can have in-depth conversations, INTP’s conversations revolve around intellectual topics, while INFJ’s may want to discuss more emotional issues. INFJ may ask their partner to share their inner feelings more openly, while INTPs may avoid these topics due to lack of interest and expressing emotional feelings. This may make the partner with the INFJ personality resentful of the INTP.
  1. Difference in priorities: As partners, you may prioritize different things in your life, leading you to take a different path. For instance, INFJs can be ambitious and do not mind moving places to achieve career success. An INTP person may prefer to enjoy the moment and choose to go with the flow. They are not lazy or unmotivated. They value freedom and flexibility.
  1. Difference in lifestyle: INFJs like to follow their plans, while INTPs have a more relaxed way of doing things. INFJs wish their partner to be organized, while INTPs want their partner to be spontaneous. This difference in daily habits and routine may lead to frequent arguments and conflicts.

INTP and INFJ may be a compatible pair, but sometimes the differences between them may be too significant. The couple needs to overcome these differences to strengthen its bond. They can do this by talking to each other or sharing common hobbies, and even looking at a situation from their perspectives. Some adjustments and understanding can make them a ‘golden pair’.


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1. MBTI Basics; The Myers and Briggs Foundation