4 Negative and 3 Positive Influences Of Parenting On Children

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The influence of parenting on children is huge and impacts how children conduct themselves. For example, maintaining a pleasant atmosphere at home could help nurture a confident child. On the other hand, a child who is anxious and nervous all the time may often be exposed to their parent’s outrageous behaviors. Hence it is important to understand that your lifestyle practices and disputes with your partner could largely impact your child’s overall development and outlook towards relationships in life. Altogether, positive parenting and upbringing could positively influence and uplift a child’s life, while bad parenting can affect a child’s esteem, mental health and social life . Read this post to explore the important aspects and consequences of positive and negative parenting on children.

Negative Influence Of Parents On Children

Negative parenting style can be detrimental to a child’s development and behavior. Children who are victims of bad parenting are two times more likely to become a menace to the society.

1. Language:

Couples may show disrespect to each other or others by using a crude language. They may often curse in front of their children. A child may learn how to swear just by imitating his parents (1).

2. Bad Habits:

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The bad habits of parents such as drinking, smoking and lying can grossly affect the physical and mental health of a child. A child who sees his parents following a disciplined lifestyle like healthy eating and regular exercising is more likely to imbibe and practice one himself (2).

3. Relationship Issues:

Tension and quarrel between husband and wife can mar a child’s physical and mental well-being (3). The hostile atmosphere at home will suppress the little ones confidence and desires. It not only takes a toll on his equation with his parents but may also lead to his skepticism and distrust towards relationships in general.

4. Temper:

Children are often the victims of their parents’ bad temper. Such children are likely to develop a mercurial temperament.

Positive Influence Of Parents On Children

Positive influence of parents on children

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There are various positive parenting styles, which can encourage a child to develop healthy habits and good behavior. The parenting style includes clear and reasonable expectations as well as respectful and supportive interactions.

1. Clear Message:

Parents need to communicate clearly the dos and don’ts to their children. For example: If you want your child to clean up the room, say, “Please clean-up the room” instead of “Don’t make a mess.” A clear communication of praise can provide apt motivation to your child.

2. Be A Good Role Model:

According to Mac Bledsoe, the author of Parenting with Dignity, being a good role model for the children inspires them to behave better. Instead of using “Do as I say, not as I do” method, imbibe good qualities in yourselves. Remember parents are a child’s first teachers.

3. Understand Your Child:

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Gary Smalley, the author of Homes of Honor Parenting Manual, encourages parents to understand their children’s personality type and then tailor their interaction. He insists that parents should appreciate their children with a hug or a ruffle in the hair once they do the task. Non-verbal communication too can enhance the understanding parents share with their young ones.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Why are parents important to children?

The role of parents holds great importance in children’s life. Happy and stable relationships with parents may help children in the following ways (4).

  • Enable them to develop happy relationships with others
  • Give them greater ability to stay stable during stressful conditions
  • Promote better mental and emotional development
  • Create a foundation for strong academic skills
  • Help them become great problem-solvers

2. Do parents influence a child’s personality?

A study on 451 participants revealed that parents significantly influence children’s personalities, promoting competence and well-being in adolescence and adulthood (5).

The influence of parents on a child stays for life. Thus, parents should work on positive influences to inculcate healthy habits and good behavior in their children. To do that, parents should avoid negative influences like disrespectful behavior with others, using crude and abusive language, and lying. Instead, parents should understand their child’s needs, communicate with children clearly, and act responsibly to lead by example. Remember, parenting is a responsible job that requires persistent efforts. So, keep working on yourself to be the best role model for your child.

Infographic: Things You Should Not Say To/In Front Of Your Children

Children are highly influenced by their parents’ words and activities. Therefore, check out and save this infographic to learn what you should not say in front of your child.

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