101 Best Insecurity Quotes To Help You Get Through It

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Everyone goes through episodes of insecurity in their relationships. In such times, insecurity quotes can help open your mind and help you embrace yourself as you are. Some people also get insecure and constantly think about the hazards and challenges in their relationship and overlook all the good things around them.

When you fear that your partner will leave you and your relationship will fall apart over time, these negative thoughts can stop you from being in the present and enjoying the little joys of life. These thoughts can also stop you from putting in effort to make your relationship work.

In this post, we have combined several insecurity quotes that will inspire you to remain optimistic about yourself and your relationship.

101 Quotes About Insecurity In A Relationship

Want to know how to deal with insecurity? Check out these quotes about the insecurity that can be relatable to your relationship.

  1. “The problem with human attraction is not knowing if it will be returned.” ― Becca Fitzpatrick
  1. “One of the greatest journeys in life is overcoming insecurity and learning to truly not give a shit.”― J. A. Konrath
  1. “Our envy always lasts longer than the happiness of those we envy.”― François Duc de La Rochefoucauld
  1. “Everybody sees me as this sullen and insecure little thing. Those are just the sides of me that I feel necessary to show because no one else seems to be showing them.”― Fiona Apple
  1. “I was feeling insecure you might not love me anymore”― John Lennon
  1. “I’m interested in the fact that the less secure a man is, the more likely he is to have extreme prejudice.”― Clint Eastwood
  1. “When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self-acceptance opened.”― Shannon L. Alder
  1. “Once you embrace your value, talents, and strengths, it neutralizes when others think less of you.”― Rob Liano
  1. “Insecurities have the ability to shape and mold our minds to live with everything that’s bad; like crying on the inside, while smiling on the outside…thus creating pain…but, alas, I have the answer; forget about what you thought and enjoy (embrace) what you feel”― Jeremy Aldana
  1. “No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others.”― Shannon L. Alder
  1. “Insecurity is the worst sense that lovers feel: sometimes the most humdrum desireless marriage seems better. Insecurity twists meanings and poisons trust.”― Graham Greene
  1. “If you lose your integrity, you will also lose your identity, your sensitivity and your dignity. Integrity is honesty, modesty, and security in all kinds of weather. It should be our priority!”― Israelmore Ayivor
  1. “The things you want are always possible; it is just that the way to get them is not always apparent. The only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life is you, and that can be a considerable obstacle because you carry the baggage of insecurities and past experience.”― Les Brown
  1. “Become your own soulmate. Then you’ll always have someone watching your back, and you’ll always have someone who loves you.”― Rebecca O’Donnell
  1. “Your tears are never invisible—there is always an insecure woman that lights up when you point them out.”― Shannon L. Alder
  1. “Don’t let fear or insecurity stop you from trying new things. Believe in yourself. Do what you love. And most importantly, be kind to others, even if you don’t like them.” – Stacy London
  1. “Anger is a manifestation of a deeper issue… and that, for me, is based on insecurity, self-esteem, and loneliness.” – Naomi Campbell
  1. “Most bad behavior comes from insecurity.” – Debra Winger
  1. “A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity.” – Dalai Lama
  1. “I think what ruins relationships and causes most fights is insecurity.” – Olivia Wilde
  1. “Bigotry and judgment are the height of insecurity.” – Jasmine Guy
  1. “What could he be thinking of? He seemed to be trying to remember something, perhaps an engagement, perhaps an excuse to leave her. For eventually, they all made some excuse.”― Brian Moore
  1. “Two free souls walking together is called love; It’s an energizing experience. Two people (one insecure and other reckless) tied to each other with a rope is called attachment; It’s a draining experience.”― Shunya
  1. “For he himself had experienced to the full the gnawing fear at the bottom of each woman’s heart that she is a drag on the man she loves.”― John Galsworthy
  1. “The greatest feeling of being with you was the fact that I was no longer left alone with me.”― Anan$i
  1. “Only if you could love the other without insecurity, without possessiveness, without reward, then you could taste the real infinite sweetness of life.”― Abhijit Naskar
  1. “Withholding love is a form of self-sabotage, as what we withhold from others, we are withholding from ourselves.”― Marianne Williamson
  1. “A guy is only insecure about losing his girl when he knows someone else can treat her better.” – R.M. Drake
  1. “As your insecurity becomes nourished our relationship becomes poisoned.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli
  1. “Insecurity kills all that is beautiful.” – Anonymous
  1. “Don’t let insecure thoughts ruin something amazing.” – Anonymous
  1. “Only the insecure strive for security.” ― Wayne Dyer
  1. “Insecurities can destroy a perfect friendship and relationships.” – Anonymous
  1. “Distance doesn’t ruin a relationship, doubts and insecurities does.” – Anonymous
  1. “My biggest fear is that eventually you will see me the way I see myself.” – Anonymous
  1. “Fear and insecurity are signs of a strong heart.” ― Jack Skellington
  1. “People confuse ego, lust, insecurity with true love.” ― Simon Cowell
  1. “A man is only insecure about his companion when he knows they deserve better.” – Anonymous
  1. “All a woman really wants is for her man to never give her a reason to feel insecure.” – Anonymous
  1. Relationships are about trust. If you have to play detective, then it’s time to move on.” – Anonymous
  1. “I think what ruins relationships and causes more fights is insecurity.” ― Olivia Wilde
  1. “Sometimes our thoughts are backed by so much insecurity, that they create lies we believe.” – Anonymous
  1. “I have insecurities, of course, but I don’t hang out with anyone who points them out to me.” ― Adele
  1. “Whenever you feel unloved, unimportant or insecure remember to whom you belong.” ― Ephesians
  1. “Never underestimate the power of insecurity, a damaged soul will always love you more than life itself.” – Anonymous
  1. “Things that will kill your relationship – Insecurity, Trust Issues, Jealousy, Lack of Communication, Assumptions.” – Anonymous
  1. “The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.” ― Erich Fromm
  1. “Being different is a revolving door in your life where secure people enter and insecure exit.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  1. “Relationships fail when people take their own insecurities and project them as their partner’s flaws.” ― Steve Maraboli
  1. “A good relationship is with someone who knows all your insecurities and imperfections but still loves you for who you are.” – Anonymous
  1. “We all have scars from previous relationships. Be understanding of your partner’s insecurities, be there for them as they heal.” – Anonymous
  1. “Insecurity is your intuition telling you that something’s not right.. either with them or with you.” ― Charles J. Orlando
  1. “When in a relationship, a real man doesn’t make his woman jealous of others, he makes others jealous of his woman.” ― Steve Maraboli
  1. “Anger is a manifestation of a deeper issue… and that, for me, is based on insecurity, self-esteem, and loneliness.” ― Naomi Campbell
  1. “I don’t let anyone’s insecurities, emotions, or opinions bother me. I know that if I am happy, that’s all that matters to me.” ― Demi Lovato
  1. “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” ― Steve Furtick
  1. “We’re quick to think of people as snobs, little realizing that perhaps they suffer from the same insecurities that we do.” ― Ken Puddicombe
  1. “Love means accepting someone’s fault and insecurities, and loving them anyway and making it through life’s challenges together with your love for each other.” – Anonymous
  1. “In life, there is always someone out there, who won’t like you, for whatever reason, don’t let the insecurities in their lives affect yours.” ― Rashida Rowe
  1. “If there is trust in relationships then what is the need of insecurity and when insecurity is in the heart then what is the meaning of being in relationships.” ― Phudal
  1. “An expectation is a shelter – it gives you a security feeling. So when someone breaks your expectations, he is breaking your shelter, making you insecure, fearful.” ― Osho
  1. “Guys have a level of insecurity and vulnerability that’s exponentially bigger than you think. With the primal urge to be alpha comes extreme heartbreak. The harder we fight, the harder we fall.” ― John Krasinski
  1. “Pretending to be someone that you are not is hurting yourself. It’s telling yourself that the real you is worthless.” – Ritu Ghatourey
  1. “If anyone tries to pull us down, it goes to show that we’re on top of them, so cheer up! Hilarious but true, insecurity reigns in an ugly heart of an empty brain.” – Nini
  1. “Insecurity is love dressed in a child’s clothing.” – Kofi Annan
  1. “Insecurity is a side effect of loving too much but receiving too little in return.” – Anonymous
  1. “The deepest of a woman’s insecurities often come from the men who have hurt them.” – Anonymous
  1. “Chances are that when someone is hating on you, it’s not about you at all. It’s about them. It’s their fear, their jealousy, their boredom, their insecurity.” – Ben Arrants
  1. “Insecurity and possessiveness are the best sign of commitments in a relationship.” – Shankha Shubhra Guha
  1. “Being insecure doesn’t mean he/she is over possessive. Sometimes it means they really feel so scared to lose you.” – Niharika Singh
  1. “Go ahead, feel insecure sometimes. It’s part of being in a relationship.” – Anonymous
  1. “A woman will always be insecure if she attaches her identity and sense of worth to the amount of male attention she gets.” ― Anupama Garg
  1. “Only insecure boys will belittle a woman. The greatest way to “man up” is to empower women.” ― Steve Maraboli
  1. “I’m so loud as if I know what I’m on about, but deep inside, I’m so insecure. Just a little girl.” ― Katie Price
  1. “Insecure people have a special sensitivity for anything that finally confirms their own low opinion of themselves.” ― Sue Grafton
  1. “Go with the one who trusts your insecurities and not your strength. That way they would stick along a little longer.” – AbhiN
  1. “When insecurity starts to rub off on you, you begin to lose a sense of belonging.” – Chinonye J. Chidolue
  1. “Being insecure is a sign of not being completely satisfied with yourself. You feel as if someone can easily take your spot.” – Celebrateyoga
  1. “Envy is the desire to have what someone else has. Jealousy is the fear of losing what you have. The more insecure you are about yourself or your relationship, the more jealous you are, because you are afraid to lose your significant other to someone else.” – Celebrate Yoga
  1. “Even the prettiest woman could feel insecure if she loves a wrong man. What makes her beautiful is a man who can treat her right.” – Anonymous
  1. “Insecure people get caught up in the acceptance of others and lose sight of how cool being themselves actually is.” – Anonymous
  1. “Its nothing wrong with being insecure, but work on YOU before you try and get involved with someone.” – Anonymous
  1. “Jealousy doesn’t show how much you love someone, it shows how insecure you are.” – Celebrateyoga
  1. “One of the worst things you can ever do to a woman is make them feel insecure about themselves.” – Anonymous
  1. “Sometimes is not even about being insecure, sometimes is about being overprotected with our heart.” – Anonymous
  1. “Too many people confuse loving hard with being insecure.” – Anonymous
  1. “Many new lovers and spouses struggle to reconcile themselves with their partners’ relationship history, but it’s an insecurity I left behind in my 20s.”— Mariella Frostrup
  1. “There is nothing more secure in a relationship than a sense of insecurity.”— Amit Abraham
  1. “The first thing that has to be broken down is your relationship to authority. Your insecurity could possibly be the wedge that opens up your perspective on what you think is possible for you to do.”— Ross Bleckner
  1. “It’s a withdrawal of love, coupled with rejection. That combination is hard to accept, and often triggers feelings of not good enough, failure at relationship, insecurity, lack of trust and other feelings.”— John Robert Seeley
  1. “Stop allowing your own insecurities to color the way you interpret someones else’s intention.” – Anonymous
  1. “Being insecure alone is better than being insecure with someone who makes you miserable.” – Anonymous
  1. “Love her harder than her insecurities. Love her deeper than her deepest fears, and prove to her that love conquers all.” – Anonymous
  1. “We all need to meet that someone who makes us feel like our insecurities don’t exists.” – Michael Bliss
  1. “I never gave you a reason to hate me. You’re just creating your own little drama of pure insecurity.” – Anonymous
  1. “Build someone up. Put their insecurities to sleep. Remind them they’re worthy. Tell them they’re incredible. Be a light in a too often dim world.” – Anonymous
  1. “Insecurities in a relationship comes from a deep-seeded belief that you are not lovable.” – Anonymous
  1. “True love removes all insecurities. If you are insecure in your relationship, that’s a clear sign that some love is missing. Love with everything or let it go.” – Tony Gaskins
  1. “These days, insecure in our relationship and anxious about intimacy, we look to technology for ways to be in relationships and protect ourselves from them at the same time.” – Sherry Turkle
  1. “The only person you should ever fear losing in a relationship is you yourself.”― Miya Yamanouchi
  1. “Don’t do things to give your partner reasons to feel insecure. Help create an environment that they can feel loved and at peace with.” – Stephan Speaks

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Is insecurity an emotion?

Yes, insecurity is an emotion that influences how we see ourselves and thus impacts our behavior. Insecurity may stem from external factors and evoke feelings that we do not have control over. But sometimes, this emotion may also come out of consciousness by overthinking and self-doubting.

2. Is it okay to feel insecure in a relationship?

A little insecurity may be healthy as it can drive you to be more loyal and give in to a relationship to keep the partner and the relationship happy. But if the insecurity becomes overpowering, you may start doubting your partner and thinking less of yourself, which can turn toxic.

3. What are the most common insecurities?

Some of the most common insecurities are believed to be:

  • Job insecurity: When you are unsure if you can keep your job for the long term
  • Relationship insecurity: When you feel you are not enough for your partner and fear you will be left
  • Body image insecurity: When you compare yourself to others and think you are not attractive enough

Feeling insecure is quite normal. All you have to do is accept yourself the way you are and have faith in yourself to build your self-esteem. Get inspired by these quotes about insecurity in a relationship, and nurture your relationship with your partner.

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Shikha Thakur

Shikha is a writer-turned-associate editor at MomJunction. Having done a certification in Relationship Coaching, her core interest lies in writing articles that guide couples through their courtship to marriage and parenthood. She also specializes in baby names. Being a postgraduate in Human Resources from Jawaharlal Nehru Technological University, she likes understanding people and their relationships. This reflects in her relationship... more