250 Engaging Discussion Questions For Couples In Long Distance Relationship

A long-distance relationship has its charm but can be difficult to maintain for a long time. But if the intentions and love for each other are strong, it’s a small battle to overcome. In this post, we have curated a list of interesting long-distance relationship questions that every couple can relate to. Asking each other questions about the relationship is one of the most effective ways to strengthen the bond. It will up your conversation and also keep the spark alive between you. You may ask the questions on a date or when texting and keep the dialogue intriguing.

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250 Long-Distance Relationship Questions

We have divided the questions into the following categories. Pick the one that is of interest to you.

These questions can be asked by couples at varying stages of their relationship. You can pick questions that suit your phase of the relationship. However, if you are not sure if you ever asked a particular question to your loved one, then do not hesitate to ask them again.

Growing up and Childhood

  1. What was the best part of childhood?
  2. What was the worst part about attending school?
  3. Who was your favorite school teacher, and why?
  4. What’s one achievement in your college days that you are proud of?
  5. Did you have birthday parties as a kid?
  6. What sports did you play and which one was your favorite?
  7. What was the best surprise you received in childhood?
  8. What was your neighborhood like?
  9. Did you play with the kids next door?
  10. What is the best memory of your friends from childhood?
  11. What’s your all-time favorite childhood present?
  12. What was the coolest toy you ever received?
  13. What naughty things did you do during your school outings?
  14. Did you ever get in trouble in school or college?
  15. What are your best sleepover memories?
  16. Were you good at studies?
  17. What was your favorite book as a kid?
  18. What chores did you love doing?
  19. Did you steal your parent’s car for a drive?
  20. On which teacher did you have a crush?
  21. Who was your first crush?

Family and Relatives

Meeting relatives, long distance relationship questions

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  1.  What makes your family special?
  2. What are your siblings like?
  3. How close are you with your siblings?
  4. Strict, friendly, a mix of both – how do you categorize your parents?
  5. For how long have your parents been married?
  6. How similar are you to your parents?
  7. What was the common complaint from your parents about you?
  8. What do your parents think about what you are today?
  9. Who are your favorite relatives?
  10. Do you often meet your relatives?
  11. Are you close to your grandparents?
  12. What special days does your family celebrate?
  13. How does your family celebrate the holidays?
  14. What’s your favorite meal to eat with your family?
  15. Who would you first go in your family to if you had a problem?
  16. What are your best memories with your family?

Personality Traits

  1. What’s your passion in life?
  2. What task or activity makes you feel happy?
  3. Do you make decisions based on logic or emotions?
  4. How would you describe your personality?
  5. Do you like to perform in front of a crowd?
  6. What type of surprises do you love?
  7. What are the simple things that bring you joy?
  8. Do you cry when you are sad?
  9. How do you deal with sadness and disappointment?
  10. When was the last time you got angry?
  11. Do you stay angry for a short or a long while?
  12. How do you calm yourself down if you ever get infuriated?
  13. What comforts you when you are sick?
  14. What are the signs you are tired or stressed?
  15. Do you love hugging the ones you love?
  16. When have you felt most loved in your life?
  17. Which animal most closely represents your personality?
  18. Do you prefer buying things new or used?
  19. What do you usually splurge on?
  20. Do you believe in saving for the future?
  21. Do you make a budget or take each day as it comes?
Quick tip
You could also discuss how each of you plans your days. Is there a daily planner to jot down the tasks? Which system do you follow while carrying out the activities to be your most productive? You would learn and inspire each other and help achieve goals together.
  1. What are your biggest strengths and weaknesses?
  2. Which personality traits do you dislike?
  3. Have you ever noticed similarities in our personalities?
  4. How do our personalities complement one another?
  5. How has each of us changed for the better since we began dating?
  6. Who is your role model?

Work and Career

Confident working professional

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  1. How did you decide to pursue your career?
  2. What do you consider your best skills?
  3. How confident do you feel in your choice of career?
  4. Do you have a backup career option? Why was it not your first choice?
  5. What’s your biggest career-related fear?
  6. Would you ever work for a non-profit organization?
  7. Do you intend to start your own business?
  8. What do you hope to achieve by 50 years?
  9. Is there anything you wish to change about your career now?

Beliefs and Life Philosophy

  1. What do you think is the key to eternal happiness?
  2. What brings a sense of purpose in your life?
  3. Do you feel guilty and shame often?
  4. What’s your deepest regret?
  5. Are you afraid of death?
  6. Do you believe in life after death?
  7. Are you a religious person?
  8. What is faith?
  9. Who and what has influenced your thinking about religion most?
  10. How do you think the universe began?
  11. Do you believe that each of us has a purpose in this universe?
  12. Do you believe emotional and mental health is important?
  13. Do you have trouble trusting people?
  14. Do you ever feel lost and depressed?
  15. How do you deal with sadness and the feeling of hopelessness?
  16. Do you believe love is essential for human survival?
  17. Do you consider love an emotion or something spiritual?
  18. Did you ever love someone so much that it changed their life for good?
  19. Do you believe in giving people second chances?
  20. Do you believe that even an evil person can change and become noble?

Daily Life and General Preferences

Book reading habits

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  1. How skilled are you at cooking?
  2. Which household chore do you love the most?
  3. Which chore do you hate and seldom do?
  4. What’s your morning routine?
  5. How do you react if your morning routine gets messed up?
  6.  What are your favorite pieces of clothing in your closet?
  7. What’s the most dominant color in your closet and why?
  8. How do you travel to work?
  9. Do you listen to music while traveling to work?
  10. How do your music choices influence your daily emotions?
  11. Do you love buying things online or at a store?
  12. Which is your favorite online and offline store?
  13. Do you keep a wishlist of things to buy?
  14. Do you play video games?
  15. Do you love reading the news?
  16. Do you stream videos and watch shows?
  17. How often do you watch movies?
  18. Do you prefer watching movies online or at a movie theater?
  19. Do you read a book before going to bed?
  20. What books have greatly influenced your thinking?
  21. What are you currently reading?
  22. Do you set the alarm on your phone or wake up without it?
  23. Do you tend to oversleep?
  24. Do you leave some household chores for the weekend?
  25. How do you make your home more interesting?
  26. What’s the secret to being a good homemaker?

Food Choices

  1. Are you a coffee or a tea person?
  2. Do you prefer eating out or a takeaway?
  3. Do you love cooking your own meals?
  4. Have you tried cooking an exotic recipe?
  5. How do you keep your kitchen organized?
  6. Do you love vegetarian or non-vegetarian preparations?
  7. Do you like spicy food?
Quick tip
You could discuss the grocery buying routine, how often, from which store, the budget for every visit, etc.
  1. Do you need popcorn while watching a movie?
  2. Which vegetable do you dislike the most?
  3. Which is your favorite fruit and why?
  4. What is your favorite dessert and why?
  5. Do you experiment while cooking?
  6. Any food that makes you particularly sick?
  7. Which is your favorite drink or cocktail?

Health Preferences

  1. Do you think it is important to exercise?
  2. Do you prefer exercising in the morning or evening?
  3. Do you look forward to your exercise time or push yourself to do it?
  4. Do you listen to music while exercising?
  5. Would you love joining a gym if someone gifted you a free membership?
  6. Which exercise do you find the most difficult?
  7. Do you skip exercising out of laziness?

Travel and World

  1. What makes a good travel companion?
  2. Have you travelled abroad?
  3. Which country’s culture fascinates you the most?
  4. Which country’s culture did you find the most difficult to understand?
  5. Do you go off the beaten path while exploring a new place?
  6. What’s the most interesting place you have ever seen?
  7. Do you know any survival skills?
  8. Have you ever forgotten to pack something really important?
  9. What natural and geographical landscapes do you love most?
  10. What would you choose between a seaside vacation and a hillside vacation?
  11. Do you plan a detailed itinerary before traveling or travel impromptu?
  12. Do you like to go on adventure trips or relaxation outings?
  13. Which is your most preferred mode of transport while traveling?
  14. If you could visit any place right now, then which place would that be?
  15. Which is the most exciting journey you ever had?
  16. What’s the most beautiful place you have ever seen?
  17. What national parks and major landmarks have you visited?
  18. How important is learning another language?
  19. Do you speak any other languages? How did you learn them?
  20. If you could learn any language right now, which language would you choose and why?
  21. Would you move overseas if you have a chance? Why or why not?
  22. Did your family often take vacations when you were growing up?
  23. What’s the secret to an awesome road trip?
  24. Do you consider yourself an urban dweller or a nature lover?
  25. What makes an ideal place to live for you?

Interesting Choices

  1. Did you ever get stuck in an elevator?
  2. Did you ever cut your own hair?
  3. Did you ever get drunk and do something silly?
  4. What is the longest you have waited in a queue?
  5. What is the worst weather condition you have ever encountered?
  6. What do you consider the biggest mistake of your life?
  7. Would you ever consider joining politics if you had a chance?
  8. What is something you regret purchasing?
  9. Which moment of your life would you love to revisit?
  10. Did you ever feel embarrassed in front of a large group?
  11. Did you ever give a speech?
  12. Did you ever lie to someone you loved?
  13. Did you ever speak the truth but still got punished?
  14. Did you ever do something that made your parents mad at you?
  15. Did you ever promise something to someone and then forget about it?

Friends and Friendship

Do friends make good roommates?

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  1. Do you prefer a small group of friends or a large one?
  2. Which friend makes you laugh the most?
  3. Who has been your friend for the longest?
  4. Do you keep in touch with your school and college friends?
  5. Do you enjoy making new friends?
  6. Which celebrity would you like to become friends with?
  7. Does hosting people make you excited or stressed?
  8. Do you find it hard to maintain long-distance friendships?
  9. How many of your friends know your true personality?
  10. How have your friends influenced who you are?
  11. What’s the best movie to watch with a group of friends?
  12. Do friends make good roommates?
  13. How did you positively influence the life of your friends?
  14. Did you ever help your friend get out of a tricky situation? What was it?
  15. Have you ever been betrayed by a friend?
  16. Do you think it is okay to make new friends while slowly forgetting the old ones?
  17. Are there any friends who do not stay in touch with you anymore?

Social Beliefs

  1. What social injustices make you sad or angry?
  2. What do you think are the best and worst ways to help people in poverty?
  3. If you were to support one social cause, what would that be?
  4. Do you enjoy spending time with children and the elderly?
  5. Have you ever volunteered for a cause?
  6. If you had all the money in this world, then what charities would you support?
  7. Do you feel responsible enough to care for the environment?
  8. If you could start a non-profit, then what would you focus on?
  9. How much do you love and care about animals? Strays?
  10. What difficult experiences in your life made you more empathetic?

Questions About Your Relationship

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  1. What are we going to do this year to help us close the distance?
  2. Can we increase the number of our visits?
  3. How can we save money for visits?
  4. How can we better communicate this year?
  5. What is the new thing that we learned about our relationship?
  6. How have we improved each other’s lives?
  7. How can we make our relationship this year better than last year?
  8. What do you think was the biggest communication problem?
  9. What special occasions are coming up? How do we want to celebrate?
  10. Do you believe we trust each other more than we did before?
  11. Where do you see us at the end of this year?
  12. When do you want to close the distance?
  13. How long do you think we should take to close the distance?
  14. When the day comes, how do you want to celebrate closing the distance?
  15. Do you think the distance has helped us grow individually?
  16. Where do you want us to be in five years or in ten years?
  17. Do you ever regret being involved in a long-distance relationship?
  18. How did we grow together in the relationship?
  19. What is something you want me to learn for the sake of our relationship?
  20. Do you ever become jealous? If yes, then why and when?
  21. Are you ever afraid that I may cheat on you?
  22. Are you ever afraid that you may cheat on me?
  23. What is your least favorite part of our long-distance relationship?
  24. What is your favorite part of our long-distance relationship?
  25. Did you have any doubts when we first started our long-distance relationship?
  26. Do you ever feel like being in a long-distance relationship holds you back?
  27. What moment in our relationship did you feel loved the most?
  28. What was one defining moment in our relationship?
  29. Do you think our families will support our relationship?
  30. Do you think we will eventually consider tying the knot?
  31. Do you think we will eventually be together forever and raise a family of our own?

Questions About Yourself

  1. Do you feel loved when talking to me?
  2. How can I make you feel even more special?
  3. What kind of date nights can I have with you when we are apart?
  4. What do you think is my greatest weakness when it comes to our relationship?
  5. What do you envy about me?
  6. What quality do I have that you wish I didn’t?
  7. What attributes of my personality should I improve?
  8. How much personal space do you require in a relationship?
  9. Have you noticed any change in me in the last year? Was the change good?
  10. What is one piece of advice that you would like to give me?
  11. How can I better support your dreams?
  12. How can I better support you emotionally?

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How do I keep a long-distance conversation interesting?

The key to a successful long-distance relationship is to stay connected through various modes of communication. But when days are grim and conversations seem dull, try sending romantic or flirty notes, having roleplay-style conversations, recollecting beautiful memories, or planning your future vacation together.

2. How do I stay emotionally connected in a long-distance relationship?

Being open and honest in a long-distance relationship is fundamental for sailing smoothly. Set time aside every day to talk to each other, share details about your days, schedule your mealtimes together, plan your future together, watch romantic movies simultaneously, or indulge in long video calls.

Being in a long-distance relationship has its own share of challenges and problems. Therefore, you must ensure good communication between you and your partner so that there is less room for misunderstanding. With the help of these long-distance relationship questions, you and your partner can engage in meaningful conversations and get to know more about each other. It also allows you to spend some intimate time with each other. We have included questions from various prospects so that you can have a fun and exciting conversation.

Infographic: Engaging Questions For Long Distance Couples

A long-distance relationship is not always easy, as you may feel lost or detached from your partner. If you want to know your partner better and spice up your relationship, take inspiration from these intriguing questions below, which can help you have deep and exciting conversations with your long-distance partner.

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