25 Clear Signs Of A Married Man In Love With Another Woman

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You had a fantastic marriage. Your man lavished you with love until recently, but now everything appears to be going wrong. You used to think you were a couple, but now you’re not so sure. You’re perplexed as to what’s gone wrong between the two of you.

Is your man entangled in the thorny throes of an affair? Does he have another woman in his life? Is your relationship suddenly dissolving with no apparent explanation? What are the key signs that a married man is in love with another woman?

Determining if your partner is in love with another woman isn’t as difficult as it seems; his actions and behavior will provide enough indicators. Let’s go over some of those key indicators and detect the signs your married man is in love with another woman.

25 Signs A Married Man Is In Love With Another Woman

If you’re looking for signs to determine if your man is in love with another woman, keep reading this post to come to a logical conclusion.

1. He hides his phone

Does he act mysterious when talking over the phone? When he secretly calls someone while you are in another room, you may notice that he speaks in a hushed tone. When his phone buzzes, he sometimes walks away or attempts to answer by lowering his voice. When you question him, he says it’s just one of his friends or a family member. If your man spends too much time on the phone and tries to hide it from you, it’s a red flag and suggests something is up with his secret phone calls or texting.

2. He avoids having sex with you

You crave intimate moments, but his mind becomes preoccupied with someone else’s feelings. As a result, he avoids kissing you, holding your hands, cuddling, or even having sex with you. The rejection of intimacy for no apparent reason is a strong indication that he is falling in love with another woman and, perhaps, the most unambiguous indication that he has no feelings for you.

3. He doesn’t allow you to use his phone

He used to have no problem asking you to check his messages or emails while busy with some work at home. However, now, he refuses to let you use his phone or becomes nervous when you do.  He probably has a password to lock his phone, deletes his call history, or pays more attention to his phone than to you—all these signs indicate he’s mushy on the phone with another woman and is likely hiding something from you.

4. He stops asking your opinions

If your man no longer talks to you as much as he used to or has stopped asking for your opinion on important family issues, you might want to know the reasons. Does he appear to be bored in your presence and no longer seem to be interested in what you do? If he doesn’t contact you for hours or even days, it’s a tell-tale sign that your man has fallen for another woman.

5. He criticizes you

He distances himself from you and criticizes your tastes and choices. He blames everything about you, from the way you cook to your attitude and the way you dress. Next, he starts condescending and belittling you for how you talk or look to lower your self-esteem and make you feel bad. You will also notice that he often appears distracted and no longer behaves as he used to.

6. He doesn’t leave his laptop

He never paid much attention to his devices earlier. Now, it appears that he cannot function without his laptop, computer, or tablet, and he spends hours and hours glued to his devices, often secretly video chatting with the other woman in his life while pretending to work.

7. He mentions another woman

If he constantly tries to bring up another woman in his conversations, it is time to be wary. It’s a sign that the “other woman” has his attention and that he thinks she’s special in some way. If she is a new person in his life and someone he goes out with frequently or spends a lot of time with, it is a clear sign that he is falling for her, even if he denies it.

8. He ignores you

This is one of the most painful signs that makes you realize that you are next to someone who does not give you the attention and respect you deserve. You could spend hours talking, and your man wouldn’t even acknowledge it, or sometimes, you might try to communicate with him, and he would never answer, and you’d be constantly wondering why he ignores you. But, of course, the answer lies in his new-found love.

9. He has new tastes

He’s developed new habits and tastes. You notice a change in his food habits, musical preferences, books, and even movies that he watches. His speaking style has also changed. He may be emulating another woman he’s in love with. If you’ve noticed a shift in his habits and tastes, and something deep within your heart tells you that something isn’t right, it’s time to listen to your instincts.

10. He disappears without informing

He vanishes without a trace on his weekly offs, and he frequently fails to return your calls or messages. He may go on vacations without you or avoid plans that involve you. In addition, you notice changes in his routine and even the time he leaves work. Unusually, he does not communicate when he is away, and the dynamics of his departures have entirely changed.

11. He fights for no reason

At the slight provocation, he turns conversations into arguments. He finds any reason to start a fight with you, and he seeks to have conflicts with you as a pretext to avoid you or not communicate with you. He also holds you responsible for many of the problems that arise, refuses to accept responsibility for his errors, and insists that he is always correct. If you notice your partner becoming irritated, angry or constantly dismissing when you ask for affection, he has most likely fallen in love with someone else. If the other woman demands more of his time, he may start an argument with you to storm out and meet her.

12. He doesn’t want to be seen on social media

If you ever post photos of the two of you together on your social media, suddenly your man tells you not to do so. He also stops posting images of you both.  Your partner’s refusal to post pictures of you two could signify that he wants to disconnect from social media to avoid disclosing his marital status to the other woman he loves.

13. He gets defensive

Does he get angry and defensive when asked about the other woman? He may tell you that “she’s just a friend,” “an old college friend,” or “a coworker.” When you ask him more questions, he becomes angry and tries to accuse you of intruding into his life instead of answering your questions. When a man becomes overly defensive in response to your questions about his whereabouts or association with someone else, it is clear that something is wrong.

14. He changes his looks

Have you noticed your man grooming himself a lot more than usual lately? Is he dressing better, and has there been a sudden change in his appearance? Is he wearing elegant new shirts that he never wears outside of the office or when you are not present, or is he sporting a new hairstyle? A drastic change in his appearance may indicate that he is probably in love with another woman or is trying to impress the “other woman” in his life.

15. He compares you with another woman

He may not have compared you to anyone before, but the moment he does, or if he constantly brings up her name in conversations, it means he is in love with or attracted to another woman. The more he grows attracted to her, the more he notices things peculiar to the other woman. For example, he may suggest how good you would look in that same dress as the other woman, or he may ask, “Why can’t you be more like her.” When your partner considers the other woman to be more important and interesting than you, he probably is in love with them.

16. He has mood swings

Unless he’s had a particularly stressful week at work, his mood is likely to be influenced by the other woman in his life. He is happy and excited when he is interacting with another woman, and when he’s around you, he is grumpy, moody, and easily irritated by your presence. If he misses her or is resentful towards you because he cannot be with her, it’s time you make a sound decision.

17. He’s emotionally distant

Before, he was emotionally available and shared everything under the sun. But now, when he faces difficult situations or requires assistance with something, he confides in others rather than coming to you. If your husband appears to be emotionally withdrawn or distant from you, although you lavish him with love and affection, it is most likely due to his preoccupation with the thoughts of the other woman.

18. He stops complimenting you

When your relationship was going well, compliments poured in, at times even without reason. You could tell he loves you and that he’s drawn to you. However, as your husband loses interest in you, you will notice that compliments have dried out, and he complains more frequently.

19. He skips special days

Does he frequently miss family gatherings, birthdays, and wedding anniversaries or forgets important dates in your life, such as your child’s birthday? When confronted, he may come up with excuses such as increased work pressure and work longer hours. However, in reality, if your man frequently forgets or skips special occasions, it indicates that he is uninterested in a relationship with you and possibly in love with another woman.

20. He doesn’t say “I love you”

If he does not express his love or rarely shows affection, it is a sign that he has fallen out of love. Even if he says “I love you,” the words may sound hollow or forced. He was affectionate with you, but the sudden disappearance of that affection could be a critical sign that your man has fallen out of love with you.

21. He spends more time outside

If your man is a home bird but has been spending more time outside and away from you lately, he’s probably finding happiness elsewhere. When your man makes excuses to be away from you or home, it’s a sign that something isn’t right. He may be spending time with his new-found love.

22. He sleeps late, wakes up early

Have you recently noticed your husband getting out of bed at unusual times or a sudden change in his bedtime routine? Unless he is diabetic or insomniac, he will not frequently be getting out of bed. Remember that there is no better time to message or call the other woman than while you are sleeping.

23. He feels guilty

When a man feels guilty, he may become unusually affectionate or attentive to conceal his affair or alleviate some of his guilt. For example, he may lavish you with affection and attention by giving you extravagant gifts for no reason, doing dishes, or assisting around the house. Guilt-ridden behavior is an unmistakable sign that he is in love with another woman.

24. He avoids eye contact

“The eyes are the window to the soul,” goes the saying. Even if he doesn’t want you to know how he feels about something, he can’t change how his eyes behave. His eyes will reveal whether he is telling the truth or lying. When he has something to hide, he may avoid you by not making eye contact. He’s unlikely to hold your gaze and engage fully with you because he’s hiding a secret that he’s afraid you’ll discover.

25. He accuses you

If your partner accuses you of infidelity, it could be because he is unfaithful to you. When a man becomes involved with another woman, he views you through the same moral lens. Accusing you of infidelity could be his way of deflecting himself from his guilt and core behavior.

Finally, don’t ignore your instincts if you suspect he’s acting strangely, concealing something, or seeing someone else. You know all of your man’s aches and pains and if he’s sad, happy, or lonely. There are almost always hints and warning signs that tell your partner is in love with another woman. If you notice more than two or three of the signs mentioned above, your man may be in love with another woman.

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Shikha Thakur

Shikha is a writer-turned-associate editor at MomJunction. Her core interest lies in writing articles that guide couples through their courtship to marriage and parenthood. She also specializes in baby names. Being a postgraduate in Human Resources, she likes understanding people and their relationships. This reflects in her relationship articles, where she deals with both the rosy and the grey side of things. Shikha’s extensive research skills and coverage of case studies provide the right guidance to parents in choosing baby names.  She holds a certification in Emergency Care: Pregnancy, Infants, and Children from the University of Colorado and Relationship Coaching: the best tools for relationship. Shikha has also done content marketing courses to enhance her writing skills. Before joining MomJunction, she wrote content on health and travel websites and academic papers for various Indian and international clients. She likes to spend her free time binge watching thriller movies/series and experimenting with ingredients in her kitchen.