10 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Never Compliments You

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Do you often wonder, ‘why does my boyfriend never compliment me?’ While you know complimenting could make you feel special and even strengthen your relationship, he might have a different perspective on it. Perhaps he feels that’s not required, and your bond is already strong. Or is he saving the compliments for a special occasion? Delve into this post to explore some of the common reasons why your boyfriend doesn’t compliment you and if there are any ways to fix it.

10 Reasons Your Boyfriend Never Compliments You

Lack of compliments could be an indicator of relationship problems. Here are some reasons why your boyfriend doesn’t compliment you and how you can sort it out.

1. He is really busy

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Your boyfriend must be stressed at work lately or preoccupied with other thoughts about his career or even personal life. He may genuinely not be able to notice anything new about you, therefore failing to compliment you.

What to do: If this is the case, then don’t stress about him not complimenting you. Instead, support his efforts, and eventually, he will compliment you when he is relaxed and in the right frame of mind.

2. He does not find you physically attractive anymore

If your boyfriend never compliments your looks, he probably does not find you physically attractive anymore. So, instead of flattering you unnecessarily, he chooses not to say anything.

What to do: Not all men are into the outer appearance of their partner. Your boyfriend probably admires your intelligence or creativity and may even compliment you for that. If he does compliment other attractive qualities of yours, then why fret? Instead, appreciate his idea of true beauty.

3. He feels too shy

No matter how long you have been in a relationship with your boyfriend, he may find giving compliments difficult if he is a shy guy. It does not mean he does not notice you. He just is not able to express his admiration for you.

What to do: Do not chide a sweet guy just because he feels shy to express his feelings. You can tell him he can be more open with you, but if he still won’t, try to understand him and not take offense.

4. He is a perfectionist

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It could be that your boyfriend is someone who needs things to be in a certain way to feel impressed enough and compliment it. Perhaps he is a perfectionist and finds only perfection alluring. He will compliment you only when something you do is absolutely flawless.

What to do: If you guy is someone with high expectations, you will have to decide if you want to raise the bar and work hard to impress him. It is only when you do something exceptional can you expect some words of flattery from him and you need to decide if that is worth the effort.

5. He takes you for granted

Once a person has been in a relationship for a considerable amount of time, they take their partner for granted. Perhaps your boyfriend feels you will be there with him for the long haul and does not see the need to compliment you or even impress you. The lack of a challenge makes him complacent.

What to do: In this case, talk it out with him. Tell him how his lax attitude toward your relationship may push you away from him. If possible, give him examples of how you have acknowledged his efforts while he hardly notices anything about you.

6. He fails to get a reaction from you

In the past, maybe your boyfriend has complimented you sincerely, but you seemed to brush it off or not pay heed to it. He probably thinks that you do not care about compliments and there is no use giving you one as it makes no difference to you.

What to do: In this case, you can share your feelings with your boyfriend and ask him why he has stopped complimenting you. Tell him that his opinion matters to you and you do feel special when he compliments you.

7. He is aware of your flaws

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Once the initial high of a new relationship fades, you start to see your partner’s imperfections more clearly. Your partner may now be acquainted with these and may not be into you as much as they were initially. This can be the reason why they don’t compliment you.

What to do: This happens in many relationships, and if he can’t accept you with your imperfections, it doesn’t mean the end of things. All you need to do is have an honest and open conversation with your partner. Ask them where they see your relationship going, and based on their answer, decide your next step.

8. He has someone else in his life

When a man gets involved with another person, he stops noticing his partner and focuses on the other relationship. Maybe your boyfriend has someone else in his life, so he does not look at you the way he used to, let alone give you a sincere compliment.

What to do: If you find out your boyfriend is cheating on you, it is best to move away from him. There is no point in being with a man who does not respect you.

9.   He is using compliments to control you

At the start of your relationship, your boyfriend may have showered you with compliments only to impress you and to date you. Now that he has got what he wanted, he may control his compliments to make you work hard to impress him. Alternatively, he may resort to flattery only when he needs something from you.

What to do: If you feel that your boyfriend has been manipulating you, then it is best to let go of any hope for compliments and stay away from such a person.

10. He is reconsidering the relationship

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After getting into a relationship, some people feel nervous about making a long-term commitment and reconsider the relationship. Perhaps your boyfriend is not sure about the relationship and has been having second thoughts, which is why he does not feel like complimenting you.

What to do: If his behavior makes you feel like he is not into the relationship anymore, then sit down with him and talk it out. If he seems unsure, consider breaking up with him as they probably are looking elsewhere before settling for you.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Are compliments important in a relationship?

Yes, compliments are an important part of any relationship. Complimenting your partner makes them feel appreciated and loved. It will help strengthen your bond and show them you are not taking them for granted. Hence, genuine compliments can help you enjoy a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.

2. Why Do I struggle to give compliments?

Some people are unsure of the reaction of the other person to their compliments and are skeptical that they would be misjudged. Others may find it difficult to make a compliment due to general social anxiety. Additionally, there are many who are not comfortable with receiving compliments themselves and may think of others as the same. Whatever the reason, making a conscious effort to compliment your partner can help improve your relationship.

3. How often do guys get compliments?

Men are seen to be complimented less often compared to girls. Men, however, get more compliments on their possessions than on looks or personality.

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Complimenting each other is important in a relationship. But if your boyfriend is stingy with his compliments, that alone does not mean he cares less for you anymore. You can talk to him about it and see if there is a change in him. But if you still feel he never compliments you enough, try not to give it too much importance, especially if you are otherwise happy in your relationship.

Key Pointers

  • Complimenting in a relationship can make your other half feel seen, loved, appreciated, and valued.
  • It can be hurtful to women when their boyfriends do not compliment or appreciate them anymore.
  • Being in another relationship, being busy with the stresses of life, or not getting a response from you are some of the many reasons your guy no longer compliments you.

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Ratika Pai

Ratika has experience writing in various fields including finance, education, lifestyle, and entertainment. After her masters degree in Commerce, she acquired a PG Diploma in Communication and Journalism from Mumbai University. She is inquisitive about human relationships and likes to study people and how they manage their relationships, during her freetime. At MomJunction, Ratika writes insightful and informative articles on... more

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