27 Reasons Why Life Is So Hard And What To Do About It

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You sleep every night and rise every morning to a new day. Instead, what if you died each night and were reborn each morning to start your life afresh every single day?

Would you continue living the way you do currently or try to live differently? If your answer is the former, you are probably happy with your life and do not wish to change anything. But if your answer is the latter, it means you are missing something in life that leaves you dissatisfied.

Each time you ask yourself, ‘why is life so hard?’ it means you are dissatisfied with it. To live a content life, you need to banish this question from your mind. For this, you need to understand the root cause of your problems. Once the reason is identified, you can find ways to solve it. Following are some reasons why life may seem hard for you and the solutions to it.

Why Is Life So Hard: 27 Reasons

Life is hard, even for those posting beautiful images from exotic locations on Instagram. So, don’t worry, you are not alone. And there is always a solution to every problem you face in life. So, let’s have a look at the possible reasons and what you can do about it.

1. You are always dissatisfied with what you have

You hate your car because you don’t like its color. You hate your phone because it is not the latest model. But have you ever been grateful for your car’s efficiency and low maintenance? Have you ever felt lucky to be able to make an emergency call even when your phone’s battery was low? When you fail to see the good in your life and turn your attention to only the difficulties, you feel frustrated, and life seems difficult.

What to do: Try to appreciate what you have and not complain about what you lack in life. If something is bothering you, turn your attention to its good side.

2. You have impractical aims and goals

The goals you set for yourself should be such that they push you out of your comfort zone but not so much that you feel demotivated to work for it. For example, suppose you set unreasonably high goals such as lose 10 kilos in a month or learn professional ballet in a week, then chances are that the difficulty level of the goal might wear you down, and you might give up without even trying your best.

What to do: Divide your goals into two types: small and big. Big goals should be something you wish to achieve over years. Small goals should be such that will help you get closer to your big goal. You will stumble a few times and get pushed away from your goal, but do not give up. Instead, stand up, dust yourself, and set out again to achieve your goal.

3. You fail to keep your promises

Imagine how your life would be had you kept all the promises you ever made to yourself. You tell yourself you will quit social media for a week but then succumb to the temptation in two days. Such a lack of self-control can make you repeatedly feel disappointed with yourself. You start feeling that you cannot do anything. It then may add to your insecurities, and you feel life is hard on you.

What to do: When you make a promise, be determined to fulfill it. Sit alone, access your situation from every angle, and then promise yourself to do something. Once decided, never look back.

4. You refrain from taking responsibility

One of the biggest reasons life may seem difficult for you is that you refuse to take responsibility for your actions. Your car runs out of fuel, you blame the route for being too long, and not your mistake to refuel the tank. You lose out on a promotion at work, you blame the management for being unfair and not your performance. You are accustomed to playing the victim who believes that the world out there is to get you. Your attitude towards life makes you feel pathetic and miserable.

What to do: Change your attitude and learn to take responsibility for your actions. Stop blaming others for anything wrong that happens to you and start correcting your actions. When you do this, you’ll feel content with life and be prepared to face bigger challenges without feeling victimized or intimidated.

5. You focus on others

You may be the most amiable and kind person, but still, some people may dislike you for no reason. Having negative people around you is troublesome. If you pay heed to their poor attitude, it will leave you stressed and exhausted. But they can affect you only until you give them the power to do so.

What to do: When someone is unreasonably rude or mean to you, identify the reason behind their behavior and try to keep away from them. Remember, rudeness is a sign of their shortcoming and has nothing to do with you.

6. You are overcritical of yourself

You bake a cake watching a video on YouTube, but the cake does not resemble the one in the video despite following complete instructions. It may taste good, but you are unhappy because it does not look perfect. The need for perfection gets the better of you most of the time. But when you are often after perfection and fail to achieve it, you get angry with yourself and start hating your life.

What to do: Remember that perfection is a myth. Nothing in this world is perfect. Learn to find joy even in small achievements and celebrate your small successes.

7. You cannot accept setbacks

A journey without bumps and breaks cannot be memorable. Hurdles are a part of every journey, and overcoming them is what makes it worthwhile. When you start something new, you come across several roadblocks. But when you feel perturbed by even a minor setback, it indicates a lack of preparation. A little jolt, and you give up easily on your goal. Such a lack of commitment to one thing can lead to frustration.

What to do: Do not give up. It will be difficult, but if the outcome is worth the pain and hard work, do not let setbacks get to you.

8. You constantly compare yourself

Comparison is a vicious quicksand that can pull you down until you vanish. You tend to make comparisons to feel nice about yourself when you are doing better than someone. But when you see them doing better than you, it can rob your peace of mind and happiness. Their achievements make you lose focus, envy their strengths, and focus upon your weakness.

What to do: There should be no competition in the line with your work. Do not obsess over someone else’s trajectory. When you feel affected by their progress, turn your focus back to yourself and continue working hard for yourself.

9. You struggle with various insecurities

Be it outer appearance or financial condition, each one of us feels insecure about something in life. Even the glamorous and perfect-looking models you see in fashion magazines can suffer from body image issues. You have your own set of issues to deal with. However, when these issues dominate your thoughts and take over your mind, you start feeling unhappy with life and cannot look at your strengths.

What to do: Remind yourself that it is okay to have insecurities. But do not let your insecurity stop you from enjoying life. The next time you feel pulled back by insecurity, remind yourself that your life is not only about it and that there is more to you.

10. You try too hard to make life comfortable

When you collect sand in your fist, observe that the more you tighten your fist, the more it slips out of your hand. Similarly, the more you try to get a firm grip on your life, the more chaos it creates. Solve one problem, and the next one stands waiting instantly. This constant battle with struggles in life can test your patience and make life seem difficult.

What to do: Some things are beyond your control. Instead of brooding about them, focus your energy on something that you can control. Learn to accept your current situation and be prepared for surprises that life throws your way.

11. You lack freedom in life

By the looks of it, you may be a free person. But what no one knows is that you are being held back by your fears, anxiety, and insecurities. You may have dreams for yourself, but your worries keep you from exploring your full potential. Each time you consider taking a step forward, you are pulled back by self-doubt and a lack of confidence that scares you with irrational justifications.

What to do: When confronted by fears, tell yourself it is only a fiction of your mind and that you need not fear something that hasn’t even happened. Avoid taking undue risks, but do not keep yourself from going after a goal only because you are afraid to confront your fears.

12. You make decisions based on your emotions

Have you ever slacked at work because you were upset with a colleague or missed a deadline because you were having problems with your partner? You are well-aware of the repercussions of your actions but still, act in a way that is not favorable for you. Why? It is because you function on your emotions. Your decisions are based on how you feel than what you are supposed to do, which puts you off track from your plans.

What to do: Before making a decision, ask yourself if it is the right thing to do. Determine if your decision in any way deviates from the path to your goal. If not, go ahead and keep focused on getting closer to the big goal in your life.

13. You do not want to give yourself time

Life feels impossibly difficult when you set out to achieve a target in an unreasonable amount of time. For instance, you decide to find yourself a partner in the next couple of months and get married by the end of the year. If things do not go your way, you start feeling frustrated and dismiss your life as too complicated.

What to do: Good things in life do not come too easily or quickly. To enjoy a good life, you have to practice patience and perseverance. Do not haste to get success quickly.

14. You are probably low on luck

You may or may not believe in it, but ‘luck’ is indeed for real. Imagine one day, because of an emergency at home, you arrive late to work, and that is the day when your boss has arrived on time. You have a record of reaching before time, but your bad luck made it a problem for you one day. Luck is a fact of life, and there is nothing much you can do about it. So, don’t fret over it.

What to do: Hard work and sincerity can beat bad luck. Do not worry about your boss. If your work is good, arriving late one odd day will not make much of a difference. Similarly, having a sincere approach to everything you do helps tackle bad luck effortlessly.

15. You are dependent on others for your happiness

Happiness is real when it comes from within. When you are not happy with yourself and seek happiness from people around you, you start living vicariously. Their state of mind becomes your state of mind. Your life is then dictated by their moods. And life becomes worse if they decide to make it difficult for you.

What to do: Remember that no amount of money or love from another person can make you happy. External factors can fulfill your personal needs, but for happiness, you have to look inwards. Learn to accept yourself and be comfortable being who you are.

16. You expect life to be easy

Blood, tears, and sweat is not just the name of a Korean boy band but also what you need to put in when trying to achieve something in life. Nothing comes easy in life, and if it does, then it does not last long. The faster you accept this fact, the easier it will be to focus on your aims in life. But if you keep giving up on something because it is tough to achieve, you will not reach anywhere in life.

What to do: Whatever goal you decide to achieve in life, remember to give it your all. Be prepared to take on any kind of challenge that comes your way. Do not be disheartened by failures.

17. You are afraid of criticism

When was the last time you refrained from doing something only because you were afraid of what people would think of you? If your answer is a recent past, then you care too much about others’ opinions about you. This is especially true about criticism. You may not know how to handle critique for your work and may despise having your work judged. You take bad reviews to heart and feel inept and incompetent when someone finds faults in you or your work.

What to do: Do not be afraid of criticism. Listen to what someone says and see if you can improve on whatever they point out. Be flexible and open to change. When you are willing to change, you no longer have to fear being judged.

18. You expect too much from yourself

Your current capacity may be to run one mile in 15 minutes, but you expect to run a mile in eight minutes. And when you are unable to cover the distance in your desired time, you feel disappointed with yourself. It is good to aim high in life, but first, you need to check your current standing based on which you decide how much you need to work upon yourself.

What to do: Write down what you want to achieve for yourself. Then list down your strengths and resources you have. Also, list the resources you need such as a skill or equipment to get to your goal. Start working on it right away.

19. You are not a good judge of people

Relationships play a big role in our lives. A good and healthy relationship can bring out the best in you, while a toxic relationship can push you into the darkest pits of pain. You may be a naïve and loving person who is unable to see the wrong in people. When in love, you trust your partner blindly, and unfortunately have always had your fingers burned in the bargain.

What to do: No relationship is more important than yourself. Walk away from anyone who makes you unhappy. Also, heartbreaks should not deter you from falling in love again. Learn from your bad experiences but do not dwell in them.

20. You are unable to conform to society standards

No two people can be the same. Not even twin siblings. So, how can everyone conform to society’s set standards? Every single person is unique, and so are you. Your opinions, perception, and ideas make you different from others. And when you do not match with the majority, chances are you will face opposition and even ridicule for not fitting the mold set by society. You may feel lonely and may wonder if something is wrong with you as you cannot be like everyone else.

What to do: Know that it is fine not to blend with the crowd and be different. Leading your line is better than getting lost in a crowd. Respect your uniqueness and opinions.

21. You are unhappy with your current job

Spending eight hours a day, five days a week doing something you do not enjoy, can suck the life out of you. Being underpaid only adds to the injury. Being stuck in a rut can take a heavy toll on your mind and cause physical and mental health problems. When you are unable to cope with daily work pressure, life can seem impossibly unbearable.

What to do: Update your skills by enrolling yourself in a new course and get an additional degree that can help you secure a job of your choice.

22. You find it challenging to stay fit

You feel upset, you eat. You are angry about something, you eat. You are sad about a breakup, you binge eat. Comfort eating is extremely common and comforting. But the comfort is temporary, while the guilt may haunt for days. But controlling your diet can feel impossible because you are so accustomed to eating your sorrows, anger, and even guilt.

What to do: Do not struggle to maintain your diet alone. Consult a good nutritionist who can guide and help you develop good eating habits and curb excess hunger. Also, make time to exercise daily as it can refresh your mind and help shed excess weight.

23. You are financially unstable

No matter what one says, many things in this world are not free. No doubt, money is essential to living a comfortable life. If you lack money, life will certainly be hard for you. But if you have the will and determination to get out of a problem, you will be out of it someday.

What to do: Look for opportunities in companies that pay well and see what they are looking for in a candidate. Update your skills and personality according to their needs. Don’t be disheartened, and keep working on yourself.

24. You have a physical disability or a life-threatening disease

Being differently-abled can be challenging. People around you may not understand your disability and may isolate you. It can affect you emotionally and make life insufferable. Similarly, people suffering from life-threatening diseases experience loneliness and depression. The pain attached to certain conditions can break even the strongest of individuals.

What to do: As a differently-abled person, you need to embrace your individuality. Make efforts to be self-reliant as much as possible. Find friends who can relate to you and with whom you can share jokes. If you are suffering from a life-threatening disease, do not lose hope yet. Enjoy every precious moment of your life and hope for the best.

25. You are unable to adapt to the changing environment

The job you held for two years suddenly becomes redundant due to some technological advancement. The degree you secured five years ago loses importance because the related jobs are scarce. Our world is constantly changing, and you need to change with it, or you will be left behind. This constant change intimidates you, and you feel that you may not be able to cope with it.

What to do: You need to change your mindset and not fear change. Your skills and specialty need some honing every few years. A little effort can take you a long way to help you survive and thrive.

26. You seldom have the time to indulge in hobbies

Meeting the needs of a modern lifestyle is no easy task. Managing work and home can leave hardly any time for yourself. And if you have a side gig, you can say goodbye to personal time to make some extra bucks. Your work and personal commitments may spare you no time to indulge in activities you enjoy doing, which can leave you unhappy in life.

What to do: Take as much work as you can complete easily. Do not stretch too much as it will eventually impact your health and you will be spending more on correcting the damage. On holidays, keep free of any kind of commitments and spend time doing only what you do not get to do otherwise.

27. You find it difficult to change

Lastly, all the solutions mentioned above are futile if you are unwilling to change yourself. Timely and appropriate change is crucial for the growth of every human being. But if you make no efforts to change, then nothing can help you. You need to be open to changing yourself from time to time and learn to adapt as per circumstances.

What to do: Convince yourself that change is good for you. Make yourself feel excited to help yourself. Have a firm belief that healthy changes will make your life more meaningful and beautiful.

It is a universal fact that life is tough. Not just for you, but for all. But when you understand our ever-changing universe and try to change along with it, life starts to move in your favor. Achieving big feats in life requires commitment, sacrifice, and determination. You will face a ton of difficulties, and that is a given. But do not ever lose hope and keep going as life always has surprises in store for you.