15 Clear Signs An Older Woman Likes You

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Age is but a number! In our society it is pretty much okay for an older guy to date and even marry a woman much younger to him in age. It is in fact so prevalent that no one bats an eyelid at this. But talk about a mature woman dating a guy and people become judgemental and critical. It is not considered ‘normal’. However, feelings and emotions have no age. The heart is forever ageless!

The ways in which an older woman makes her feelings known to someone can be intriguing. Some signs are so subtle that they can be discerned by only the most alert eye. So, in this post, we apprise you on how to tell if an older woman is attracted to you. Read on to learn the subtle signs an older woman gives out when she is truly into someone.

15 Signs An Older Woman Wants You

When a woman is attracted to someone, she subconsciously behaves in a certain way that indirectly gives away what she feels for that person. Here are some signs an older woman likes you.

1. She openly flirts with you

A woman flirts with someone she likes and is comfortable with. If this older woman you like tends to turn every conversation into flirty banter, it could mean she likes you. If she is a confident woman, she will even ask your opinion on her new dress or even lipstick to ensure you notice her. The way an older woman flirts with you, in an overtly bold or subtle manner, depends on her level of self confidence and personality.

2. She acts like a kid with you

She is different with you

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Your woman of interest may be quite mature in her behavior with others, but with you, she is different. She may act like a little kid with you who is excited and giggly all the time. Her tone of speech also changes as she speaks like a child that shows she is interested in you.

3. She shows interest in knowing about you

Usually, older women lead a busy life and do not pay attention to new people in their life. But, if she shows interest in knowing your likes and dislikes, personal preferences, family, friends, and relationship status and remembers the details you mentioned to her, it could be because she likes you. An older woman will watch you more keenly and compliment you on things which an ordinary acquaintance may overlook. The compliments may be about your looks, personality or may be even subtly sexual.

4. She asks if age matters to you

She casually asks if age matters to you in a relationship when talking to you. She may even give you a reference to a couple where the woman is considerably older than the man and asks your opinion about them. She wants to know if you are open to dating someone older.

5. She goes out of her way to do things with you

Differentiate kindness from liking

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There is a difference between kindness and liking. If an older woman offers to share her food once with you, it is her kindness but when she goes out of her way and cooks something that you like, then it shows her interest in you. It’s important that you differentiate between her trying to impress you or being polite and nice to you.

6. She directly or indirectly lets you know her single status

An older woman interested in you will either straight off tell you that she is single and is looking out for someone or she may hint at it without making it obvious. For instance, she indirectly mentions how she would love to have someone to accompany her to the movies or check out a new restaurant. She may also mention casually that she hasn’t been in a relationship or on the dating scene for a while.

7. She talks about marriage and commitment too often

Marriage is a topic an older woman raises only with her close friends. If she talks about marriage and serious commitment with you, it could mean she trusts you and probably wants you to know what’s on her mind. She could indirectly tell you that she is looking for a serious relationship.

8. She ignores other men

Other men don’t matter when she is with you

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She has eyes only for you, and other men don’t matter when she is with you. Even men her age do not interest her as she is interested in you. In a group of people, she will look only for you and will have a broad smile on her face when she spots you.

9. She tells you about her personal life

Older women open up only to someone they trust. If this woman shares details of her personal life with you, it shows how much she trusts you.She may boldly ask you about your relationship status or make playful guesses. It could also indicate her interest in you and that she wants you to confide in her and strengthen your bond.

10. She shares her past with you

Not every woman is comfortable talking about their past. But if an older woman willingly talks to you about her past relationships, she could be giving you a glimpse into her life. She might want you to know more about her and understand how she is as a person. Her complete honesty is a clear indicator that she wants you both to have a closer and intimate relationship.

11. She texts you late in the night

An older woman texting you late at night means she is thinking of you at that odd hour. It could reflect her attraction toward you because she thinks of you at night and texts you, so you too think of her.

12. She doesn’t mind sharing dirty jokes with you

She is comfortable with your naughty side

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Sharing dirty jokes is common between friends, but if an older woman shares them only with you, she is comfortable being herself with you. She may like you and does not mind you seeing her naughty side. She may make naughty and bold remarks that will make you gasp with laughter. A super confident older woman will take the liberty of making blatantly provocative comments to show that she considers you attractive.

13. Giving other non-verbal cues

An older woman who is interested in you may touch you often either playfully or subtly. She may ‘accidentally’ brush up or stumble against you, fix your tie or speck off your clothes. This is the most revealing sign of her interest in you. She will break the ‘touch-barrier’ with a casual or flirtatious touch to your shoulders, arms, or chest.

She may also give you non-verbal cues like running her fingers through her hair, tilting her head to expose her neck or touching her face and lips. She may lean her body towards you, give side-long glances when she feels you aren’t looking. These all are strong indicators of her attraction towards you. She may speak more softly which may cause either or both of you to lean closer to each other.

14. She dresses differently around you

At work, she follows the dress code but invites her for lunch and finds her in a sexy and ultra feminine outfit, showing off her admirable figure. In fact, she may even seem like a different person when alone with you. She could do this to gain your attention and look more appealing as she likes you.

15. She mentions other men’s interest in her

She tells you when other men are interested in her

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When an older woman tells you about how men have been hitting on her, it could mean two things—first is that she might want you to know that she is considered desirable by other men, and second is that she might be psychologically priming you to ask her out by making you realize that she is popular with the opposite sex.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What attracts an older woman to a younger man?

Older women are attracted to younger men for the following reasons:

  • She is not attracted to men of her age
  • She likes to take the lead in decision making
  • Dating someone younger makes her feel younger again
  • Men of the younger generation are more fun to be with
  • She has previous relationship experience and knows how to handle things

2. What is a Jaguar woman?

Jaguar woman is a term used to refer to women belonging to the age group of the 50s and dating someone significantly younger than her.

These older woman ‘likes you’ signs give you an idea if she likes you or not. However, even if she shows most of these signs, it does not guarantee that she will accept a proposal from your side. Spend some more time with her and try to understand her better before you take the final step of asking her out.

Infographic: Other Ways Older Women Use To Display Their Adoration

Interested in an older woman, but not sure if she likes you back? This infographic brings you subtle signs that are ways she could be hinting at her liking towards you.

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Key Pointers

  • The ways an older woman shows her fondness could differ slightly from the younger lots.
  • She might be exhibiting certain obvious expressions and body language signs to express her admiration for you.
  • Sharing her secrets, flirting, and always being available for you are some indications that she is into you.

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Monk Sadhvi Nishtha Om is a practicing psychologist and psychotherapist in India. She has worked with children, adolescents and adults using tools such as Therapeutic Meditation, Inner Child Healing, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Emotional Empowerment Technique (EET) in a career spanning more than a decade. She holds a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from the University of Delhi, India....
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