15 Signs Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

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A breakup usually means the end of a relationship. You must have accepted it and moved on, but what about your partner? Have they moved on too?

Looking for some subtle signs will help you know if they’re over you or not. Not-so-usual behavior like following you on social media, commenting on your pictures, asking your friends about your well-being, or spending time in areas closer to your home or workplace to bump into you or check on you are some of them.

That’s something you don’t expect or want after a breakup. So, if they are indulging in such behaviors, does that mean they still have feelings for you? Read this MomJunction post to find out more about the signs that suggest your ex still has feelings for you or still loves you.

Signs Your Ex Still Has Feelings For You

Moving on is not as easy as it sounds, especially when you’ve been in a relationship for quite a while or when you truly loved each other. Some can move on by making an effort, while some find it hard to let go. Your ex-partner may be one such person if they show the signs listed below:

1. They keep texting or calling you

Your ex-partner wants to be in touch with you. Is it the most apparent sign to know that they still have feelings for you? It could be. Though they might have no intention of getting back together with you, they still message or call you to inquire how you are or just to talk. If they are trying to be in contact with you long after the breakup, it may indicate they still care about you and have feelings for you.

Nonetheless, caring doesn’t always mean that they want you back in their life. So, unless they tell you directly, don’t assume anything.

2. They follow you on social media

If your ex is following you on social media, it might mean they have not moved on. They might still want to know what you are up to in life, whether you are into a new relationship or still single, and whether you are happy or not after the breakup.

All these signs signify that they might have some feelings for you. But they don’t tell whether or not they want you back.

3. They don’t return your stuff

As a way to move on, you might delete your partner’s pictures and get rid of their stuff after the breakup. But your ex is not willing to return your belongings. They want to hold onto your stuff even after the breakup.

This behavior could indicate they have not accepted the breakup. It might also be possible that they are giving you subtle hints that they want to make things work between the two of you. Or they want to keep your things to remember you.

4. They contact your friends, or their friends contact you

Do you get messages or calls from your ex’s friends asking you questions such as ‘how are you?’ ‘how is life?’ or statements like ‘you seem to be happy’ or ‘how well you have moved on.’

That could mean your ex wants to know about you but doesn’t dare to contact you directly. They could be missing you but do not want to convey their feelings. Similarly, your ex might be contacting your friends as well, to know about your well-being. Such behavior shows that they are still into you and at least want some reaction from you.

5. They cross your path

Do you find your ex wherever you go? At your gym, near your workplace, or in your neighborhood? Once or twice, it could be a coincidence. But if you both are crossing paths almost every day and almost everywhere, then they might be doing it deliberately.

These cues might tell you that your ex still loves you and wants to see you regularly. Or they want to be with you again, but they are too afraid to admit it. Whatever it is, the feelings are still lingering in their hearts and that. And that is alright as long as they are not making you uncomfortable.

6. They get jealous or want to make you feel jealous

You can’t erase all the feelings you have had for your ex-partner overnight. Even after you break up, you may have some feelings for them that you cannot brush aside. One such feeling is jealousy, which your ex will have if they still love you. They might feel jealous because you have moved on, or they might try to make you feel insecure by sending you happy pictures with friends or a new partner.

7. They are not moving on

You have moved on after breaking up with your ex, but you find out they haven’t. They are neither dating nor trying anything new in life. They are possibly even depressed. This emotional state of your ex could signal that they still want you back in their life, and they love you. Or, it is possible that they have been so addicted and habituated to you that they have no idea what to do with their lives after the breakup.

8. They repeatedly block and unblock you

After the breakup, your ex blocks you. Well, that says that they do not want to communicate. But then they unblock you after a week or so. That means they have opened a channel of communication. But neither they nor you initiate the conversation. And again, they block you. If the cycle of blocking and unblocking repeats, it might mean your ex has feelings for you but is unsure what to do about it. You don’t have to feel obligated to respond or react to this. Just give them some space and time, and they might heal. Taking a break in a relationship could help.

9. They display strong emotions for you

Is your ex-partner acting weird after the breakup? Do they get furious over your social media activity, or do they come to you at odd hours to apologize? Not everyone can handle a breakup, and these reactions could be due to the trauma of the loss they feel. Such behavior signals that they seriously have feelings for you and are unable to get over you.

chances are that they are trying their best to get over you, or they want you back in their life. If you don’t want to continue the relationship, you should handle this situation carefully. It is wise not to react and to ignore their behavior as much as you can.

10. They are apologetic and miss you

You have broken up due to the constant fights and arguments. You blamed each other and were unable to come to a consensus. But now, your ex suddenly takes all the blame and is apologetic for whatever happened. They say they miss you a lot, but they are not clear that they want you back.

They might say they miss you and have feelings for you, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they want you back in their life. So, hold on to your thoughts and try not to jump to conclusions.

11. They drunk dial you

If your ex is getting drunk and calling you even after your breakup, it could mean that they are still into you. Whether they appreciate you, blame you, show anger, or sound depressed, they have you on their mind, and that’s why they dialed your number.

Even random messages from your ex suggest that they still miss you. But because they are not completely in their senses, you can’t be sure.

12. Their conversations are all about you

Post-breakup, you happen to bump into your ex and start talking. That’s when you realize that the conversation is all about you. They talk about the good times you both have shared, they recall your good and bad habits, they confess something they did while you were together, or they just smile thinking about those times.

If they’re only interested in talking about you instead of telling you about their own life, they probably still have feelings for you. If they do, they will only bring up the good things about you, whether or not they intend to repair the damaged bond.

13. They are always available for you

Whether you want to share something private, need help, or advice, your ex always seems to be right there for you.It means that they value your relationship and respect you. Both of you might have moved on in your lives, but they still give you time. That shows the feelings that used to be there have not disappeared and still linger in their hearts.

14. They try to open up to you

Your ex tries to talk to you, opens up, and even wants to see you. They convey they might want to be friends with you. They might share about their day or ask you if you are dating. Primarily, they act like they want to stay connected with you. That could mean that they still have feelings for you and are not ready to part. At the same time, they are unsure about getting back together with you.

15. They have disappeared

Yes, you read it right. Complete disappearance of your ex could be a sign that they are still in love with you. You don’t find them on social media; they are not seen with their friends often, and they do not answer your calls. Such behavior might mean that they are unable to handle the intense emotions of breakup in a healthy way.

If your ex has most of these signs, then it could mean that they are not over you. Next, we talk about the different ways in which you can deal with such behavior.

What To Do If Your Ex Has Feelings For You?

Here are a few things you could do to avoid making the already uncomfortable or awkward situation worse.

  • Do not panic if you sense that your ex has feelings for you. If your relationship has ended on a bad note, and you don’t want to get back with them, it is okay. It is your life, and you don’t have to return to a relationship based on the difficulties they are having with moving on.
  • Are you thinking of getting back with your ex? Before you decide, recall how your life was when you were still together and compare it with how you feel in your current life. If you think you were happy with them and they are also keen on giving the relationship another chance, talk to them about it. If you are satisfied with how you are both communicating, you may want to consider getting back together.
  • If you are not sure about going back to your ex, wait for their response. If your ex is simply showing you that they have feelings but not explicitly telling you about it, then you should hold on. Let them convey that they want you back in their life. Until then, don’t pay much attention to their behavior.

Once you have broken up, you should carefully move ahead in your life. Do not make any hasty decision even if your ex wants you back. Your decision should never be based on their feelings alone because you must follow your heart and do what you want to do. Think about what you want in life and what makes you happy. Talk to your friends and family, and then make the right decision for you. Whether with or without your ex, the goal is for you to be happy.

Are there any other signs that an ex can show? Let us know in the comment section below.

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