25 Signs He Cares About You (More Than You Think)

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Every woman has faced a situation of being unsure about whether the man she has been seeing likes her or not. So, what are the signs he cares about you? And it is not only for the ones who are dating. Even married women might face similar situations once in a while. So, if you are in such a dilemma, this post is for you. We have put together a list of signs a man usually loves a woman and wants her in his life.

25 Signs That Show He Cares About You

Below is a list of the things to look for in your partner to know how serious he is about the relationship. However, exercise a little caution while looking out for those signs — do not blindly look for them. It’s just a route map to find your soul mate, and you need to find out the actual route with your own experience.

1. He listens to you patiently 

Most of us like to express and find it difficult to hide our emotions before our loved ones. When you express your feelings for him — whether they are silly, serious, emotional, humorous, or utter non-sense — if he cares for you, he would definitely listen to you patiently. He may not be a very good listener to everyone in his life, but if he is all ears for you, it is a great sign.

2. He prioritizes your happiness

Until someone enters your life, it’s okay to be self-centered and selfish as nobody knows what exactly you need more than yourself. But once you have a partner, it makes sense to know and do what makes them happy, even if it goes against your interest at times. Finding happiness in a partner’s joy is what makes a relationship more beautiful and valuable.

So, if he puts you and your happiness above his and finds pleasure in doing that, he cares for you. More importantly, if he has a self-centric personality but wants to change to accommodate you in his life, he has scored full brownie points.

3. He gives you an explanation

Mistakes happen—not just in a relationship, but also in all walks of life. Your partner might also be guilty at times, but how he conveys it to you and how he tries to make you feel good is important.

If he cares for you, he will try to explain what he has done and what went wrong. Making an effort to let you know everything about it is one of the best qualities you can appreciate about him.

4.  He surprises you on special days

 If you like surprises, like most of us do, your partner would certainly try to amaze you with one. Whether it is your special day or a moment of achievement or even for no reason, if he knows that you love to be surprised, he would certainly plan a few.

That said, if you haven’t received any such surprises, don’t conclude that he doesn’t care. Only some men have that interest to plan surprises, while others find it boring. So, they may be planning for other options to care for you. Based on the type of guy you’re dating, you can check for this sign.

5. He is a little possessive 

A little jealousy or possessiveness from your closed ones is cute, and it stands true for your guy too. You might find him a little out of the place when you’re with other guys or your close ones. There is nothing wrong with that. Even we do feel a little envious when our partner acts close to another woman. In fact, it is a sign that he may be serious about you.

6. He prefers to spend time with you 

No matter how busy he is, if he is making time to talk to you, meet you, or just greet you, you can count on him. It doesn’t mean he should call you every hour to stalk you. If he puts in the effort to meet you so that both of you can have some good private time together, it means he enjoys your company.

7. He is genuinely happy for you 

A true partner is someone who is happy when you’re happy and sad when you’re not. He would be there for you in your ups and downs. It’s not easy to celebrate someone else’s achievement or stand by them in bad times. You can feel it only when they are really close to your heart. So, if you find your significant other is genuinely happy in your best times and is always there for you when you’re down, he definitely cares for you and your happiness.

8. He’s your go-to person when you’re upset 

Happiness is something we tend to share with anyone. But when it comes to sad things, we become choosy — we share them only with our closed ones. If your partner is the first person that comes to your mind when you have to pour your heart out, you can always count on him. He will not only listen to you, but also try to convince you that it’s okay to feel that way and assure you that he always has your back.

9. He is curious about your interests or hobbies 

Doing something both of you like helps strengthen your bond. But knowing each other’s interests and hobbies and doing things the other person enjoys make it a perfect relationship. If he really cares for you, he will make an effort to know your likes and dislikes and act accordingly.

10. He makes you feel important 

You might be his queen when you both are in your private space, but how he treats you around people can say a lot about his personality. If he is naturally shy, he may not engage much in PDA (public display of affection). What counts is the kind of care and importance he gives to you when you both are outside. If he cares for you, he will always make you feel comfortable when you are around his family or friends.

11. He is comfortable with your friends and family 

If he never hesitates to meet or know your family and friends, take it as a sign that he is serious about your relationship. In fact, he will be eager to meet and greet your circle. Arrange a family meeting and see how he reacts.

12. He likes you for who you are 

Beauty plays an important role in a relationship. However, it’s just in the initial days. Though you get attracted to someone for their beauty, once you know the person and like the way they are, physical appearance takes a back seat. That said, there are people for whom both inner and outer beauty matters. Depending on the kind of partner you have, know his preferences towards you. If he is less bothered about your outward beauty and appreciates you for your values and character, he does care for you.

13. He compliments you 

This is different from the regular flattery that some men use. You know what you are. When someone appreciates you for your qualities, you know how genuine the compliments are. And when you get such appreciation from someone close to your heart, it would definitely make your day. And besides compliments, the one who cares for you identifies your hidden strengths and encourages you to leverage them.

14. He never hesitates to apologize 

Excessive or narcissistic ego can ruin any relationship and make a situation worse, especially when you both are having a fight.

If he cares about your relationship, he will try to calm down the situation instead of making it worse. If the mistake is from his end, he will never hesitate to apologize.

15. He makes an effort to protect you 

Protecting you does not mean he acts like your bodyguard 24/7. If he cares for you, he will make an effort to make sure you’re physically safe even when he is not around you. Whenever you’re taking some risky decisions, he will try to warn you or want to be part of them to make sure you do not run into trouble. Besides personal safety, the one who cares for his woman will always try to defend her name when she’s not around, as her reputation matters to him.

16. You’re comfortable with his body language 

You cannot judge a person by merely talking to him. Sometimes, what they say may not exactly be what they mean. Another thing that can help you know the real face of a man is his body language. If you look into his eyes and carefully observe his moves, you would definitely know whether or not they are appropriate. Most importantly, you should be comfortable with his body language and the way he looks at you.

17. He involves you in decision-making 

Couples in a serious relationship tend to make each other part of their decisions. When there are some major decisions to be made in his personal or professional life, he would make you part of it if he cares for you. This shows that he values your opinion and wants you to be involved in all his plans. It is also a sign that he is serious about your relationship and wants to take things forward.

18. He talks about your future 

The man who cares for you would at least talk about your future. You may not expect this always, but somewhere at some point, there would be a discussion about the future where you picture leading a happy life together. If there has been no such instance, try to initiate it from your end and see how he reacts. If his response is positive, it is a telltale sign he cares for you and appreciates your presence in his life.

19. He trusts you 

Without trust, there is no love. Trust is the soul of any relationship. You first trust a person and then fall in love; it’s not the other way around. Hence, trust plays a key role in any relationship. If he cares for you, he will definitely trust you. But how do you know whether or not he trusts you when he doesn’t say it to you? You could watch out for some simple acts of his, such as  sharing his life secrets with you, never checking your phone secretly, and not restricting you from hanging out with your friends of the opposite sex.

20. He respects your personal space 

Caring is not about suffocating the other person by constantly checking on them. Instead, it’s about allowing them to have their personal space while making sure they’re doing well. If he cares for you, he will never mind letting you have your own time, and plan things depending on your preferences. He will also encourage you to pursue your interests and hobbies.

21. He introduces you to his family and friends 

If he is really serious about you, he will make an effort to introduce you to his family. It is a sign that you have a special place in his life. But don’t expect this gesture right away. Some people might take some time to open up about their family. Based on his personality, you would know when to expect what.

22. He doesn’t take you for granted 

There is a fine line between being gentle and being lenient. The one who cares for you will never take the space and intimacy you have given them for granted. He will value them and cherish them so that you feel comfortable being with him. He will also inform you about important matters and do things with your consent. Just because you’re close to him, he will not take things in his own hands and do them as per his wish.

23. He never lies to you 

One of the best ways of ensuring happiness in a relationship is to be honest with each other. No matter how simple the issue is, telling a small lie could entirely ruin the trust. If he cares about you, he would be honest with you about anything and everything. Even when he does something without your knowledge for some reason, he would reveal it to you in due course.

24. He is still attracted to you 

This might ring true for those who have been together for quite some time. After those initial months or years of excitement are gone, if he still compliments you whenever you deck up for a special occasion, helps you shop for things that make you even more attractive, finds you attractive, and is eager for that intimate moment, you can be sure that he is meant for you.

25. He is ready to grow old with you 

A relationship is not merely about living together, but more about growing together for the longest time. Once that honeymoon phase (early phase of a relationship) fades away, ask yourself if he is still excited to be with you, like the way he was when you first met. If you feel it rings true, you can be certain that he will be there for you for the rest of your life.

We hope these signs define your relationship. More than all these, you need to trust your instinct and gut feeling and determine how you feel when you’re with him. If you feel right, happy, and blissful every time you’re with him, don’t doubt your relationship. Also, don’t wait for him to tell you. If you feel everything is right and the time is right, take your relationship to the next level by letting him know how you feel about him.

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Dr. Carlos Juan Carmona-Goyena

(PhD (Counseling Psychology))
Dr. Carlos Juan Carmona-Goyena is a board licensed therapist in the USA and Puerto Rico with a specialty in couples, families, and relationships. Dr. Carlos possesses a PhD in Counseling Psychology granted at the Interamerican University of Puerto Rico. His two-decade professional experience also includes scientific research in family emotional and relational processes and its effect on psychological functioning. Dr.... more

Shikha Thakur

Shikha is a writer-turned-associate editor at MomJunction. Her core interest lies in writing articles that guide couples through their courtship to marriage and parenthood. She also specializes in baby names. Being a postgraduate in Human Resources, she likes understanding people and their relationships. This reflects in her relationship articles, where she deals with both the rosy and the grey side... more