During the course of a relationship, there are times when you may feel that your man is distancing himself or losing interest. This may leave you wondering whether it is really happening or if your fears and insecurities are surfacing.
You may then end up overanalyzing your relationship and feeling anxious about the unknown. So, how can you help yourself and avoid going down that road?
A few indicators might help you figure out if he is losing interest in you and the relationship. Read this post to know about the telltale signs.
20 Signs He Is Losing Interest
1. He is not as responsive on the phone as he used to be
If you have been noticing that he is barely responding to your texts or not talking to you for long hours like he used to, it is a sign of worry. Moreover, if you feel that he isn’t enthusiastic about chatting with you but takes out time to call others, it may be an indication that he doesn’t want to be around you all the time. However, remember that this may not always mean that he lost interest because this can happen naturally as a relationship is not as new.
2. He has started making excuses
He used to be there for you, taking time out from meetings and work. However, now he has started coming up with excuses about tight deadlines and urgent meetings at work whenever you ask him to spend time with you. Also, he avoids making plans or spending time with you, citing unjustifiable reasons. All these could indicate disinterest.
3. He has stopped asking questions
When your partner asks you questions, it helps them understand and know you better—how things are at work and with friends and family or how you are dealing with a specific situation. When he stops asking questions, it may show that he is not interested in checking on you and would like to keep to himself.
4. He acts rude and defensive
The man you fell in love with was sweet and friendly. He used to share all the little details with you. But now, he has become cold and rude. If you ask questions and want to know the details, he gets annoyed and defensive. Moreover, he ends up making snide comments or offensive jokes to ward off your questions. These show that he has no interest in engaging with you.
5. He picks fights
When you two are together, he complains about trivial things, tries to find faults in the smallest of issues, or makes you feel bad. Whether it is paying the bills, planning a meeting with the family, or just throwing out garbage, he makes things difficult for you refusing to do it. He also initiates discussions or makes talks that generate tensions or disagreements.
6. He doesn’t notice anything about you
He used to notice every little change in you, whether it is a haircut, a new dress, or a new dish you tried your hand at. He used to do little things to make you feel special, like offering you comfort when you are in a bad mood or giving you his jacket when you feel a little nip in the air. However, now those small gestures of love have died down. Try to find out if he’s just busy or there is something going on.
7. He has stopped making plans for dates
When you were dating, it was all about excitement and romantic outings and making plans for movies, dinner, or drinks. If he is canceling or procrastinating for another day without giving any justifiable reason, then you should get a hint that he may be pulling away from you.
8. He has become vague
This behavior is an extension of the above sign. You may notice that your partner has been indecisive and vague for a while. Moreover, you may find it difficult to understand his intentions and plans. He may be making plans with his friends and families but not you, thus indicating he may be ignoring you or something more is going on.
9. He doesn’t discuss future plans
If he stops discussing his future with you or stops involving you in decisions related to his future or settling down, it could be a warning sign. He may even avoid putting a label or making the relationship official. You may notice that he makes statements that indicate he is looking for something serious or suggest that his friends or family are not sure about the relationship.
10. He makes no effort
If he has stopped bothering about his looks/personality, doesn’t care about his behavior, or has stopped making an effort to be romantic, he probably is losing interest. You may feel that he has stopped trying to impress you, making romantic gestures, and being curious about the things in your life.
11. There is no physical intimacy
When there is no physical intimacy between you two, and there is a declining interest in showing loving gestures from his side, he may be losing interest. You may notice that he shows no interest in initiating any intimate contact or attracting you.
12. There is only physical intimacy
You may be surprised at this sign as it is quite the opposite of other indications. If sex is the only thing that is happening between you two, without any emotional connection, he is only interested in satisfying his needs without undertaking the responsibilities of a committed relationship. He may see you less but insist on physical intimacy whenever you meet.
13. He doesn’t consider you a priority
When he no longer takes you into consideration, it may indicate that you are not a priority. He will prioritize his time and plans instead of trying to adjust according to your needs. It shows that he is no longer interested in involving you.
14. He flirts with others
A little fun and subtle flirting can keep things exciting. However, if your man has made it a habit to get frisky or flirty with other women in front of you, it may mean that he no longer values you or your relationship. He might be doing it to make you mad intentionally, or it is his way of indicating that he has other plans for his love life.
15. He doesn’t support you
He is no longer interested in your dreams, aspirations, and needs. He doesn’t support you in your important decisions in both personal and professional life. Moreover, you may feel that you can no longer look up to him or trust him in planning your goals or celebrating your achievements.
16. The relationship has become stagnant
If he acts like a distant friend instead of a romantic partner, it could be a sign that the flame is fizzling out. You may feel that you have entered into a stagnant relationship, with boredom creeping in and he making no effort to keep things exciting. Take a hint—he may no longer be interested in continuing the relationship.
17. He doesn’t go the extra mile
If your partner does the bare minimum to keep things going between you two, it’s a red flag in your relationship. He doesn’t want to go the extra mile to make you feel special, spend time with you, or keep the relationship exciting. You may feel that the relationship has become one-sided.
18. He no longer expresses his love
He may not be interested in romance or call you affectionately like he used to. And his romantic gestures of bringing flowers or organizing a surprise candle-lit dinner for you are the things of the past. He no longer addresses you with the romantic nicknames that used to be the intimate thing between you two. These are all signs of a disinterested partner.
19. He has stopped making an effort towards your friends and family
Familial bonds and friendships are important in a couple’s life. If your bond with your man is strong, he will make an effort to spend time with your loved ones. However, if he avoids meeting them or makes snide comments about your loved ones, it may indicate that he doesn’t give importance to the relationships you value.
20. You have a gut feeling
Sometimes, you just have a strong gut feeling that you cannot ignore, no matter how much your friends and family try to convince you. You may have a hunch that you are falling out of love, and your partner may be trying to break off things with you.
What To Do About It?
It is important to understand that, sometimes, communicating or expressing feelings is not as simple as it sounds. If you have a hunch, talk to your partner and understand what is going on with him. If he shares, you may work on it together as a team. His loss of interest may not even be related to your relationship. However, remember to prioritize your needs as well and do not be too harsh on yourself.
One of these things or a couple may not mean anything, but if many of them are there it may be time to have a conversation.
You may try the following tips.
- Do not chase him: Do not make him realize that you are always available and dependent on him for your happiness. Instead of holding onto him, love yourself, and be yourself. Be the strong independent woman you used to be.
- Do not keep on waiting for him: If he is unsure about the relationship, you do not need to get your life off the track. Do not make yourself miserable. Live your life with your friends and family.
- Be honest about what you feel: You cannot stir feelings or force someone to commit to you. Be true to yourself and understand if your partner is ready for what you expect out of the relationship. Ask yourself if you want the relationship to progress naturally.
- Work on yourself: In the course of the relationship, if you feel that you have lost yourself in taking care of your partner, give yourself time. Be the best version of yourself that you loved.
Sometimes, everything in a relationship may seem perfect when it usually isn’t. Suddenly, you may realize that he isn’t texting you anymore, going out much with you, or saying much. Try to find out the underlying reasons for this behavioral pattern. While you make up your mind about handling your situation, outline your priorities and what you want out of the relationship. Have that difficult or awkward talk, and remember that you need not settle for less. You deserve the same love, care, and respect as you give to your partner.