10 Signs You’re Unhappy In A Relationship & Tips To Deal With It

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If you are not happy in a relationship, it can be emotionally draining. You get into a relationship with a lot of expectations, but things in real life are not always a fairy tale. Real relationships have to overcome several challenges to sustain in the longer run. These challenges can wear you out, making the relationship burdensome. Have you been feeling the pressure of a rocky relationship? Are you unhappy in a relationship? If yes, then don’t worry yet, as there are many ways to save your relationship. Read on for signs of an unhappy relationship and find out ways to fix the problems.

10 Signs Of An Unhappy Relationship

There is a solution to every problem. So, first, let’s identify the signs of an unhappy relationship.

1. You do not like being at home

No matter where you are, at the end of the day, the thought of returning home brings peace to mind. But if you feel the opposite, and if going home makes you feel anxious and sad, it means you are unhappy with the person you live with and your relationship.

2. You do not enjoy sex anymore

Physical intimacy is a way to show love for your partner. However, if sex hasn’t happened in a long time or if sex feels like a chore to you, it means the spark in your relationship is lost. You probably do not feel connected to your partner anymore, or your sex life is boring.

3. You feel lonely

Feeling lonely means feeling alone even when you are with someone. A relationship offers companionship to each other so as not to feel alone. But if your relationship makes you feel alone, it means something is wrong. Probably your partner seems aloof and disconnected, which makes you feel lonely in the relationship.

4. You fight too often

Fights and disagreements are common between couples. However, an unhappy relationship is characterized by frequent arguments and fights. Disagreement between a couple causes frustration and resentment. This leads to fights over small issues as both partners look to vent their anger by screaming at each other.

5. You do not trust your partner

A relationship cannot survive without trust. Your partner may have done something that must have broken your trust in the past. You may have forgiven them, but you are still quite suspicious of them. This makes you check their phone or question them all the time because you fear they might cheat you again. This broken trust can make you unhappy in your relationship.

6. You feel there is a lack of respect

Love fades with time but what keeps a relationship going is mutual respect. If you don’t get the due respect from your partner, your relationship can get unpleasant.  From frequent abuses to mockery, your relationship is replete with unpleasant things that make it difficult for you to stay together.

7. You miss being single

When you start fantasizing about being single or often recall your single days, it means something is wrong with your relationship. If you feel jealous of single people and constantly wish to be out of a relationship, it clearly shows your discontentment with a relationship.

8. You feel you are not yourself

The funny laughter that made your partner fall for you now seems annoying to them. Your lame jokes that your partner found endearing now feel embarrassing for them. Everything they once loved about you seems to annoy them, making you feel uncomfortable in your own skin. This is a typical indicator of an unhappy relationship.

9. You feel there is a lack of appreciation

When your partner goes out of their way and does something to make you happy, then you must acknowledge it and appreciate it. However, when there is no appreciation for efforts, you and your partner are bound to feel used. You are going to feel stuck in a job that does not need you.

10. You feel tempted to find happiness elsewhere

Temptations will be around you most of the time. But you not giving in to it is a sign of love and respect for your partner. However, if you feel like straying because your relationship does not give you any kind of happiness, you are clearly stuck in an unhappy relationship.

How To Fix An Unhappy Relationship

As mentioned above, many things can go wrong between two people in a relationship. Firstly, you need to figure out what is affecting your relationship. Once you find out things that plague your relationship, you know exactly where to put in your efforts.

1. Move on from the past

People change constantly. Falling astray in a relationship once does not mean it will surely happen again. Learn to trust each other. Be cautious but do not look at each other with suspicion. Also, avoid talking about unpleasant incidents from the past, especially if you have forgiven them for it. Reopening old wounds will only cause you more pain.

2. Communicate openly

Next time something bad about your partner bothers you, sit down with them and calmly tell them how it affects you. Ensure that your tone is not rude or condescending at any point. If your partner has something to say about flaws, then listen patiently and work upon them.

3. Be committed

Relationships need constant efforts to stand the test of time. If you love your partner and they love you too, but your relationship seems shaky, then it is time to commit yourself to work harder to make things work. Be more appreciative of each other’s efforts, be more supportive of each other’s ambition, and be more loving towards each other.

4. Be considerate of your partner

Dissatisfaction in a relationship often arises due to unfair comparison. If you feel unhappy because your relationship does not match the type of relationships social influencers project, then you need to quit this comparison right away. Constant comparison will only make you unhappy. Instead, appreciate all that your partner does and be supportive of their hard work.

5. Rekindle romance

Reigniting the spark of love can help strengthen a shaky relationship. If your sex life has been lackluster, then come up with creative ideas to make it interesting. Read online or buy a book that will help you with new ideas to spice up your sex life.

6. Be more adaptive

Compromises in a relationship can take you a long way. A little adjustment from you and your partner can make your relationship effortless.

7. Spend more time together

Perhaps you and your partner need to spend some quality time together and create new memories. Plan an adventure trip or join a hobby class or make a fitness plan together. Any activity will do as long as you do it together. Your active involvement in one another’s life can help bring you closer.

8. Give and take space

When the fighting does not cease, it is better to spend some time away from each other to get a clear perspective. Being apart for some time can help you contemplate how your relationship has been going and what you can do to change things for the better.

 9. Work on yourself

Perhaps your unhappiness stems from something within you and has nothing to do with your relationship. Therefore, if you were stressed or overworked or depressed lately, then chances are you might be projecting that feeling onto your relationship. If that is the case, then seek help from a counselor and work on yourself as per their guidance.

10.  Seek professional help

Instead of suffering silently in a bad relationship, seek advice from a relationship expert who can guide you to a solution. Opting for couple’s therapy can also work wonders to mend your relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Is it normal not to feel unhappy in a relationship?

It is perfectly normal to be unhappy in a relationship from time to time. Things may not always go well between you and your partner, and you may feel detached from the relationship. However, things may fall in place over time, and your relationship may reach new heights.

2. When should you give up on a relationship?

Every relationship goes through hardships once in a while. However, if you constantly feel alone even when you are together and miss your singlehood, it’s probably time you should consider giving up on the relationship. When you try fixing things and still feel unhappy, breaking up can be a wise option.

It is not easy to accept the fact that you are not happy in a relationship. But once you have confronted the truth, then it becomes easier to deal with it. Knowing what is wrong helps you come up with the right approach to correct it. Be hopeful that with effort, things will change, and your relationship will once again become a reason for your happiness.

Key Pointers

  • You choose to stay away from home or your partner and instead find happiness elsewhere.
  • There is a lack of respect or appreciation in the relationship.
  • You are not yourself around them, and you prefer being single.

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Ratika Pai

Ratika has experience writing in various fields including finance, education, lifestyle, and entertainment. After her masters degree in Commerce, she acquired a PG Diploma in Communication and Journalism from Mumbai University. She is inquisitive about human relationships and likes to study people and how they manage their relationships, during her freetime. At MomJunction, Ratika writes insightful and informative articles on... more

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