Will I Be Single Forever: 21 Signs You Might Be

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Will I be single forever is a question many adults ask themselves. But why? While growing up, many of us had thoughts about getting married and having a settled family. But over time, changes in our perceptions occur as we face reality and realize that finding a partner is not as easy as it sounds, and maybe you are not yet ready for companionship. If these thoughts match yours, read on to know about the signs that indicate that you are happy being single and would like to stay that way for the time being.

21 Signs You Will Be Single Forever

Being single is highly underrated. You can be single and still have a fulfilling life. Here are some signs singlehood is for you and that you might even stay single forever.

1. You enjoy your own company

If you are more comfortable with yourself than being with a partner, then a solitary life may be best for you. Likewise, if engaging in unwanted conversations with another person on a daily basis is not enjoyable for you, marriage might not be either.

2. You don’t trust people easily

A bitter experience in the past or being suspicious by nature makes you wary of people’s intentions. You are unable to let your guard down even with friends. Hence, you feel you are better off alone than sharing your life with anyone else.

3. You have a great life

You have your dream job, a beautiful house, an amazing car, and everything you ever wanted. You spend your spare time with a group of friends or traveling. You are content with your life and do not miss companionship in any way. Why would you mind being single then?

4. You like your freedom

Being in a relationship means being answerable to someone. Instead, if you are single, you have the freedom to live the way you want. You can go for vacations with friends anytime you feel like, keep the house any way you want, and do anything your heart desires. Being single means being your uninhibited self.

5. You are not too keen to date

You have seen bad examples of unhappy couples, making you cautious about entering into relationships. You believe that a relationship eventually breaks, so there is no point in giving it too much importance. Instead, you prefer investing in yourself and your well-being.

6. You don’t have the time to impress anyone

To maintain and nurture a relationship, you need to put in time and effort. And you have no interest in making anyone happy but yourself. If you like taking care of yourself and doing stuff that makes you happy, why invest time in anyone else?

7. You want to preserve your lifestyle

Being single allows you to have the entire bed and closet to yourself. You have your morning and evening routine in place. You lead a contented and healthy life. The entry of another person might disturb the lifestyle you have chosen for yourself. Hence, you are better off being single.

8. You are too busy to date

You are married to your work, and you want nothing to come in between. If all your time is taken up to fulfill your work commitments, it is logical that you do not have the time to invest in the work of a relationship.

9. You like to pursue your interests

Apart from work, you are involved in other activities that keep you busy and happy. Being single allows you to have free time to develop and nurture other interests and skills. You can even travel and explore places as a solo traveler.

10. You feel happy when a date goes wrong

You go on a date because your family and friends insist you meet new people. However, you hope that things do not work out because you are not ready to date as yet. You want to be single a little longer or maybe even forever.

11. You cannot get over your ex

You had been in a relationship with a wonderful person, but things ended, and now you cannot get over that person. If you are still hung up on your ex despite a considerable time since your breakup, you might prefer being single at least for a while.

12. You get bored easily

It is not that you don’t want to fall in love. You fall in love as quickly as you fall out of it. In the past, you have only had short-term relationships because that is how you like it. You do not like the idea of being with one person all your life. Until you find ‘the one,’ it’s best to be single.

13. You feel shackled in a relationship

In the past, you may have had a relationship where your partner dominated you. The experience has had a lasting impression on you. Now, you feel that relationships will inevitably tie you down, hence it is better to be alone.

14. You are not a social person

To meet someone new, you need to step out of your house and make an effort to introduce yourself to people. But you are not a social person. You prefer spending time at home to socializing with friends and colleagues.

15. You fear rejection

You have had your share of crushes and infatuations, but the only thing keeping you from approaching others is low self-confidence. You fear that your advances might be turned down, hence you prefer being single to suffering from the stress of being rejected by a love interest.

16. You want a fairytale romance

You have watched too many romance movies or read romance novels that have made you believe in the ‘perfect romance.’ You believe in meeting your ‘soulmate’ and falling in love instantly. Your high expectations of a partner might keep you single for a long time.

17. You feel the need to be alone to be yourself

In a relationship, one is expected to expose their true self to a partner. But if you are awkward as a person or have self-image issues, then being single may seem more suitable for you. You won’t have any pressure to look or behave in certain ways.

18. You are not aware of what you want

Before getting into a relationship, you need to understand what you would prefer in a partner and what you are willing to give the relationship. If you are still unsure of what you want and what you can give, you are right about staying single for some time.

19. You don’t trust yourself

In the past, you have had some terrible experiences in difficult relationships. Now you want to be cautious and protect yourself from the possible ‘wrong’ person. It has you questioning and a bit afraid of committing to another person, hence you prefer being single.

20. You lose yourself in a relationship

Each time you have been in a relationship, you have made your partner the center of your world and lost yourself in the bargain. You are now afraid that you will again lose yourself if you get into a relationship, so you stay away from the dating scene.

21. You are tired of dating

After trying all kinds of dating apps and meeting every person your friends set you up with, you feel worn out. Dating is not alluring to you anymore. In a way, you have given up hopes for love and have chosen to be single.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Is it possible I’ll be single forever?

Being single forever is a personal choice. Some people can be single and happy for the rest of their lives; these are usually the people who have found self-satisfaction and inner peace with themselves. Others, particularly those who have experienced a traumatized relationship in the past or who have other reasons, such as higher expectations, could be unhappy and lonely with living life alone forever.

2. How long is long enough to be single?

There is no fixed time frame for remaining single. People may be single due to family responsibilities and may consider getting into a relationship later in life. After breaking up from a serious relationship, some people may take much longer to recover; there may also be a reason to remain single due to not meeting the right person.

3. Is it unhealthy to be single?

Being single can be both beneficial and detrimental. Some studies show an increase in physical health issues, such as heart disease, in single people (1). On the other hand, some studies show that single people who have never been married are more likely to be physically active, happier, and healthier than married people (2) (3).

Being in a relationship and being settled in life are not the same thing. You can be in a relationship and still not be settled, while you can be single and be happy and well-settled. So, the next time the question ‘will I be single forever?’ pops up in your head, tell yourself that being single also has benefits, and it is totally fine enjoying your own companionship.

Key Pointers

  • If you don’t want to invest your time to impress someone and can take care of yourself, it indicates you like to stay single.
  • If you like to preserve your lifestyle, you may wish to be single since compromising is a part of a relationship.
  • The one who feels happy when the date goes wrong likes being single rather than in a relationship.

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Ratika Pai

Ratika has experience writing in various fields including finance, education, lifestyle, and entertainment. After her masters degree in Commerce, she acquired a PG Diploma in Communication and Journalism from Mumbai University. She is inquisitive about human relationships and likes to study people and how they manage their relationships, during her freetime. At MomJunction, Ratika writes insightful and informative articles on... more

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