10 Clear Signs Your Husband Has A Crush On Another Woman

If your instincts have been telling you that your husband has feelings for another woman and is up to something, you would want to know the signs your husband has a crush on another woman.

Some men are never content with anything and are always after something. Despite having a loving wife at home, they are urged to find a new love and may try flirting with other women. Read this post to know the signs your husband has a crush on another woman and decide on your next steps.

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10 Signs Your Husband Has A Crush On Another Woman

When a man starts having feelings and infatuation for a woman other than his wife, he tends to behave in a certain manner that gives away his feelings for that person. Observe the following signs to understand if something is fishy in your love story.

1. He loses interest in the bedroom

Nothing you do ignites the spark of love in him

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You try to get your flirtatious side out by preparing his favorite meal, wearing your sexiest outfit, and decorating the bedroom, hoping to have a great time with your spouse. However, nothing you do ignites the spark of love and attraction in him, and he avoids getting intimate with you. It has been months since you had sex with him, and it does not bother him at all. He seems fine about not sleeping with you.

2. He is on the phone too often

You may be watching the television together, or he may be alone in the toilet; his phone is always with him. Even when discussing something important, his eyes are glued to his screen as he chats with someone constantly. No matter what you say, he is distracted as his phone keeps buzzing with notifications most of the time.

3. He deletes history from his gadgets

He suddenly acts possessive of his phone and other gadgets. All of his gadgets have locks. If not locked, then his call logs and chat history are all erased. He ensures that his online activities are out of reach for you. Even if you ask who he is speaking or chatting with, his answer is vague or avoids answering your question.

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It is alright to want privacy for your gadgets. However, if your partner is unwilling to let you handle his phone for even a quick call or text, something could be fishy.

4. He refrains from sharing anything with you

He hardly shares anything about what’s going on with his life.

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Gone are the days when he would come home and tell you about his new project at work or his colleagues with whom he had a great time at work. He is too mysterious and hardly shares anything about what’s going on with his life. Even if you ask him directly, he speaks less, or his answers are mostly in one sentence.

5. He is suddenly too conscious of his appearance

Previously, your husband would wear whatever he found first in his closet and would be done in a couple of minutes. But lately, he has been spending too much time deciding what to wear and grooming himself. His dressing style, too, seems to have changed, and he makes a conscious effort to look more presentable than before. Hence, his obsession with his appearance is one of the possible signs that he has a crush on another woman.

protip_icon Quick tip
It is common for a person to have a crush on someone even when they are married. Every person deals with it differently. Usually, having a crush is harmless and you do not need to take any drastic step.

6. He spends more time at work

Your husband, who is never on time for anything, suddenly leaves early for work. He is inseparable from his phone at home, but he is out of reach at work when you try to reach him. Not only does he come home late from work, but he also spends weekends and holidays at work. There is a sudden rise in his dedication to ‘work commitments.’

7. He is more active on social media

Signs your husband has a crush on another woman

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Being active on social media is common. But for someone who hardly took an interest in social media before suddenly getting too active is unnatural. Your husband posts regularly, even the topics you had no clue he was interested in. This might indicate that your husband has a secret longing for another woman.

8. He does not tell you his exact location

Your husband avoids your calls and does not tell you about his whereabouts. He does not give you a clear answer of where he is or where he is heading. Each time you ask him, he gives you a vague answer such as ‘out with colleagues’. Even when he is traveling, he does not give you an alternate number to reach him.

protip_icon Point to consider
It is easy to install a tracking app on his phone without his knowing. However, if your husband is not guilty, he might feel cheated. Think before taking any step ahead.

9. He hides his bank statements

Unlike before, you have no access to his bank account details or bills and receipts. His finance records are inaccessible to you. And suppose you do get your hands on it; you see expenditures you have no idea about. When you confront him, he has a seemingly long answer explaining how he had to spend it for some friend of his who you are conveniently unaware of.

10. He gets defensive easily

confront him about it, and he will get too defensive.

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His aloofnessiXThe state of being emotionally distant and unfriendly , distance and secretive behavior are bound to get to you. Confront him about it, and he will get too defensive. In fact, ask him some trivial information about him, and he seems too nervous to answer you. Instead, he blames you for being too suspicious of him without any reason. He gets irritated quickly by your questions and dismisses you for being paranoidiX A state of being excessively anxious, suspicious, or having distrust .

protip_icon Did you know?
The act of manipulating someone to make them question their own intentions is called “gaslighting.”

How To Cope With The Situation

You could seek the help of a professional counselor.

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If you relate to more than half of the points mentioned above, something is likely happening with your husband and your relationship. However, do not freak out and confront your husband about it. It could just be some misunderstanding or jealousy, and no third person is involved. So, you need to be extremely careful before jumping to any conclusion.

You can talk it out patiently with your husband and explain how his behavior is affecting you. Or you could seek the help of a professional counselor and share your observations with them. A good counselor will be able to guide you in the best way possible.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Do happily married men get crushes?

Yes, it is not unthinkable to have someone happily married develop an occasional crush and admiration for a woman other than his wife. However, ensuring this temptation does not complicate your married life is essential.

2. Why would a married man want another woman?

Having an innocent crush once in a while may not sabotageiXThe act of deliberately destroying or obstructing something a marriage. That said, when a married man is unhappy with his spouse (possibly due to various reasons), he could be attracted to other women and even consider being in a serious relationship.

3. How do I make sure my husband is attracted to me?

To ensure your husband remains attracted to you, maintain a strong emotional connection by fostering open communication, deepening your bond, and nurturing shared interests. Additionally, developing your self-confidence and taking care of your physical and emotional well-being may enhance your attractiveness and help keep the spark alive in your relationship.

If you have noticed these changes in your husband, it does not necessarily indicate his interest in another woman. There could be other reasons, such as a change in priorities and life, stress, and work pressure, which could cause a change in his behavior. Nevertheless, if they seem to be bothering you of late, it is best not to overlook them. Also, these could be early signs of trouble in your marriage, and taking prompt measures might prevent further complications in your relationship. However, if your husband does not seem responsive to your queries or concerns, you may seek support from a therapist/counselor.

Infographic: Signs Your Husband Has A Crush On Another Woman

The following infographic contains a few signs that might indicate your husband is interested in another woman. With the help of this list, we hope you can spot the signs early on and take the necessary steps to ensure that you and your husband talk things through.

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Key Pointers

  • Refraining from sharing with you and being too possessive of his phone are signs your husband has hidden intentions.
  • To understand his indifferent behavior, look for more odd traits such as hiding his bank statements and getting defensive.
  • Get clarity about his intentions before you confront him.
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