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Sometimes, seeking acceptance in the new family as a stepmother can be tough. So we bring you some inspiring stepmom quotes to motivate you to strive hard and make a place for yourself in your blended family. Stepmothers may not have a blood relationship with their children, but they share a connection through their hearts. So even though every day seems challenging, you wake up to make a loving home and enrich your children’s lives in the most meaningful and beautiful way. However, it is okay to seek support and strength to move forward. That is why we have put together a list of heartwarming quotes for stepmoms to keep you going strong.
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150+ Stimulating Stepmom Quotes And Sayings
A role of a stepmom might not be easy, but it is special. The best stepmom ever quotes celebrates every amazing stepmom out there trying to do her best.
- “Little souls find their way to you, whether they’re from your womb or someone else’s.” ―Sheryl Crow
- “Family isn’t defined only by last names or by blood; it’s defined by commitment and by love.” ―Dave Willis
- “Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone, but still miraculously my own. Never forget for a single minute, you didn’t grow under my heart but in it.” ―Fleur Conkling Heyliger
- “Little souls find their way to you, whether they’re from your womb or someone else’s.” ―Sheryl Crow
- “Stepparents are not around to replace biological parent, rather to augment a child’s life experience.” ―Azriel Johnson
- “However motherhood comes to you, it’s a miracle.” ―Valeria Harper
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- “Intimacy between stepchildren and stepparents is indeed proverbially difficult.” ―Murasaki Shikibu
- “There is no universal approach when it comes to being a stepmom. So, let us all just do our best to encourage and help each other through it.” —Unknown
- “Families don’t have to match. You don’t have to look like someone else to love them.” ―Leigh Anne Tuohy
- “Being a stepmother has worked out very well for me. I love my stepchildren very much.” ―Philippa Gregory
- “A healthy stepmother knows that somedays she’s a stagehand, somedays she’s the leading lady, and somedays she’s the audience…and she plays each role with style and grace.” ―Unknown
- “A stepmother has a hard hand.” ―Unknown
- “A good stepparent can literally turn the life of a child around.” ―Unknown
- “A caring stepmother doesn’t have to replace the child’s own mom. She will secure her own special place in the heart of the child by her love, care, and compassion.” —Unknown
- “A child cannot have too many people who love them and want to help them succeed.” ―Unknown
- “Remember why you chose to come together in the first place—the love that you have for your partner. Your partner’s children are an extension of them, and this makes them just as important to your happiness.” ―Beth Huber
- Family isn’t something that’s supposed to be static, or set. It’s always evolving, turning into something else. ―Sarah Dessen
- “It is said great power comes great responsibility. But stepmothers’ shoulder great responsibilities even when they have limited power over their stepchildren in terms of acceptability and trust.” ―Unknown
- “A stepparent is so much more than just a parent: They made the choice to love when they didn’t have to.” ―Unknownt
- “Step-parenting and being a step-sibling presents a lot of exciting opportunities. When families break up and re-form, there may be less order, less certainty, and a bit more trauma involved, but kids can end up having half-a-dozen parent figures.” ―Morris Gleitzman
- “To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there.” ―Barbara Bush
- “To be sure a stepmother to a girl is a different thing to a second wife to a man!” ―Elizabeth Gaskell
- “You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.” ―Desmond Tutu
- “A good stepparent can change the life of the child for the better.” —Unknown
- “Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart.” —C. Joybell C.
- “You’re second in line to your husband’s kids because the kids should come first, right? … Logically speaking, that sounds fantastic. Of course! Always put the kids first! But your heart … feels like, oh, like, I’m not significant and I don’t matter. … You have hurt feelings, and you don’t really understand how to say that.” ―Jasjit Sangha
- “Good stepparents do much of the parenting that birth parents do but without much credit. They comfort, advise, teach, support, encourage, and love their stepchildren. They make a valuable contribution in their lives.” —Kelly Eden
- “Half and full should be used in maths not in relationships. There are no half-mothers only complete families.” —Unknown
- “Becoming a blended family means mixing, mingling, scrambling, and sometimes muddling our way through delicate family issues, complicated relationships, and individual differences, hurts, and fears. But through it all, we are learning to love like a family.” —Tom Frydenger
- “Family isn’t defined only by last names or by blood; it’s defined by commitment and by love.” ―Dave Willis
- “Stepmoms deserve the same respect a mother would receive. They pour all of their time, energy and love into a child they didn’t even create. Stepmoms don’t do it because they have to. They do it because they want to.” —Unknown
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- “I might not have carried them in my belly for nine months, but I promise to carry them in my heart forever.” —Unknown
- “I don’t care about whose DNA has recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching—they are your family.” — Jim Butcher
- “I am a stepmother to the fullest extent.” ―Megan Fox
- “My children don’t call me stepmom, they call me Momala. We’re a very modern family. Their mom is a close friend of mine.” —Kamala Harris
- “Families don’t have to match. You don’t have to look like someone else to love them.” ―Leigh Anne Tuohy
- “Family isn’t something that’s supposed to be static or set. People marry in, divorce out. They’re born, they die. It’s always evolving, turning into something else.” —Sarah Dresden
- “A stepmother’s love is unique. She continues to love her bonus children selflessly despite knowing that she will never be the priority in their lives.” —Unknown
- “I never had that wicked stepmother or evil stepfather thing at all. I’m very close to both stepparents and I consider them to be my parents too.” —Mark Ronson
- “In my experience, if you’re a good girl and suffer yourself to be led you will find your stepmother the sweetest creature imaginable. I never managed it but you might.”― Lady Harriet Cumnor
- “Behind many great children is a stepparent who stepped in, took responsibility and cared.” —Unknown
- “Only true warriors can become good stepmothers.” —Unknown
- “Family isn’t blood. It’s the people who love you. The people who have your back.” —Cassandra Clare
- “Intimacy between stepchildren and stepparents is indeed proverbially difficult.”―Murasaki Shikibu
- “A child cannot have too many people who love them and want to help them succeed.” —Unknown
- “Behind many great children is a stepparent who stepped in, made sacrifices, took responsibility, and cared.” —Unknown
- “Stepparents are not around to replace a biological parent, rather to augment a child’s life experience.” —Azriel Johnson
- “There’s no clear road map to being a stepmother.” ―Laura Brimberry
- “The only steps in this house are the stair steps and the only half in this house is the half-and-half creamer.” —Al Hodson
- “When it feels as if you can’t do right by the other parent, do right by your stepchild instead. You’ll never fail with best interest at heart.” ―Jessica James
- “A stepmother’s role is sometimes difficult, but it is always worthwhile.” —Ivana Davies
- “Only one whose heart is full of love can choose to love someone else’s child as their own.” —Unknown
- “A stepmom is a special woman who loves and cares for children that are not her own, but as if they were.” —Unknown
- “Stepparenting is working at a late-night convenience store….all the responsibility and none of the authority.” ―Valerie J Lewis Coleman
- “A home isn’t always the house we live in. It’s also the people we choose to surround ourselves with.” —T.J. Klune
- “Proud Stepmothers. We are not attempting to be some other person. We are quite amazing just being ourselves.” —Unknown
- “Being a mother is an attitude, not a biological relation.” —Robert A. Heinlein
- “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” ―Oprah Winfrey
- “I did not give you the gift of life. Life gave me the gift of you.” —Unknown
- “Not every child in this world is fortunate enough to have two beautiful moms in a single lifetime.” —Unknown
- “A caring stepmother doesn’t have to replace the child’s own mom. She will secure her own special place in the heart of the child by her love and care.” —Unknown
- “Understand that your role is transitional. … Some days you’re going to be the leading lady. Some days you’re just going to be a stagehand. And some days you’re not going to be in the scene at all. The quicker you realize that the better off you’ll be.” ―Naja Hall
- “It is said, great power comes great responsibility. But stepmothers’ shoulder great responsibilities even when they have limited power over their stepchildren in terms of acceptability and trust.” —Unknown
- “Being a stepmom is like completing someone else’s incomplete melody. Understanding the already created tune and adding your own personality to seamlessly complete the harmony, is really a work of a true maestro. ” —Unknown
- “Who cares if another woman or man loves your child, plays with your child or builds a healthy relationship with your child? Either way, your child is benefiting.” —Jessica James
- “I want to say this to every stepmother: take it a little easier, try not to be so insistent, try not to have your desires dominate—and not just with the stepchildren, but with your husband, your family, your friends. The moment you step back from whatever it is that exasperates you, you get an unrestricted view of the situation—and you can take a breath before you move forward.”―Margit Eva Bernard
- “Being a parent wasn’t just about bearing a child. It was about bearing witness to its life.” —Jodi Picoult
- “We aren’t step. We are just a family.” ―Unknown
- “It takes someone really brave to be a stepmom. Someone strong to raise a child not her own, but loved them with all her heart anyway.” —Unknown
- “Stepmothers are more self-critical and blame themselves more than any other members of a remarried family. They tend to experience difficulty with a stepchild as ongoing, unremitting and overwhelming.” ―Wednesday Martin
- “Home isn’t where you’re from, it’s where you find light when all grows dark.” —Pierce Brown
- “You didn’t treat me like an extra child, you treated me like one more blessing.”
- “You came not to replace my mother, but to add up to the love that I am receiving.” —Unknown”
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- “Co-parenting is not a competition. It’s a collaboration of two homes working together with the best interest of the child at heart. Work for your kids, not against them.” ―Anne Brown
- “Anyone can be a mom, but it takes someone truly amazing to be a stepmom.” —Unknown
- “All of a sudden you’re thrown into doing motherly duties. And I call that the stepmom vortex. You just get pulled in. You’re making lunches. You’re making dinners. You’re going to practices. … Nobody tells you.” ―Kendall Rose
- “Parenthood requires love, not DNA.” —Unknown
- “Being a stepmom is not easy, but a sweet hug and kiss from the kids are all worth it.” —Unknown
- To my stepmom, you’ve always been by my dad’s side. Today, I want to honor you and let you know I’m right by your side. —Unknown
- “Let me tell you a few truths about being a stepmother you won’t read in any self-help books or get from a therapist. It’s emotionally draining to be a stepmother. Being a stepmother is the most difficult job on the planet because no matter what you do, you lose.” ―Sarah Jo Smith
- “Thank you for always ‘stepping’ up.” —Unknown
- “I never had that wicked stepmother or evil stepfather thing at all. I’m very close to both stepparents and I consider them to be my parents, too.” ―Mark Ronson
- “Some women are put on earth to give birth, while others are here to be mom.” —Unknown
- “Stepmothers in books usually behave very spitefully towards the children entrusted to them. But he was now learning by his own experience that in real life this does not always happen.”―Murasaki Shikibu
- “Blended families: woven together by choice. Strengthened together by love. Tested by everything, and each uniquely ours.” —Unknown
- “Being a stepmom is a difficult job, but it is worth it because you go to sleep every night with an amazing feeling that you are loved by children who don’t biologically belong to you.” —Unknown
- “When needs a fairy godmother when there are stepmoms?” —Unknown
- “If you’re about to become a stepmother or are currently filling that role, you are gambling that the love you’ve found and the strength and wisdom that you’ve acquired will see you through.”―Sue Patton Thoele
- “Loving your own kid is easy. Loving another woman’s children as your own is what makes stepmoms really special.” —Unknown
- “Stepmothers should get the same respect a mother would receive. They give their time, energy, and affection to a child, they didn’t give birth to. Stepmothers do all this, not because they must do it. They do it because they choose to do it.” —Unknown
- “Not a single drop of my self-worth depends on what the bio mom in my situation thinks of me.” —Unknown
- “Parents – especially stepparents, are sometimes a bit of a disappointment to their children. They don’t fulfill the promise of their early years.” ―Anthony Powell
- “Even on days when you feel like you are doing everything wrong, I promise you your stepkids still think you are the best stepmom.” —Unknown
- “A good stepmom is not made – she is built. She is built by the hardships of her role, the tears she cries in secret, and by the lessons, she learns through trial and error.” ―Michelle Zunter
- “A stepparent is an amazing person. They made a choice to love another’s child as their own.” —Unknown
- “I’m lucky to have two mothers; a great mother and stepmother. If you don’t do it for yourself, do it for a woman you love.” ―Mark Rebb
- “Being a stepmom means they grew inside of my heart instead of my tummy.” —Unknown
- “Being a stepmom is extremely tough because you are continually being tested by the children, your husband, the neighbors, the relatives, old friends who knew the children’s parents in their previous marriage, and by yourself.” —Unknown
- “For better or worse, step-parenting is self-conscious parenting. You’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.” —Unknown
- “From the moment I became a stepmother, my purpose has been to love and protect these children with everything I have.” ―Unknown
- “A stepparent doesn’t just marry a spouse; they marry an entire situation. They find a balance between supporting and defending without overstepping visible and invisible boundaries.” —Unknown
- “All stepmothers need to give themselves time to adjust to a new home with a new family. It is okay if you don’t instantly become the children’s favorite. Remember to be true to yourself, show your care and patience, and with time, everything will fall into place.” —Unknown
- “Being a stepmom is one of the most selfless things you could do in your life.” —Ivana Davies
- “Disney has been lying to little girls. Stepmothers are not scary, nannies are not magical, and dwarfs do not let you spend the night at their house without expecting something.” ―Xanthippe Voorhees
- “Yes, I didn’t give life to you, but you really gave me mine.” —Unknown
- “Jane was my wicked stepmother: she was generous, affectionate, and resourceful; she salvaged my schooling and I owe her an unknowable debt for that. One flaw: sometimes, early on, she would tell me things designed to make me think less of my mother, and I would wave her away, saying, ‘Jane, this just backfires and makes me think less of you.”―Martin Amis
- “To the stepmom who feels like you are failing. Don’t doubt yourself. Right now, it feels hard, but each day you still show up, even through the exhaustion. You pour your love into your children, even though your cup feels empty. You do the best you can, even when you think you can’t. And that dear mama is not failing. You are amazing.” —Unknown
- “God cannot be present to mend every broken family, hence he created stepmom.” —Unknown
- “Biological, step, foster, adoptive. It’s not the word before ‘mom’ that defines you, but rather the love and dedication in your heart.” —Unknown
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- “The only steps in this house are the stair steps, and the only half in this house is the half-and-half creamer.” ―Al Hodson
- “The older I get, the more I realize that my stepmom is the best friend I could ever have.” —Unknown
- “I’ve never heard a song written from a stepmother’s point of view, about their family.” ―LeAnn Rimes
- “It takes someone really brave to be a stepmom. Someone strong to raise a child not her own, but love them with all her heart anyway.” —Unknown
- “They are not my stepchildren. They are my children who came into this world before I met them.” —Unknown
- “No matter what happens, I want my stepchildren to know that they are forever loved.” —Unknown
- “Most important is the recognition that stepparenting is different from primary parenting. It can be just as satisfying, it can be a reciprocally loving and caring relationship between parent and child, and it can provide some very good moments when it works, but it is different.” ―Claire Berman
- “Although my stepson and I may not share the same blood, we will always share the same love.” —Unknown
- “A stepmom might have to put in more effort and handle difficult situations so that everything goes smoothly and to make everyone feel at ease. It is one of the best gifts she could give.” —Unknown
- “I love my stepmom and everything she does for me. I couldn’t imagine my life without her in it.” —Unknown
- “Who cares if another woman or man loves your child, plays with your child, or builds a healthy relationship with your child — either way your child is benefiting.” —Jessica James
- “You came not to replace my mother, but to add to the love that I am receiving.” —Unknown
- “That’s one of the things [Joe Biden and I] have in common. My children don’t call me stepmom, they call me Momala. We’re a very modern family. Their mom is a close friend of mine. … Joe and I have a similar feeling that really is how we approach leadership: family in every version that it comes.” ―Kamala Harris
- I asked God for a best friend, so he sent me a stepmom!” —Unknown
- “Stepmothers are fairy godmother personified.” —Unknown
- “She never gets tired of making me feel what it’s like to have a family not solely based by blood or name, but by heart and soul.” —Unknown
- “My mother – my stepmother, really, she herself have been what they call an elocutionist. And she was the one who first encouraged me to write poetry, because she used to read it to us. And then when I began to write when I was nine years old, my first poem was published in the Amsterdam News. I called it “The Graveyard.”— Ruby Dee
- “My stepmom is an angel who gave me an additional love and I am so grateful.” —Unknown
- “We might not share our physical features, but we do share our hearts.” —Unknown
- “To my stepmom, thank you for being brave enough to face uncertainties when all things were new. You never made us feel like a stranger’s child. You always loved us as your own. And I will always love you for that.” —Unknown
- “I certainly think Halle Berry’s a wonderful role model. She’s a terrific stepmother and has shown that in so many beautiful ways and has made such enormous strides for women culturally and such great successes as an actress and philanthropist.”—Sharon Stone
- “I will never understand the difference between a stepmother and a biological mother because you’ve never shown me the difference between the two.” —Unknown
- “When I came out, I told my stepmother Gladys, and she just said she had known for years and was glad I wasn’t lying anymore.” —Ian McKellen
- “Dear Stepmom, thank you for being patient with me…every single day.” —Unknown
- “I’m so sick of these wussy princesses and evil women. We’ve done the evil witches of Sleeping Beauty and Rapunzel, the evil queen of Snow White and the evil stepmother of Cinderella. Is this some kind of campaign against femininity? Our choices are the evil and usually ugly powerful female or the helpless princess, desired just for her beauty? And what the heck is this shit about evil stepmothers anyway?” —Wen Spencer
- “You never treated me as a spare child, but as an extra blessing.” —Unknown
- “Every parent has the power to teach their child that it is perfectly okay to like or love your stepparent and have an amazing relationship with them. There is enough love for everyone.” —Unknown
- “Bright families are just like bright colors: When you blend two, you get something beautiful!” —Unknown
- “The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” —Richard Bach
- “The child who gets a stepmother also gets a stepfather.” —Danish proverb
- “A healthy stepmother knows that some days she’s a stage hand, some days she’s the leading lady, and some days she’s the audience… and she plays each role with grace and style.”―Unknown
- “Every parent has the ability to free their child from a loyalty bind by saying ” It’s okay to like or love your stepparent. I want you to have a wonderful relationship with them. There’s enough love to go around.” —Unknown
- “The children who have two moms, are blessed twice over. They get twice the love, twice the happiness, and twice the pampering.” —Unknown
- “A parent is the person who raises, loves and provides for the child. It doesn’t matter if you share the same blood or not.” —Unknown
- “It’s hard being a stepmom. But I cherish every moment.” —Unknown
- “It’s not easy to be a stepmom. Your husband may be your best friend, but he’s also the father of your children, and that can mean losing a little of yourself sometimes.” —Jennifer Garner
- “I was lucky to have a bonus in life. Biological parents and my stepmom!” ―Unknown
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- “No matter what happens, you will be your stepmother’s children.” ―Unknown
- “If you want to be a stepmom, you have to be a role model.” ―Unknown
- “I tried to make my husband make his daughter like me. After ten years of failed attempts, I decided to make myself change.” ―Valerie J Lewis Coleman
- “The life of a child is precious. They need lots of love, a sweet hug and loving homes. Be a proud stepmom and provide all the additional love that they need. It’ll be your gift of life to them. It has great power.” ―Unknown
- “My lead throughout my entire life has been my stepmother. She has given me so much of herself, I am forever grateful to her.” ―Unknown
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Frequently Asked Questions
1. Is a stepmom considered a mom?
The stepmother may not have given birth to the child, but if she takes your mom’s place and attends to her share of responsibilities as a mother, you tend to start treating her like your own mom. However, this is not mandatory. The child and the stepmother should mutually agree to be called mom.
2. What is a bonus, mom?
Bonus mom is another name for stepmothers. They might not be the biological mothers of a child, yet they fulfill a mother’s duties and attend to all of their stepchildren’s needs.
3. What should a stepmom never do?
Remember not to discriminate between your stepchildren and biological children when being a stepmom. Also, refrain from comparing yourself with the children’s biological mother.
Being a stepmom isn’t always easy, especially since popular media portrays this relationship negatively. But, if you’re determined to prove the world wrong, show them how you shower your stepchildren with your motherly love, appreciation, kindness, and affection. As you do so, using some of the stepmom quotes listed above can help you stay motivated. So, frame the quote you like the most and use it to help you become stronger when life gets tough. It will act as a source of inspiration and encouragement for you to make a special place for yourself in your stepchildren’s hearts and give them a mother’s love, which they may not have experienced before.
Infographic: Stepmom Quotes To Express Your Gratitude
If your stepmom is doing all her responsibilities like a queen, make sure to encourage her and show your gratitude in the most wonderful way possible. Check out the infographic below to learn some touching motivational quotes for stepmoms. Illustration: Momjunction Design Team 
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