75 Best Stepmom Quotes To Express Your Love

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Sometimes, it can be tough adjusting to the new family as a stepmother. So we bring you some inspiring stepmom quotes to motivate you to strive hard and make a place for yourself. Stepmothers may not have a blood relationship with their children, but they are connected through hearts. So even though every day seems challenging, you wake up to make a loving home and enrich your children’s lives in the most meaningful and beautiful way. However, it is okay to seek support and strength to move forward. That is why we have put together a list of heartwarming quotes for stepmoms to keep you going strong.

75 Stimulating Stepmom Quotes And Sayings

A role of a stepmom might not be easy, but it is special. These quotes celebrate every amazing stepmom out there trying to do her best.

  1. Little souls find their way to you, whether they’re from your womb or someone else’s.” ―Sheryl Crow
  1.  “Not flesh of my flesh, nor bone of my bone, but still miraculously my own. Never forget for a single minute, you didn’t grow under my heart but in it.” ―Fleur Conkling Heyliger
  1. Stepparents are not around to replace biological parent, rather to augment a child’s life experience.” ―Azriel Johnson
  1. However motherhood comes to you, it’s a miracle.” ―Valeria Harper
  1. There is no universal approach when it comes to being a stepmom. So, let us all just do our best to encourage and help each other through it.” —Unknown
  1. Being a stepmother has worked out very well for me. I love my stepchildren very much.” ―Philippa Gregory
  1. A stepmother has a hard hand.” ―Unknown
  1. A caring stepmother doesn’t have to replace the child’s own mom. She will secure her own special place in the heart of the child by her love and care.” —Unknown
  1. Remember why you chose to come together in the first place—the love that you have for your partner. Your partner’s children are an extension of them, and this makes them just as important to your happiness.” ―Beth Huber
  1. It is said great power comes great responsibility. But stepmothers’ shoulder great responsibilities even when they have limited power over their stepchildren in terms of acceptability and trust.” ―Unknown
  1. Step-parenting and being a step-sibling presents a lot of exciting opportunities. When families break up and re-form, there may be less order, less certainty, and a bit more trauma involved, but kids can end up having half-a-dozen parent figures.” ―Morris Gleitzman
  1. To be sure a stepmother to a girl is a different thing to a second wife to a man!” ―Elizabeth Gaskell
  1. A good stepparent can change the life of the child for the better.” —Unknown
  1. You’re second in line to your husband’s kids because the kids should come first, right? … Logically speaking, that sounds fantastic. Of course! Always put the kids first! But your heart … feels like, oh, like, I’m not significant and I don’t matter. … You have hurt feelings, and you don’t really understand how to say that.” ―Jasjit Sangha
  1. Half and full should be used in maths not in relationships. There are no half-mothers only complete families.” —Unknown
  1.  “Family isn’t defined only by last names or by blood; it’s defined by commitment and by love.” ―Dave Willis
  1. I might not have carried them in my belly for nine months, but I promise to carry them in my heart forever.” —Unknown
  1. I am a stepmother to the fullest extent.” ―Megan Fox
  1. Families don’t have to match. You don’t have to look like someone else to love them.” ―Leigh Anne Tuohy
  1. A stepmother’s love is unique. She continues to love her bonus children selflessly despite knowing that she will never be the priority in their lives.” —Unknown
  1. In my experience, if you’re a good girl and suffer yourself to be led you will find your stepmother the sweetest creature imaginable. I never managed it but you might.”― Lady Harriet Cumnor
  1. Only true warriors can become good stepmothers.” —Unknown
  1. Intimacy between stepchildren and stepparents is indeed proverbially difficult.”―Murasaki Shikibu
  1. Behind many great children is a stepparent who stepped in, took responsibility and cared.” —Unknown
  1. There’s no clear road map to being a stepmother.” ―Laura Brimberry
  1. When it feels as if you can’t do right by the other parent, do right by your stepchild instead. You’ll never fail with best interest at heart.” ―Jessica James
  1. Only one whose heart is full of love can choose to love someone else’s child as their own.” —Unknown
  1. Stepparenting is working at a late-night convenience store….all the responsibility and none of the authority.” ―Valerie J Lewis Coleman
  1. Proud Stepmothers. We are not attempting to be some other person. We are quite amazing just being ourselves.” —Unknown
  1. Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” ―Oprah Winfrey
  1. Not every child in this world is fortunate enough to have two beautiful moms in a single lifetime.” —Unknown
  1. Understand that your role is transitional. … Some days you’re going to be the leading lady. Some days you’re just going to be a stagehand. And some days you’re not going to be in the scene at all. The quicker you realize that the better off you’ll be.” ―Naja Hall
  1. Being a stepmom is like completing someone else’s incomplete melody. Understanding the already created tune and adding your own personality to seamlessly complete it, is really a work of a true maestro. ” —Unknown
  1. I want to say this to every stepmother: take it a little easier, try not to be so insistent, try not to have your desires dominate—and not just with the stepchildren, but with your husband, your family, your friends. The moment you step back from whatever it is that exasperates you, you get an unrestricted view of the situation—and you can take a breath before you move forward.”―Margit Eva Bernard
  1. We aren’t step. We are just a family.” ―Unknown
  1. Stepmothers are more self-critical and blame themselves more than any other members of a remarried family. They tend to experience difficulty with a stepchild as ongoing, unremitting and overwhelming.” ―Wednesday Martin
  1. You didn’t treat me like an extra child, you treated me like one more blessing.”
  1. Co-parenting is not a competition. It’s a collaboration of two homes working together with the best interest of the child at heart. Work for your kids, not against them.” ―Anne Brown
  1. All of a sudden you’re thrown into doing motherly duties. And I call that the stepmom vortex. You just get pulled in. You’re making lunches. You’re making dinners. You’re going to practices. … Nobody tells you.” ―Kendall Rose
  1. Being a stepmom is not easy, but a sweet hug and kiss from the kids are all worth it.” —Unknown
  1. Let me tell you a few truths about being a stepmother you won’t read in any self-help books or get from a therapist. It’s emotionally draining to be a stepmother. Being a stepmother is the most difficult job on the planet because no matter what you do, you lose.” ―Sarah Jo Smith
  1. I never had that wicked stepmother or evil stepfather thing at all. I’m very close to both stepparents and I consider them to be my parents, too.” ―Mark Ronson
  1. Stepmothers in books usually behave very spitefully towards the children entrusted to them. But he was now learning by his own experience that in real life this does not always happen.”―Murasaki Shikibu
  1. Being a stepmom is a difficult job, but it is worth it because you go to sleep every night with an amazing feeling that you are loved by children who don’t biologically belong to you.” —Unknown
  1. If you’re about to become a stepmother or are currently filling that role, you are gambling that the love you’ve found and the strength and wisdom that you’ve acquired will see you through.”―Sue Patton Thoele
  1. Stepmothers should get the same respect a mother would receive. They give their time, energy, and affection to a child, they didn’t give birth to. Stepmothers do all this, not because they must do it. They do it because they choose to do it.” —Unknown
  1. Parents – especially stepparents, are sometimes a bit of a disappointment to their children. They don’t fulfill the promise of their early years.” ―Anthony Powell
  1. A good stepmom is not made – she is built. She is built by the hardships of her role, the tears she cries in secret, and by the lessons, she learns through trial and error.” ―Michelle Zunter
  1. I’m lucky to have two mothers; a great mother and stepmother. If you don’t do it for yourself, do it for a woman you love.” ―Mark Rebb
  1. Being a stepmom is extremely tough because you are continually being tested, by the children, your husband, the neighbors, your husband, the relatives, old friends who knew the children’s parents in their previous marriage, and by yourself.” —Unknown
  1. From the moment I became a stepmother, my purpose has been to love and protect these children with everything I have.” ―Unknown
  1. All stepmothers need to give themselves some time to adjust in a new home, with a new family. It is okay if you don’t instantly become the children’s favorite. Be your honest caring self, and in time all will be okay.” —Unknown
  1. Disney has been lying to little girls. Stepmothers are not scary, nannies are not magical, and dwarfs do not let you spend the night at their house without expecting something.” ―Xanthippe Voorhees
  1.  “Jane was my wicked stepmother: she was generous, affectionate, and resourceful; she salvaged my schooling and I owe her an unknowable debt for that. One flaw: sometimes, early on, she would tell me things designed to make me think less of my mother, and I would wave her away, saying, ‘Jane, this just backfires and makes me think less of you.”―Martin Amis
  1. God cannot be present to mend every broken family, hence he created stepmom.” —Unknown
  1. The only steps in this house are the stair steps, and the only half in this house is the half-and-half creamer.” ―Al Hodson
  1. I’ve never heard a song written from a stepmother’s point of view, about their family.” ―LeAnn Rimes
  1. They are not my stepchildren. They are my children who came into this world before I met them.” —Unknown
  1. Most important is the recognition that stepparenting is different from primary parenting. It can be just as satisfying, it can be a reciprocally loving and caring relationship between parent and child, and it can provide some very good moments when it works, but it is different.” ―Claire Berman
  1. A stepmom might have to put in more effort and handle difficult situations so that everything goes smoothly and to make everyone feel at ease. It is one of the best gifts she could give.” —Unknown
  1. Who cares if another woman or man loves your child, plays with your child, or builds a healthy relationship with your child — either way your child is benefiting.” —Jessica James
  1. That’s one of the things [Joe Biden and I] have in common. My children don’t call me stepmom, they call me Momala. We’re a very modern family. Their mom is a close friend of mine. … Joe and I have a similar feeling that really is how we approach leadership: family in every version that it comes.” ―Kamala Harris
  1. Stepmothers are fairy godmother personified.” —Unknown
  1. My mother – my stepmother, really, she herself have been what they call an elocutionist. And she was the one who first encouraged me to write poetry, because she used to read it to us. And then when I began to write when I was nine years old, my first poem was published in the Amsterdam News. I called it “The Graveyard.”— Ruby Dee
  1. We might not share our physical features, but we do share our hearts.” —Unknown
  1. I certainly think Halle Berry’s a wonderful role model. She’s a terrific stepmother and has shown that in so many beautiful ways and has made such enormous strides for women culturally and such great successes as an actress and philanthropist.”—Sharon Stone
  1. When I came out, I told my stepmother Gladys, and she just said she had known for years and was glad I wasn’t lying anymore.” —Ian McKellen
  1. I’m so sick of these wussy princesses and evil women. We’ve done the evil witches of Sleeping Beauty and Rapunzel, the evil queen of Snow White and the evil stepmother of Cinderella. Is this some kind of campaign against femininity? Our choices are the evil and usually ugly powerful female or the helpless princess, desired just for her beauty? And what the heck is this shit about evil stepmothers anyway?” —Wen Spencer
  1. Every parent has the power to teach their child that it is perfectly okay to like or love your stepparent and have an amazing relationship with them. There is enough love for everyone.” —Unknown
  1. The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” —Richard Bach
  1. A healthy stepmother knows that some days she’s a stage hand, some days she’s the leading lady, and some days she’s the audience… and she plays each role with grace and style.”―Unknown
  1. The children who have two moms, are blessed twice over. They get twice the love, twice the happiness, and twice the pampering.” —Unknown
  1. It’s hard being a stepmom. But I cherish every moment.” —Unknown
  1. No matter what happens, you will be your stepmother’s children.” ―Unknown
  1. I tried to make my husband make his daughter like me. After ten years of failed attempts, I decided to make myself change.” ―Valerie J Lewis Coleman

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Is a stepmom considered a mom?

Stepmother may not have given birth to the child, but if she takes your mom’s place and attends to her share of responsibilities as a mother, you tend to start treating her like your own mom. However, this is not mandatory. The child and the stepmother should mutually agree to be called mom.

2. What is a bonus, mom?

Bonus mom is another name for stepmothers. They might not be the biological mothers of a child, yet they fulfill a mother’s duties and attend to all of their stepchildren’s needs.

3. What should a stepmom never do?

When being a stepmom, remember not to discriminate between your stepchildren and biological children. Also, refrain from comparing yourself with the children’s biological mother.

Being a stepmom isn’t always easy, especially since popular media portrays this relationship negatively. But, if you’re determined to prove the world wrong, show them how you shower your stepchildren with your motherly love and affection. As you do so, using some of the stepmom quotes listed above can help you stay motivated. So, frame the quote you like the most and use it to help you become stronger when life gets tough. It will remind you that you can make a special place of yourself in your stepchildren’s hearts and give them a mother’s love, which they may not have previously experienced.

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Shivank is an experienced professional with a passion for writing, editing, and research. With a bachelor’s degree in Mass Communication from IEL, Dehradun, he previously worked as a production editor. Shivank transitioned into a writer/editor, contributing to various publications as a freelancer. He writes literature, including quotes, poems and wishes, for MomJunction. He has a special interest in music and... more