Tips On How To Improve Your Child's Self-Awareness?

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Educating children about vital life skills is essential for their overall development. Hence, one skill that must be taught from an early age is self-awareness for kids. Learning this skill could help children progress toward an optimistic future.

A child who is well aware of their thoughts and feelings can easily overcome their weaknesses, boost their potential, and develop good socio-emotional skills. Hence, if you plan to teach self-awareness to your children, read this post for tips on some ways to teach this useful skill in an age-appropriate manner.

What Is Self-Awareness?

Self-awareness is a life skill that will help your child learn to understand his feelings and thoughts and optimize his potential. It will also help him to understand what others think of him and his behavior. Developing self-awareness and being able to channelize it in the right way is a very important tool in your child’s overall development (1).

How To Teach Self Awareness For Kids:

Being self-aware will help your child tap into his emotional as well as academic intelligence. It will also help your child develop various social relationships through the growing up years and even later in life. Here are some easy and effective ways on developing self awareness in children:

1. Be The Role Model:

To develop self awareness for children, you have first to be aware of it yourself (2).

  • Use your everyday behavior to show your child how to manage daily situations in a calm and positive way.
  • When faced with an unpleasant or frustrating incident, teach your child how to react in a positive way and deal with the situation.
  • If you do seem to get angry about a particular situation, give yourself a timeout and show your child how you distract your mind for some time to handle the problem at hand better.

2. Accept And Recognize Your Child’s Emotions:

Understand your child’s emotions and never make fun of them, in front of him or others (3).

  • Your child’s display of emotions will help him control his feelings and also express himself in a better way.
  • When your child learns to deal with his emotions, he will learn to accept his behavior and understand how to function better.

3. Empathize With Your Child:

When you empathize with your child, it will make him feel secure and confident about himself.

  • Empathizing with your child will teach him that his emotions are important and are nothing to be ashamed of or hide.
  • Your child may have done poorly in something and be feeling bad about it. Empathizing with him will teach him that he does not always have to be perfect, and it is fine.

4. Let Your Child Communicate Freely:

The key to your child’s self-awareness and overall growth is a good communication that is honest and open.

  • Encourage your child to communicate freely with you.
  • Let him express his thoughts clearly and without worrying about what you will think.
  • Appreciate the fact that he talks to you about what he feels and tell him that you are happy he discusses things with you.
  • Even if you do not agree fully with what he says, do not ridicule his opinion. Instead, guide him gently in a positive way.


5. Pay Attention, Be A Listener And Teach Effective Problem Solving:

Make sure you give enough attention to your child and are a good listener.

  • When you shower your attention on your child, it will make him feel loved and wanted, and his sense of worth will also reach a high.
  • Help your child to understand how to respond to and not react in certain situations. It is fine if your child loses his cool and bursts out in anger or tears of frustration. Accept it as his natural reaction. However, help him find a better way to deal with the same situation next time.
  • Once he does so, make sure you appreciate him for his courage and help him perceive the difference.

Improving self-awareness in children helps them build a positive self-image and allows them to understand themselves better. Being an ideal role model, dealing with their everyday emotions, and empathizing with your children about their feelings, could allow your child to pick most behavioral and social traits from you. It also allows them to accept the way they feel and express themselves. Letting your child communicate freely and helping them realize the best of their potential can teach them about effective problem-solving and build self-awareness.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Why is self-awareness so important?

Self-awareness helps children tune their feelings, thoughts, and actions and make them understand how other people see them. It helps them recognize their strengths and weaknesses. It also helps them develop a good mindset and learn from their mistakes rather than blaming others (1).

2. At what age does a child become self-aware?

Self-awareness may begin to develop at 15–24 months. For example, by this age, a baby can recognize a spot on their nose while looking at a mirror. Before this age, they may think the spot is on the mirror. Hence, they begin to recognize that the reflection is their own face (5).

3. What causes a lack of self-awareness?

The absence of proper stimulation and care during developmental ages and neurodevelopmental problems can cause a lack of appropriate self-awareness. Infants and toddlers understand interpersonal context when nurtured in a healthy environment with positive ongoing relationships among familiar adults (5).

4. What are the signs of a lack of self-awareness?

Children who lack self-awareness may engage in inappropriate behaviors without understanding their impact. Not understanding nonverbal cues, body language, and people’s perspectives also indicate self-awareness issues. Children who lack self-awareness also tend to misunderstand and argue with others frequently. Inability to predict their performance in academics or sports and frequent mistakes in school due to carelessness can also be caused by a lack of self-awareness (6).


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Sadiya Qamar

Sadiya is a writer and editor with a passion for writing about parenthood and children. Her focus areas are health, wellness, and beauty. For MomJunction, she writes on kids’ health and nutrition.  Sadiya believes in doing in-depth research and providing accurate information to help parents with concerns on their children’s growth and development.