If you have a crush, you might want to talk to them. But if you find yourself breaking into a cold sweat with the very idea, you might need a push in the correct direction to make an impression. Talking is the first step to get to know your crush better and get closer to them.
But how do you overcome the awkwardness you feel whenever you are in the company of your crush? Even if you are calm otherwise, you might feel flustered when you meet your crush. It is normal, and the best thing you can do is relax and let go of your worries. Although it is easier said than done, the more you are yourself, the more your crush is bound to notice you.
If you think you freeze in front of your crush, we bring you this post with things to talk about with your crush. These will help you get away from the awkwardness and feel more at ease. If you find a common topic with your crush, you might even get a chance to discuss it further.
75 Things To Talk About With Your Crush
“Get To Know You” Things
The start of any relationship begins with getting to know the other person. These topics will help you get to know your crush better without being too intrusive.
1. What do you like to do on dates?
You might potentially ask your crush out for a date. For that, you need to know what they enjoy the most to plan accordingly and make the date special.
2. What are your hobbies?
Hobbies are often great conversation starters and play a role in bonding. It is one of the safest topics you can talk about with almost anyone, and you will be able to talk a little longer with your crush if you have some hobbies in common.
3. What are your life goals?
A life goal is a deep topic of discussion. If your life goals are similar, you can work together to encourage each other. Based on their answer, you would know how deeply committed they are in life.
4. What is your favorite TV show?
You can talk about TV shows with your crush without a second thought as it is an innocuous topic of discussion. It gives you some points to talk about and an opportunity to watch the show and update yourself. You could also get merchandise based on the show to impress your crush.
5. Who is your best friend?
Best friends are a part of life. You can ask your crush about their best friend and talk about yours. This way, you would know about the important people in each other’s lives and get an idea about how much they value friendship and what place their best friend holds in life.
6. Do you like cooking?
It is a well-known saying that the way to someone’s heart is through their stomach. If your crush likes cooking, you can learn a few new recipes from them. You could also make plans to meet and cook together.
7. Which books do you like to read?
If your crush likes reading, you could ask them about books. Book lovers enjoy talking about books and are willing to listen to a bookworm. If you can talk about books too, that becomes a bonus.
8. Which movies and actors do you like?
It is one of the fail-safe things you can talk about with your crush without the fear of offending them. Of course, if there is a difference in viewpoints, you might want to keep your opinions to yourself. But otherwise, you can talk about their favorite movies and actors. And in case your opinions match, you are in luck.
9. Do you know who our common friends are?
Mutual friends are usually helpful in setting the conversation ball going. Start by asking your crush about a particular friend, and within no time, you will be talking about all your long-forgotten friends and contacts. Who knows, you might have even met before you knew each other.
10. Which is your favorite hangout place?
Find out where your crush likes to hang out and let them know yours. Maybe, if you get to date them in the future, you could go to their favorite place. You can also ask which cuisine they like. These tidbits can help you come closer than you realize.
11. What is your favorite travel destination?
The answer could be some exotic location you never visited or “my living room.” Whatever the answer is, it is sure to spark a conversation with your crush, and soon they might be sharing their travel dreams.
12. Who are your favorite family members?
Family is what keeps us steady but also drives us crazy. Talking about your family is one of the safe bets when you want to talk with your crush. Ask about their family and tell them about yours. Throw in a silly incident or show the photographs of your family to your crush.
13. What do you think about this sport/politician?
If you have a crush on someone, you have most likely looked them up on social media. It will give you an idea about their preferences. If you are a cricket fan and they are into tennis, read up a bit on tennis. You can then start and sustain a conversation with your crush.
Topics To Talk About With Your Crush Over Text
If you have exchanged numbers, that is a definite plus for you. But you have to keep the chats flowing to keep your crush interested. Texts can be a good way to ask questions that might cause awkwardness when asked directly.
14. What are the things that irritate you?
If you have met your crush a few times and know a bit about each other, you can bring up this topic. Make sure you have valid answers before you broach this subject. It could be something as random as someone breaking the queue at the supermarket or someone honking.
15. Tell me about your hometown
If your crush is from a different place, this topic can get them to open up to you. Every person is fond of their hometown. You can share things about your hometown too and even make plans to visit in the future.
16. What kind of jobs have you worked at?
Many people work right from when they are in high school. The kind of jobs a person does often plays a role in their life. You can tell about their values and temperament from the jobs they have done or aspire to do.
17. Who knows you the best?
The topic can be left for later when you know your crush more intimately. They have to trust you to divulge such details. It might be their family member or best friend. Whoever it is, this revelation can give you the scope to get closer to your crush.
18. What are you passionate about?
Ask your crush what they are passionate about, and if your passions match, you might be able to forge a great partnership that will give you the chance of bonding better.
19. Share something your parents do not know
With this question, you can ask your crush to share a piece of intimate information about their life. If they disclose, assume that they consider you one of their close friends they can trust. However, you need to be ready to spill your secrets too.
20. What are your weird habits?
Do you like eating rice with ice cream, or do you knock on the door three times before leaving home? Ask your crush what their weird habits are. Tell them yours, and if they match, you have got another topic in common.
21. What is your biggest pet peeve?
It could be the usage of improper grammar for some or wearing a t-shirt with skirts for others.
22. What was your favorite movie or TV show in childhood?
If you want to bring up some nostalgia to get closer to your crush, asking about their favorite childhood movie or TV show can be the right way to start some great discussions about their childhood. You can share your likes and dislikes with your crush, too.
23. Are there any causes you support?
This question will give you an idea of what they are passionate about and help you get closer to them. You can volunteer to contribute to the cause as well so that they get a chance to admire you. Keep an open mind because they are likely to be very passionate about the cause they support.
24. Which is the best concert you have been to?
If your crush loves music and has talked about their favorite singers or bands at some point, you can ask them if they have been to concerts and which one has been their favorite. Music often stirs deep emotions in people, and you can get closer to your crush over your shared music experiences.
25. Tell me about your first job
Everyone has a different experience at their first job. These experiences always make for great stories. You can bond well with your crush as they describe their first job and the things they learned.
26. Who do you think are the most overrated and underrated actors?
People usually have strong emotions about movies and actors, especially their favorite ones. Talking about actors is a safe way to talk with your crush and gives you lots of grounds to bond.
Interesting Topics To Talk About With Your Crush
Several topics can lead to exciting discussions with your crush. Bring up these topics for discussion so that your crush starts looking forward to talking to you.
27. If you were to have one superpower for a day, what would it be?
The topic can open new fun avenues for discussion with your crush. You can share your plans of becoming a superhero, and you both can discuss various things you can do together.
28. If you woke up as the opposite sex tomorrow, what would you do?
It is an evergreen topic for discussion that is guaranteed to bring a smile to your crush’s face. Ask this question and know some interesting viewpoints of the other sex. You can share your opinions too and have an interesting discussion.
29. What music do you like?
Music is a deeply emotional topic of conversation as people feel passionate about the music they listen to. It has the power to bring people from different parts of the world together. Get to know your crush’s preferences and see if your tastes match.
30. Which movie do you hate but everyone loves?
If your crush reveals the movie they hate, but everyone loves it, you will have a new topic to discuss. Remember that the movie they mention might be your favorite too, so keep an open mind when discussing it.
31. Which movie do you love but everyone hates?
Some movies do not make the cut with the general audience but have a few followers. Find out which is the movie your crush likes despite its negative ratings and bring your heads together.
32. Which is the trend that you find bizarre?
New trends sprout so often in every field. Ask your crush which trend is overrated or simply bizarre. Is it the ice bucket challenge or the skinny jeans?
33. What kind of movies do you like?
Some might like romantic movies, others might like action movies, while a few might like movies with a solid storyline. Moreover, movies are a safe topic to talk about with your crush, even if you are newly acquainted. You can get some great movie recommendations too.
34. Which is your favorite drink?
If you want a question to transform into a date automatically, you could ask this question. Based on their answer, you can ask them for a date to a place where you get the drink. And if your drink preferences match, you will have a lot of fun trying out new places.
35. Which book changed your life?
If your crush likes reading books, you can ask them this question. Talking about books is a safe bet for discussion, especially if your crush is a reader.
36. If your pet could name you, what would they pick?
If you or your crush has pets, you have an excellent topic to discuss with your crush. Ask this question to start an interesting debate on animals. Your crush will bond with you as you share the photos of your pets.
37. What would you do if you were to win the lottery?
It is a great question to ask your crush as it will give you an idea of their priorities. They might want to go shopping or invest the money for the future. Now, it is up to you to think about what you would do if you were to win the lottery as you may have to answer too.
38. What do you admire most in people?
People value different things in others. Kindness, honesty, and loyalty are some of the attributes people value. Ask this question to your crush for some interesting discussions on qualities and why you should value them.
39. Which sport do you wish you played?
Many of us have unfulfilled dreams. Ask your crush which sport they thought they would excel in. Maybe they think they would make a good soccer player or a basketball player. They could even feel they should have taken up an indoor game. If you have similar dreams, you could take up classes together or just talk about them.
Things To Talk About With Your Crush On The Phone
If you feel you are running out of topics to talk about on the phone and your crush is about to cut the call, you can talk about these topics. They will ensure you remain on the line for quite some time.
40. What is your weirdest fear?
While your deepest, darkest fear might be a deep topic to talk about with your crush, you can certainly discuss your weirdest fear. What scares you the most? Spiders? Clowns? Talk about your most irrational fears with your crush and get to know more about them.
41. Which is the place you always wanted to visit?
Ask your crush where they would want to visit and why. You can share your plans with them and see if your favorite places have any similarities.
42. Which social media platforms do you like?
You may ask which social media platforms they like spending time on. As an added advantage, you can legitimately ask them if you can follow them on the medium.
43. Who is your favorite superhero?
Many people have extreme views on various superheroes. Some prefer only Marvel heroes, while others prefer DC, and a few might like someone entirely different. Ask your crush who their favorite superhero is, and get ready for an intense debate on why they are better than the others.
44. Do you like this city? How is it different from your city?
If your crush says they like the city they are in, ask them what aspects they are attracted to the most. Let them tell you how different it is from the place they have come from. If they say they do not like the current city much, you have a chance of showing them what’s the best here.
45. Tell me about your proud moments
It could be the day they graduated or the moment they learned to ride a bike. Ask your crush about their proud moments and share yours too.
46. What is your next big goal?
When your friendship has evolved, you can ask them about their next target in life to know where they plan to go. They might want to study to achieve a higher post or try to get promoted at work. Talking to them about this topic will give you a new perspective on your challenges
47. What are your dreams?
Your dreams are different from your life goals. While your life goal might be to become the CEO of your company, your dream might be to buy the latest Lamborghini. Discuss your dreams with your crush while asking them theirs. Who knows, your dreams might match, and you may get a chance to know your crush more intimately.
48. What are your thoughts on self-improvement?
You must be ready to broach this topic with your crush because it requires a lot of introspection on your end as well. If you feel you have any flaws, admit them to your crush before asking them about theirs.
49. What type of job do you want to do next?
It is a topic that will keep the conversation flowing for a long time as you and your crush discuss what you are looking forward to in a career.
50. If your pet could talk to you, what would they say first?
If you are looking for a topic that will bring a smile to your crush’s face, this is it. If your crush has a pet, there is no doubt they talk with it. But what if their pet could talk back? It will give some food for thought.
51. Which movie would you like to convert into a musical?
There are musicals and non-musicals. But what if your crush could convert any movie into a musical? How would they like the T-Rex from Jurassic Park grooving to beats while bursting onto the screen?
52. What is the one thing that should be banned?
Whether it is flared jeans or cigarettes, everyone has something they want to ban forever. Ask this question and be ready for some interesting and unpredictable conversations.
Fun Things To Talk About With Your Crush
Everyone has a funny side, and it is up to you to tap the funny side of your crush. See how funny your discussions can get when you start talking about these topics. Be ready for loads of laughter and bonding.
53. What is the one task that makes you look stupid?
In hindsight, it often seems incredibly funny. If you and your crush are on the verge of cutting the call, pop this question to keep the conversation going and the laughter flowing.
54. What part of a cartoon scared you most when you were little?
Most cartoons inadvertently include something that might scare children. Ask your crush this question for a nostalgic trip down memory lane.
55. What is the funniest joke you have heard?
Be ready to laugh at the joke even if you have heard the same joke a hundred times before. You can share the funniest jokes you know, and in some time, you will find yourself laughing your heads off.
56. What is one piece of useless information you know?
Ask your crush this question, share your pieces of useless information, and have a great laugh on the phone.
57. What is the most bizarre baby name you have heard?
Parents sometimes give the most bizarre names to their children. For example, Elon Musk named his child X Æ A-12. Bring up this topic during a phone call and spend hours dissecting the different names.
58. What are your holiday traditions?
Every family has a unique holiday tradition. Some families go out and celebrate, while others prefer to take a more laid-back approach. Does your family assemble for the big supper? Do you always prepare a full meal? Do you drink red wine or white? Ask these questions to know more about your crush and their family.
59. What helps you relax?
It is music for some, and it is a hot bath for a few. Some prefer to sleep it off, while others might watch movies to relax. If you want to get closer to your crush, ask them what they do to relax. Who knows, in the future, you might help them relax.
60. What do you look for in a partner?
If you have been talking to your crush for quite some time and want to take things forward, you have the chance to assess yourself based on their reply. You could even try making minor changes in your behavior to fit their perceptions.
61. Do you prefer calling or texting?
Every person has a preference for communication. While extroverts prefer talking on the phone even if you message, introverts and ambiverts can go on texting forever but will avoid taking phone calls. Ask your crush this question to know what they think. You can communicate with them in the means they prefer so that they think better of you.
62. What is your favorite pizza topping?
It is a topic that can end up on a pizza date. Just make sure both of you agree on your opinions on pizza. If you do, the next date is set. If not, you can always order one for them and one for you, but pizza toppings often give way to interesting conversations.
63. Do you believe in ghosts?
Everyone has a friend with a distant cousin who had seen a ghost. But there are no two ways about it. Either you believe in ghosts, or you don’t. Discuss this topic with your crush about why or why not ghosts exist and if you have come across something supernatural. If your views differ, you can try making them see your point of view.
Good Things To Talk About With Your Crush
There are some feel-good topics that make your crush feel better talking to you. If they have had a bad day, you can talk with them about these topics to improve their mood.
64. Which is your favorite tattoo?
If your crush has multiple tattoos, you can talk about them. They will love describing their experience of getting a tattoo, and if you don’t have any, you can ask them any number of questions about the pain and the healing process.
65. Which is your least favorite tattoo?
Raise this topic with your crush if you are sure they will not shut down. Many people have a least favorite tattoo. It may be something that reminds them of someone else, a tattoo that they got when they were blind drunk, or something that they got done from a friend on an experimental basis and isn’t happy with how it turned out.
66. What is your unrealistic dream job?
Talk to your crush about their dream job — it could be as silly as sleeping all day. If they are a reader, they might want a job that pays for reading books. If they are travelers, they might be looking for a job that allows them to travel free of cost. Share more and more unrealistic dream jobs and laugh your hearts out.
67. Which fandom do you follow?
It might get pretty intense, especially if you both do not follow similar fandoms. Keep the conversation light and discuss what they like about a particular fandom and tell them about yours. But on the flip side, if your fandoms match, it is like finding a long-lost twin.
68. What is your guilty pleasure?
Is watching reruns on Friends your crush’s guilty pleasure? Is eating a whole bar of chocolate your guilty pleasure? Admit these to each other and feel the distance getting close between you two.
69. What is the topic you know about most?
For all you know, your crush might be a space nerd. But how will you know if you won’t ask? It is a feel-good topic that will leave your crush feeling happy because someone voluntarily asked about their favorite topics and then listened to them.
70. What puts you off on a date?
While the common ones are always valid (often looking at the phone, talking rudely to waitstaff), some things are specific to different people. For example, some people cannot bear it if their date is wearing a loud perfume or doesn’t pick them up from home.
Discussing this in the crush stage will make sure you don’t go ahead with any misconceptions.
71. How did you feel about high school?
Did you enjoy high school and are still in touch with your friends? Or couldn’t you wait to get out of there and good riddance? Everyone has a different experience at school. Talk to your crush about their experiences, and you can get a new perspective on school life, even if you were in the same school.
72. How do you feel about your parents’ relationship?
If you feel your crush is comfortable talking about their family, you can ask them this question. You can ask what they have learned from their parents’ marriage. If they are separated, you can ask how they handled the separation.
73. If you could be someone else for a day, who would it be?
It can be someone popular or someone who has influenced many lives with their good work. Ask your crush who they would like to be and why. It will give you a good insight into your crush‘s life.
74. What is on your bucket list?
If your crush has admitted having a bucket list, ask them to share as many details as they feel comfortable. If your crush doesn’t have a bucket list, try making one each with them —a sort of buddy project. As you add items to your bucket list, you will know unknown aspects of your crush’s character.
75. What has been the worst year of your life until now?
This topic calls for some serious discussion, so you need to be ready to devote the time. After this discussion, you are sure to be closer to your crush.
Although falling in love is quite far off, these are little steps you can take to make sure you get to know your crush better. If you overcome your awkwardness and start talking with your crush with more confidence, they are sure to notice you. You might even exchange phone numbers, and who knows what might happen next?
Keep an open mind while approaching your crush and let matters unfold at their own pace. Meanwhile, enjoy your time together.