How To Attract A Woman Who Is Not Interested In You?

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It is quite common to have a crush on someone that is out of our league. If you’re thinking about how to attract a girl who doesn’t like you, we bring you some effective ways to make her notice you. She might have already noticed you for all practical purposes, but you could have ignored it. So, be confident about yourself and have faith in your ability to woo her. Also, never lose hope because if this doesn’t work out, the tips we present in our post could come in handy for attracting your next crush.

How To Attract A Girl Who Doesn’t Like You: 12 Ways

No matter what you do, you cannot force someone to like you. However, trying these tips can help you get noticed, so leave the liking part entirely on the girl.

1. Stay in her sight, to be in her mind

The girl probably has no interest in you because she is not aware of you. So, first, get her to notice you. Find out places she hangs out and frequent those places to make it look like you accidentally bumped into her. The more she sees you, the more familiar you will seem to her, and she will remember you. Do not stalk her or stare at her as it can scare her.

2. Be cool

Once you have made casual eye contact with her and she looks comfortable around you, then it’s time to connect. You could be dying to talk to her, but do not make the mistake of showing your desperation. Approach her casually. Initiate conversation only if she acknowledges you. If she looks even slightly disinterested, then politely excuse yourself and walk away from her.

3. Look confident

Confidence is an attractive quality that can get you noticed anywhere you go. When your crush is around you, you may be trembling with nervousness. However, when you meet her, feign confidence. Make eye contact and minimal hand gestures when talking to her. Nod your head slightly when she speaks to show you are attentive to her. Even if she doesn’t like you, she will admire your confidence.

4. Don’t chase her

Suppose you got her number from a mutual friend. Do not get excited and start texting her. You can send a casual message and wait for her reply. If she doesn’t reply, then do not fill her inbox with messages. And do not respond instantly after receiving her message. Plan your message and then send it. Remember, do not show your desperation in any way.

5. Look your best

Appearance plays a huge role in the appealing game. You do not have to look like Brad Pitt to date a girl. But you also cannot expect a girl notice a shabby personality. How you present yourself tells a lot about your personality and habits. So, ensure that your clothes are clean and you have a trimmed beard and hair. Even if she doesn’t like you, she may notice how well-groomed you are.

6. Be mysterious

For a girl to like you, she needs to think about you. One way to get her to think about you is by being mysterious around her. Let her know limited about you and conceal the rest. For example, show off your achievement but do not disclose all the details. She might come to you out of curiosity to know you better.

7. Have a sense of humor

When a girl doesn’t like you, try making her smile or laugh. When you are around her, joke about funny incidents or people you may have encountered in the past. Lookup for goofy one-liners online and use it wherever applicable. Throwing indirect humor could make her think about you and slowly make a space for you in her heart.

8. Flirt with her

Healthy flirting can make her like you. However, do not make a harsh personal remark, especially something about her appearance. If she smiles at you or doesn’t say anything, you can continue. But if you sense her dislike, stop it immediately.

9. Have an interesting life

When you are busy doing interesting stuff, you can even turn heads of people who don’t like you. Seeing you have a cool life might make her curious, and she may feel interested in knowing more about you. However, do not force yourself to do something only to impress her. Do stuff that you genuinely enjoy. Pursue your hobbies and other favorite activities more seriously.

10. Find common interests

If she doesn’t know you or dislikes you, a great way of connecting is by sharing common interests. For instance, if reading books is an interest you both share, she might consider changing her opinion about you. Also, she can become even more comfortable with you and give you more scope to make her like you.

11. Try the push and pull technique

It is a trick to make the girl curious about you. You can start showering her with attention and interest to pull her closer to you. Then you pull back yourself and reduce the amount of attention as a way to push her back. When you try it, she will be confused and might consider thinking about you.

12. Care for her

Even if a girl doesn’t like you, she could fall for you if you show your caring side. Tender love and care can melt her heart and make her see what an amazing person you are. You can indirectly help her or send a message through a mutual friend.

Matters of love are delicate and need careful handling. Do not get aggressive in your approach, especially if the girl doesn’t reciprocate your feelings. You can always try again until you finally grab her attention.

Key Pointers

  • Being cool and confident and staying in sight can attract a woman who is not interested in you.
  • Being mysterious and enhancing your appearance may work. However, chasing may not get a woman interested in you.
  • Find common interests, establish communications, and flirting may help attract a woman towards you.

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Ratika has experience writing in various fields including finance, education, lifestyle, and entertainment. After her masters degree in Commerce, she acquired a PG Diploma in Communication and Journalism from Mumbai University. She is inquisitive about human relationships and likes to study people and how they manage their relationships, during her freetime. At MomJunction, Ratika writes insightful and informative articles on... more

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