101 Toxic Relationship Quotes For You To Free Yourself

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You start your relationship with the hope of long-lasting love and companionship. However, things may take an ugly turn, and your relationship can get toxic. If you are struggling in such a situation, looking through some toxic relationship quotes may help you get a better perspective.

Relationships are not always roses and fairytales, as you may see in the movies. It can get hard and ruin your self-esteem. If you are in such a relationship, it is better to end it and prioritize your mental well-being. Many people stay in a toxic relationship hoping things will get better in the future. However, it usually only worsens, and you continue to suffer in the relationship.

In this post, we have combined several quotes about toxic relationships to give you the courage to walk away from a toxic relationship.

Toxic Relationship Quotes

It is not easy to get out of any relationship. But then, it is also true that you have to get over with and move on from anything bad for you. These quotes can give you an idea of what it is like to be in a toxic relationship and why it can be bad for those in it.

1. “No partner in a love relationship… should feel that he has to give up an essential part of himself to make it viable.” – May Sarton

2. “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

3. “It’s better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else.” – Phil McGraw

4. “I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term.” – Nicholas Sparks

5. “The hottest love has the coldest end.” – Socrates

6. “The one who loves the least, controls the relationship.” – Robert Anthony

7. “A relationship without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere.” – Michael J Herbert

8. “Love cannot live where there is no trust.” – Edith Hamilton

9. “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” – Ernest Hemingway

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11. “A bad relationship is like standing on broken glass, if you stay you will keep hurting. If you walk away, you will hurt but eventually you will heal.” – Autumn Kohler

12. “A bad relationship will make you feel more alone than when you were single.”

13. “Let go of those who are already gone.

14. “It is better for someone to break your heart once by leaving your life, than for them to stay in your life and break your heart continually.” – Terry Mark

15. “Relationships based on obligation lack dignity.” – Wayne Dyer

16. “The death of one relationship always starts with small arguments and then the suspicions.”

17. “Sometimes, we just fall in love with the wrong people.”

18. “Just because someone desires you, does not mean that he values you.” — Julianne Cantarella

19.“Why do you think of him because he’s not thinking about you.” — Amy Nicholson

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21. “Staying in an unhealthy relationship that robs you of peace of mind, is not being loyal. It is choosing to hurt yourself mentally, emotionally, and sometimes, physically.” – Kemi Sogunle

22. “Never date someone who makes pain a side effect of love.”

23. “You can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their actions.”

24. “The moment you start to wonder that you deserve a better person in life. You actually do

25. “It’s better to be single with high standards than in a relationship settling for less.”

26. “A broken heart bleeds tears.” – Steve Maraboli

27. “Hands that never touch. Lips that never meet. The Almost Lovers, never to be,” – Rae Hachton

28. “So it’s true when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.” E. A. Bucchianeri

29. “The shattering of a heart when being broken is the loudest quiet ever.” – Carroll Bryant

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31. “We’ve all loved someone way too freaking much.” – Karen Salmonsohn

32. “Perhaps someday I’ll crawl back home, beaten, defeated. But not as long as I can make stories out of my heartbreak, beauty out of sorrow.”

33. “If you’re in a relationship and all you do is cry, you need to stop and ask yourself, are you dating a human or an onion.” – Karen Salmansohn

34. “The only way to win with a toxic partner is not to play.”

35. “It hurts the most when the person that made you feel so special yesterday, makes you feel so unwanted the next.”

36. “If you’re giving love and not receiving it, you’re not in the right relationship. If you’re receiving it and not giving it, then you are taking advantage of the other person.” – Patti Stanger

37. “A bad relationship can do that, can make you doubt everything good you ever felt about yourself.” – Dionne Warwick

38. “Break free of toxic people and relationships, they erode your quality of life.”

39. “Failed relationships can be described as so much wasted make-up.” – Marian Keyes

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41. “Don’t allow someone not worth it to have the power to occupy your thoughts.” – Donna Lynn Hope

42. “Don’t settle for a relationship that won’t let you be yourself.” – Oprah Winfrey

43. “Don’t light yourself on fire trying to brighten someone else’s existence.” – Charlotte Eriksson

44. “You flew off with the wings of my heart and left me flightless.” Stelle Atwater

45. “A broken heart is the worst. It’s like having broken ribs. Nobody can see it, but it hurts every time you breathe.”

46. “My mouth says, ‘I’m ok.’ My fingers text, ‘I’m fine.’ My heart says, ‘I’m broken.’

47. “I gave you my heart, I just didn’t expect to get it back in pieces.”

48. “Love that remains the longest in your heart is the one that is not returned.”

49. “It hurts like hell. And then one day, it doesn’t.”

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51. “Love sometimes comes like a dream and leaves like a nightmare.”

52. “A toxic lover is someone damaged beyond repair.”

53. “Poisonous relationships can alter our perception. You can spend many years thinking you’re worthless. But you’re not worthless. You’re underappreciated.” – Steve Maraboli

54. “You create more space in your life when you turn your excess baggage to garbage.” – Chinonye J. Chidolue

55. “Thinking of you is a poison I drink often.” – Atticus

56. “I love you. But I hate the way you push me sometimes.”

57. “You broke my heart, I tried living with it. And then you broke my trust. That my dear is not acceptable.”

58. “Your love was awesome. It came quickly and left effortlessly.”

59. “I miss how close we were. But I don’t regret it.”

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61. “I know it’s over and it never really began, but in my heart, it was so real.”

62. “I hate being broken. I hate that I cannot go back.”

63. “Never let someone who contributes so little to a relationship control so much of it.”

64. “A toxic relationship keeps dragging you down. It never helps you in becoming better.”

65. “Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.” – Criss Jami

66. “You cannot fix him. He has been the same and won’t change now. Instead, try to save yourself and get out of the toxic relationship.”

67. “If your partner makes you lose your friends, family, self-esteem, happiness, and confidence, then you should lose him.”

68. “If your partner is suspicious of your every act, you should start thinking about your relationship.”

69. “A relationship controlled by ambiguity, jealousy, and control is not a relationship at all.”

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71. “Problems in relationships occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person.” – Wayne Dyer

72. “You are not broken. Someone who didn’t love you convinced that you are.”

73. “Relationships are supposed to make you feel good. Relationships are not supposed to make you feel bad. Or guilty, insecure, ashamed, paranoid, or hopeless. So when a relationship makes you feel bad, guilty, insecure, ashamed, paranoid, or hopeless. End it. Get over him. Move on.” – Laura Bowers

74. “When you don’t sleep peacefully in a relationship, you should come out of it and try it.”

75. “I am better than you and better without you. What are you without me?” – Chelsey Grace

76. “Lose him when he treats you like his girlfriend behind closed doors and sees right past you in public.” – Liane White

77. “If someone is treating you like you are nothing, you should become nothing in their life by leaving.”

78. “When he’s the last thing you need, he’ll drain you. He’ll exhaust you. He’ll destroy you. And you won’t see it that way. In fact, you won’t notice it at all. But everyone else will.” – Kirsten Corley

79. “There is no safe way to remain in a relationship with a person who has no conscience. The only solution is to escape.”

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81. “The problem with getting attached to a wrong person is, when they leave, you just feel lost.”

82. “It’s amazing how someone can break your heart and you can still love them with all the little pieces.” – Ella Harper

83. “You make me feel like a firefly. Trapped in a bell jar; starved for love.” – Ayushee Ghoshal

84 “A deadness occurs in relationships when people are no longer willing to tell each other how they really feel.” – Shakti Gawain

85. “There is a time for departure even when there’s no certain place to go.” – Tennesse Williams

86. “With all the smiles you brought me, I never thought that you could cause me so many tears.”

87. “It’s sad when you realize you aren’t as important to someone as you thought you were.”

88. “If it is destroying you. It is not love, my dear.”

89. “How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.” – Amanda Torroni

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Someone rightly quoted, “there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.” Irrespective of how depressing or toxic a relationship it is, you can always come out of it and breathe fresh air. Keep reading for more quotes that will help you recover from a bad relationship.

91. “You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically.” – Joel Osteen

92. “Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.” – Steve Maraboli

93. “The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it.”

94. “It was strange, really. A couple of months ago, I had thought I couldn’t live without him. Apparently I could.” – Gabrielle Zevin

95. “Sometimes you need to die a little inside in order to be reborn and thrive.”

96. “We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.” – Harville Hendrix

97. “There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.” – Jessica Hatchigan

98. “Broken hearts work, and they will make you strong.”

99.“There must come a time when your love for yourself becomes more important than your need to hold onto the pain of your past.” – Karen Salmansohn

100. “You have to believe that you’re better than the fountain of abuse that’s been spewing hurt and pain at you. You just are.” – Sara Li

101. “But he doesn’t love me anymore, and it’s not the end of the world.” – Jennifer Weiner

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How does a toxic relationship start?

A healthy relationship starts to take a toxic turn due to multiple factors. When both partners fail to acknowledge the destructive dynamic of the relationship, either of the partners is cheating, or you no longer feel an emotional connection with your love. These factors could trigger toxicity and animosity between partners. It is better to identify these red flags early and discuss them with your partner to ensure the relationship goes to the point of no return.

2. How do I let go of someone I love who is toxic?

Letting go of your love can be gut-wrenching, but sometimes holding on can be more damaging to your mental and physical health. So, if you want to end a relationship, remember these things –

  • Don’t let your past experience cloud your judgment regarding the present situation
  • Refrain from blaming yourself for the relationship going downhill
  • Don’t entertain anything that affects your choice or mental peace
  • Explain the reason for calling it quits to your partner and walk out of the relationship

People enter into relationships to share love and companionship. However, relationships may become toxic when they do not work out because of incompatibility or other reasons. Staying in a toxic relationship can destroy your peace and happiness. It can deprive you of your self-esteem, and you may begin questioning your self-respect. If you are going through such hard times, reading these toxic relationship quotes may inspire you to stay positive and look at the brighter side of the situation. These quotes will motivate you to take control and transform your life with confidence and courage.

Infographic: Why Some People Stay In A Toxic Relationship

A toxic relationship may not usually mean that your partner is physically abusive. Avoidance, lack of acknowledgment, dominance, and inability to make autonomous decisions are all indications of a toxic relationship.

Check out this infographic to learn about some reasons for people to stay in a toxic relationship even after knowing the truth.

reasons why people stay in a toxic relationship [infographic]
Illustration: MomJunction Design Team

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