According to the World Health Organization (WHO), miscarriage is one of the frequent problems in human pregnancies. Statistics reveal that 12 to 15% clinical pregnancies end in miscarriage and 17% to 22% have miscarriages in the early pregnancy itself (1). But there is hope. While the mourning period will last, you can get out of it and plan a family again. MomJunction helps you know about what to do after a miscarriage and how to recover both physically and emotionally from the unpleasant experience.
Miscarriage is defined as a spontaneous loss of pregnancy before the 20th week (in the US) or 24th week (in the UK) (2). Medically, it is termed as spontaneous abortion. It involves expelling of the fetus from the uterus (3).
Primarily, miscarriages happen due to genetic reasons and chromosomal abnormalities. These factors inhibit the growth of the fetus. Besides the above, hormonal levels, uncontrolled diabetes, exposure to toxic agents, uterine abnormalities, medications, smoking, alcohol and drug abuse can also lead to miscarriages. A blood condition called thrombophilia can also lead to miscarriage.
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Ectopic pregnancy symptoms, which show up around the sixth to eighth week of pregnancy also lead to an early miscarriage (4).
The body takes about a few weeks to months to ease symptoms and restore its strength.
Since miscarriage happens with the detachment of fetus from the uterine lining, bleeding after miscarriage is inevitable. Miscarriage bleeding begins as a light spotting and progresses to a heavier flow with clots. While it does taper off within a week or two, the duration of bleeding depends on whether it was a medical or surgical miscarriage. In case the bleeding lasts for more than two weeks, you should contact your doctor immediately (5).
You should have regular showers at home and ensure that you do not use public pools or showers to minimize the risk of infection.
A D&C (dilation and curettage) surgery is done to remove the fetal tissue remains from the uterus to prevent bacterial infection from the vagina to the uterus. They can be treated with antibiotics or surgery (6). If the fetal remains go unnoticed and are not surgically operated, then they result in vaginal discharge and pelvic pain after miscarriage. If there is severe pain, cramping, prolonged bleeding and fever, you should see a doctor.
Pains after a miscarriage are common due to contractions. The series of events inside the uterus affect the abdomen causing severe abdominal pain. The contractions that develop from a miscarriage also cause intense pain. These pains radiate to the other body parts with lower back being affected the most (7).
The hCG hormone remains in the blood for a couple of months after a miscarriage and the levels come to zero only after the placental tissue is completely separated. In most cases, the levels drop below 5mlU/ml. If you have an early miscarriage (around the eighth to tenth week), then it takes more time for the hCG levels to return to normal as the hormone is at its peak during these weeks. Your healthcare provider will continue to check the levels by taking your blood sample (8).
It takes at least two weeks post miscarriage for the cervix to close and the uterus to shrink back to its normal size. But in some cases, the uterus is unable to empty its contents. This situation is referred to as an incomplete miscarriage. This miscarriage is very painful and is associated with severe cramps, and lasts for two or more weeks. In this case, the body will go into a mini labor with profuse bleeding and intense pain. The bleeding only stops once the uterus returns to its normal size. Massaging the uterine area helps the uterus return to its pre-pregnancy size (9).
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Depending on how long you were into pregnancy, you will experience leaking breasts or milk letdown after the miscarriage. Your breasts may feel full, but the pressure lessens gradually. In some cases, your doctor may prescribe medications for quick healing after miscarriage.
The body heals rather quickly after a miscarriage (whether early or late). Usually, a woman ovulates in two to four weeks following a miscarriage, and has a normal menstrual period after two weeks of ovulation. Below are a few ways to take care of yourself after a miscarriage.
You have gone through a traumatizing experience, and need time to heal. So, rest as much as you can. You may find it difficult to sleep as it can be mentally taxing. You could have warm milk to induce sleep. You should also do light exercises whenever you can (10).
A miscarriage pain may vary depending on the nature of the miscarriage. You can take antispasmodics pain killers such as cyclopam and buscopan. But you must consult your doctor before using them. But in case your pain increases with time, you need to seek medical attention.
For the first five days after a miscarriage, you must record your body temperature. If you see the numbers on the thermometer creep past 99.7ºF, contact your doctor. A fever after a miscarriage may indicate an infection in the body.
Use cotton sanitary napkins when you bleed after miscarriage, and change them every 4-6 hours. You also need to shower once or twice a day (weather permitting), to regulate your body temperature. Do not douche or use disinfectants to clean your vaginal area as it may lead to infections.
Many women experience headaches after a miscarriage. Using hot and cold compresses can give you some relief and ease abdominal cramping.
Your body needs to rebuild and refuel after a miscarriage, so have a healthy diet. Make sure your meals contain portions of protein, carbohydrates, fiber, fat, and essential minerals and vitamins (9).
For healthy fats, you could have coconut oil, butter, and olive oil.
Rebuild your body with proteins such as eggs, cheese, poultry, red meat, organ meat, and seafood (sardines and salmon).
Whole fruits and vegetables are high in nutrition and require no prep time. Leafy greens, beans, Brussels sprouts, lentils, soybeans, and fruits such as papaya, strawberries, and grapefruits are good for you.
Calcium levels plummet during pregnancy making it necessary to have calcium-rich foods (11). Therefore, it is important to consume calcium-rich foods such as milk, dairy products, dry fruits, soya, and leafy greens.
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Your body requires water to recover from the loss. So, drink at least eight glasses of water every day. You can try including fruit juices, herbal teas (mint or chamomile), and warm broths. Stay away from caffeinated drinks as caffeine is a diuretic and will not work on healing the body.
Try to avoid sex in the first two weeks after miscarriage as you should allow your body to heal. Wait for the bleeding to stop and give your cervix enough time to contract and close. Talk to your doctor before you begin to plan a family again. Use a contraceptive if you are not looking to become pregnant anytime soon (12).
Pregnancy loss brings with it a tide of emotions (13):
Since the time you undergo a miscarriage and throughout the healing process, your body will be in a shock. You may refuse to believe that you have lost the fetus.
You might blame yourself for the mishap. You may also be tempted to blame others though it might seem senseless. You may feel envious and get irritated of other pregnant women and could harbor hatred against them.
Some women may go into depression, also referred as major depressive disorder. It causes intense and persistent feelings of sorrow for longer periods, and women may lose interest in everything. For the next few weeks, you may be feeling:
Irritable or frustratedHopeless, empty or sad
Sleepy or insomnia
Very hungry or not hungry at all
Distressed, anxious, worthless
Lack focus on making decisions, remembering things
Suicidal tendencies and random pains (14).
Do not be hard on yourself as there is a way out and you can recover to start a family again.
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A miscarriage not only ravages your body but also leaves you emotionally fragile. You can effectively deal with miscarriages but first, you must understand and believe that whatever happened wasn’t your fault (16):
Miscarriage is often a chromosomal abnormality and is not just the negligence of the mother. You must move past it to plan your family in the future.
Your doctor is the first person to help you understand the tragedy. He will explain to you the reasons, (such as cysts in ovaries, tilted uterus, too much stress, smoking, etc.) that you can avoid in your next pregnancy.
Stop focusing too on the physical and mental pain. Remember that your hormones are already imbalanced and they take some time to normalize. You will be irritable and moody. Understand that the body is on its path to recovery and will take some time.
Identify the reason – Have you had an earlier miscarriage? Were you desperate about having a baby? Are you over 35 years? Are you freaked out about the unsuccessful pregnancy? Whatever it is, be honest with yourself to know what triggered you the most. You must understand that you cannot solve the problem until you know the reason.
When you are dealing with something as big as a miscarriage, you need to vent out your feelings. Talk to somebody – be it your friend, family, or a professional. It is normal to feel alienated, but don’t shut yourself out, especially from your partner. Remember, he too has lost his child. Talking about it will help take a little burden off and help you move on better.
Once you are physically up to it, try and exercise. A good workout releases the happy hormones endorphins in the body, can help you deal with stress. Begin with mild exercises such as walking, and move on to running and other vigorous exercises. But be sure that you talk to your doctor before beginning any exercise.
If you are having a tough time dealing with depression, your doctor may suggest treatment for miscarriage such as:
Antidepressant medications lessen depressive symptoms
Psychotherapy to helps cope with grief
Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) to treat severe cases by sending electric currents to the brain (17)
You should not let yourself continue to be in depression. Instead, make every effort to come out of those feelings and lead a normal life again. Also, you need to take care of your health.
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You should follow certain safety precautions to remain physically and mentally fit after miscarriage. In many cases, these precautions would avoid future mishaps and recurrent pregnancy losses (18):
It takes about a few days to several months for the body to heal after a miscarriage. However, vaginal bleeding may last up to a week, and lower abdominal pain up to two days (19).
The healing period also depends on the emotional bond the woman shares with the fetus (20).
Miscarriages can be eye-openers, and they do not always ruin your lives. They may give you a chance to understand your body better, learn about the medical conditions to make the right plans for future.
While some women may find it helpful to start a new pregnancy carefully, some others take very long to move away from the pain. Whatever it is, you and your partner should talk and share each other’s feelings. Remember, being mentally and physically strong will help you get better soon.
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