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Lovemaking feels awesome! Period! There are no two ways about it. Both men and women need a healthy dose of lovemaking every now and then to help them relax, feel happy, and boost their immunity (1). Yet, as much as a couple loves making out together, things might become a bit slow in the bedroom with the passage of time. Blame it on our lifestyles, but there’s no denying the fact that balancing a career and family commitments is not an easy task. And, in between this balancing act, your love life takes the hardest hit, leading to frictions and frustrations. Sounds familiar, right? If you too have been stressed lately about your boring love-life, or the lack of it, here are some of the ways you can re-ignite your passion for each other again:
1. Again, Isn’t It Healthy?
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Often, couples might feel distanced from each other due to lifestyle stressors. Soon, they start assuming that there is no love left between them, which is what they think is the reason for their lack of physical intimacy. Although this might not be the case, you can take the first step by reconnecting over the amazing health benefits that lovemaking offers. Once you both get into action, you never know, it might actually rekindle your romance again!
2. Running Behind Perfection? Don’t!
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Over time, it is possible that your body might go through physical changes. Some of these changes might make you feel less confident about yourself. Due to this, you might stop getting physically intimate as much as you should. However, remind yourself that you don’t need that perfect, celebrity-like body to love yourself again. Be happy the way you are, in your own skin. Only then will you learn to stop focusing on your flaws and start enjoying lovemaking.
3. Get Naughty. ..And A Little Flirty!
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Yes, lovemaking can get boring sometimes. Especially if you are pressed for time. So, try to indulge in some flirting over the dinner table; send romantic texts to each other when at work; shower together over the weekends; give soft massages before you wake up; or simply cuddle each other. This will help ignite that spark between you both before you finally head for the grand finale in your room! Your emotional connect throughout the day and that gentle caressing is sure to put that zing back into your love.
4. You, Me, And The Baby
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Another reason why some couples’ love life takes a nosedive is the arrival of a baby. Of course, your little one gives you an enormous amount of joy. However, with your lady bits taking time to heal, you might not be in the ‘mood’ so much. But there are other ways that you can indulge in some lovemaking without being too hard on yourself. Discuss such options with your doctor before you start again. It also helps to have realistic expectations with a baby around, what with frequent feeding and changing duties. So, make the most of the time on hand even if it is for short intervals rather than giving it up totally.
5. Got A Problem? Discuss It
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Women often have ongoing issues down under. Menstrual cramps, perimenopause, and post-childbirth vaginal tears are just a few of them. These issues can also cause vaginal dryness and pain during coitus. Men too suffer from their own set of private problems. In such a situation, it is better to open up about them to your partner rather than suffering silently to satisfy the other. Once you’ve discussed it, check with your doctor to address those issues. Your doctor may prescribe lubricants or relevant treatments to help you get back to your rejuvenated self.
Remember, it’s never too late to make a fresh start to spice up your love life. All you need is a strong will (which you have) and a little bit of advice from us (you’ve got it now!), and the rest of it will be taken care of by your love for each other (let’s go awww…)! Good luck, lovebirds!
