The affection you and your partner shower on each other reflects the depth of your relationship. Different people have different ways of showing affection—some believe in giving their partners expensive gifts, while others believe in some simple, everyday gestures. It does not matter how you do it as long as you convey it to your partner that you love them and care for them.
In this post, MomJunction tells you 35 simple ways to show affection in a relationship with your significant other (SO). Try a few of these every day, and your partner will surely sit up and notice.
35 Ways To Show Affection In A Relationship
1. Identify your SO’s love language
What is your partner’s love language? Is it words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, or physical touch? Identify what they usually associate love with and act accordingly.
Share your past, ideas, beliefs, hopes, dreams, fears, and responsibilities. Tell them about your vulnerabilities and expectations from the relationship.
Listen to understand your partner. Give them your undivided attention when they are talking to you. And yes, ditch the gadgets when having a conversation.
4. Do something out of the blue
Do something unexpected for your partner. It could be anything from taking them out on a surprise date or sending them a cute video message.
Hold your partner’s hands while walking or watching a movie, give them a hug or kiss before and after work, cuddle each other on the couch, and shower together.
6. Give them a massage
It is a great stress buster and can strengthen your bond. A massage will rejuvenate your partner after a tiring day.
Lie down on the lawn with your partner and stargaze. You needn’t talk—just hold their hand and feel each other’s presence.
8. Write them a note
Not many people do it these days. Try it! It can be endearing. Write a simple message, and put it in their bag, or paste it on the refrigerator.
9. Compliment them
Compliment your partner for their looks, hard work, optimism, etc. Let your SO know why you love them.
10. Say “thank you”
Say thank you each time you are grateful for something your partner has done for you. Make them feel appreciated and valued for everything they do.
11. Spend time with your SO’s friends
Make an effort to hang out with your partner’s friends. Get to know them and work at striking a bond with them.
12. Show a keen interest in their work
Ask your SO how their day went at work. Show interest in the project that they are working on and let them know that you appreciate the hard work they put in every day.
13. Do chores together
Do the household chores together and have a great bonding time. You could play your favorite songs while doing the dishes or cleaning the floor and liven things up a bit.
14. Cook their favorite dish
Prepare your partner’s favorite dish when they least expect it. You could also make them a sumptuous breakfast in bed.
15. Seek their advice
This could make them feel that their opinions matter. They could even go out of their way to be helpful and lighten your burden in ways you never expected. Try it.
16. Order their favorite snack
Order your SO’s favorite snack on a lazy afternoon or surprise them by delivering it to their workplace.
17. Give them space
Give them space and time to take up hobbies and do the things they love, without intervention. Give them some me-time, and you take it too.
Compromise when you have a difference in opinion, approach, or needs. Your partner will respect you for that and reciprocate too.
19. Have fun
Have fun together by indulging in hobbies that you both enjoy. If you are lost for ideas, try any of the fun games on this list.
20. Build trust
Trust your SO, and let them know that you can be trusted. Start by keeping your promises, admitting your mistakes, resolving conflicts amicably, showing empathy, and respecting each other’s differences.
21. Celebrate special days
Make it a point to celebrate your anniversary and birthdays. Show how much your partner means to you, by doing something endearing.
A kiss a day keeps the relationship alive. Release the oxytocin from your body and build intimacy in your relationship.
23. Flirt with them
Flirting needn’t stop once you are “officially” a couple. Keep the spark alive and revisit those things you did when you first met.
24. Brag about your SO
Tell the world every time your SO accomplishes something significant. While you should not be overdoing it, you can share their successes and accomplishments with your family and friends.
25. Tell them “I love you”
Verbalize your feelings. Say those magical words — “I love you” — more often. Say it out loud and let them feel loved.
26. Have a meaningful conversation
Make time for meaningful conversations whenever possible. Discuss things that matter to you both. Talk about building your future, career, having, or not having kids.
27. Involve your partner in important decisions
Relationships are about partnership. Always involve your partner and take their inputs before making any important decisions.
28. Try out new things together
Explore hobbies that are new for both of you. Doing something new could expose your vulnerabilities. You could help each other reduce those vulnerabilities and forge a strong bond.
29. Bring out the child in you
Do fun stuff together and try to bring out the child in you and your partner. You can blow bubbles, try a giant wheel, or have a competition on licking a popsicle.
30. Discuss your fantasies
Share your fantasies with each other. Better still, act them out and surprise them.
31. Remember the small details
This again requires you to use your listening skills. Pay attention to what they mention about their likes and dislikes. The next time you order something, ensure it is what they like.
32. Be compassionate
Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings. Put yourself in your SO’s shoes and try to look at the world through their eyes. Be for them when they are going through bad times or have lost a loved one.
33. Make yourself useful
Be the go-to person for them. Go the extra mile to help them whenever possible, and take pleasure in it. Help them plan their career or pursue education while you support them financially or support them in starting their own little business.
34. Be your SO’s biggest fan
Provide your unconditional support in whatever your partner does, as long as it is legal and safe. Encourage them and let them know you are with them.
35. Send them cute messages
Keep sending cute messages to your partner during the day. You can either send them on the phone or write them on slips and hide them at various places, such as their wallet, bag, car, etc. Let them know that you are thinking about them.
More often than not, we tend to take small things for granted once we pass the initial phase of a relationship. Relationships need constant nurturing, no matter how old they are. It is such thoughtful little things that will keep the spark on and make the relationship keep going.