Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), a complex mental disorder, could lead to conflicts in relationships, be it personal or professional. Hence, it is crucial to know and be watchful of the weird things narcissists do to protect yourself. A person with NPD shows certain traits, such as exaggerated self-importance and need for admiration from others or preferential treatment over others (1).
Most people exhibit a couple of narcissistic traits, but if you know someone who shows most of the following narcissistic traits that are weird and unusual, it would be wise of you to exercise caution around them or find a way to let them seek professional help
15 Weird Things Narcissists Do
Narcissists can show some unusual behavior, which may be an indicator of their personality disorder. Here are a few things that should make you alert and watchful.
1. They are not interested in listening to you
A narcissist can be so self-obsessed that they only like to talk about themselves and are hardly interested in listening to you. When you speak, they may often cut you off and divert the conversation to the topic they are interested in.
2. They are sore losers
Losing is not an option for a narcissist. And when they lose, they sulk about it. They blame others for their loss or make lame excuses to hide their shortcomings. Their superiority complex makes it difficult for them to digest a loss or a setback.
3. They dismiss your plea for help
When you need help from them, they will get furious at you for causing them unnecessary trouble. Since they do not care for anybody but themselves, they will not hesitate to dismiss your plea for help.
4. They walk before you
A narcissist enjoys causing distress to people. When you are out in public with them, they may deliberately walk faster and ahead of you. And when you panic after losing them, they may enjoy your distress from a distance. On returning to you, they may blame your slow pace of walking for the confusion.
5. They admire dictators
A narcissist believes that they are above everybody else and find it difficult to relate to others’ problems. This exaggerated sense of self-worth makes them admire dictators who misuse their power and cause hardship to innocent people. They identify with such dictators and exhibit a sense of grandiosity (2).
6. They blame you even for their mistakes
Anything that goes wrong with a narcissist is someone else’s fault because they firmly believe that they are always right. For instance, if you both get late for a movie because they have reached the theater later than the scheduled time, you will be blamed for booking the wrong time slot to watch the movie. Forget admitting their mistake, they won’t even own up to their faults.
7. They malign your name for their benefit
A narcissist craves admiration and approval. To ensure that you follow them, they will first ruin your relations with others by spreading false rumors about you. Then, they will ascertain that others lose trust in you and you are eventually left alone. Once you have no friends, you will have no option but to befriend the narcissist, who will ensure that you stay under their thumb.
8. They don’t have a straight answer for any question
Ask a narcissist a question, and you will get a counter-question in return. It is because they do not like answering questions, especially if they expose their negative trait. They avoid questions fervently and get defensive for no reason.
9. They use the silent treatment to abuse
If a narcissist is aware of your emphatic or kind-hearted nature, they will exploit it to their benefit by making you capitulate to their wishes. They do this by giving you the silent treatment. They will refuse to speak with you and give you cold vibes until you cave in and yield to them.
10. They hold grudges
Know that if you tell a narcissist that they are wrong, they will remember it for a lifetime and hold a grudge for the longest time. They do not forgive even minor slights and feel good about themselves only after exacting their revenge on you.
11. They resort to emotional blackmail
When a narcissist becomes aware of your insecurities and vulnerabilities, they will use it to blackmail you emotionally. For instance, they will blame you for something and make you feel guilty to such an extent that next time you tow their line without any protest.
12. They apologize only for their benefit
A narcissist detests offering an apology. Their rare apology is often half-hearted and intended only for a purpose. For instance, you tell them you felt bad about something they did, and they apologize, cursing themselves for being such a horrible person to you. This instead will make you feel awful for seeking an apology in the first place.
13. They are hypocrites
For a narcissist, rules that apply to you do not apply to them. For instance, they will chastise and yell at you for a small mistake you make, but it is no big deal when they commit the same mistake. In fact, when you confront them about it, they will get into a fit of rage, so you regret calling them out at all.
14. They are different with different people
A narcissist is like a chameleon who changes their personality according to the person they are dealing with. They will be extremely caring and considerate to one person and abusive and indifferent to another. In fact, one moment, they will be charming with their friends, and the very next moment, they will be screaming at you for a petty reason.
15. They ghost you only to return back
A narcissist thrives on your misery and resorts to mind games for some cheap thrills. For instance, they will disappear without any warning and will abruptly cut off all contact and communication with you, leaving you heartbroken and devastated. After a few days, they will return to you, acting as if nothing ever happened.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What does silence do to a narcissist?
If a narcissist is treated with silence, they may either ignore their target or become more toxic and humiliate them for attention. They may try to manipulate you and trick you into being close with them again.
2. How does a narcissist react when they can’t control their target?
If narcissists can’t control their target, they become angry and frustrated. They may start intimidating them and criticize them for everything. They may even set unrealistic boundaries and threaten to end the relationship.
3 What happens when a narcissist knows I figured them out?
If a narcissist is exposed or understands that you know their nature, they will never accept their mistakes. Instead, they will blame you for all that is happening and try to create a scenario where you would feel guilty and accountable.
Weird things narcissists do can baffle anyone. They are good at manipulating and controlling their victims. If you come across someone showing most of these narcissistic tendencies, then stay away from them, as their negative nature can affect your mental and physical health. Or ask them to seek professional advice to change their ways so you can have a balanced relationship with them.
- A person with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) tends to be a hypocrite.
- As they cannot relate to others’ problems, they admire high self-worth people, such as dictators.
- They place themselves before you and may even blame you for their mistakes.
- Steering away from a narcissist is beneficial for your mental health.
- E Ronningstam; Borderline Personality Disorder; NPD Basic;
- Anxiety.org; The Psychology of Dictators: Power Fear and Anxiety;