When You Feel Attracted To Someone, Do They Feel It Too? 15 Signs

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When you feel attracted to someone, do they feel it too? This question might linger on your mind when you are interested in someone. Whenever they are around, your cheeks get flushed, butterflies flutter in your stomach, and your knees go weak. Somewhere deep inside, you want to know whether or not they feel the same way about you.

In other cases, if you are casually dating or just hanging around, it is common to find that urge to know about their thoughts about you. The best way to do this is to observe them with sincerity and look for signs. In this post, we will tell you about a few ways by which you can tell whether or not they are attracted to you.

When You Feel Attracted To Someone, Do They Feel It Too?

Here are some signs to know they are attracted to you the same way you are.

1. Curiosity

Do they keep asking questions to you or your friends about you? They seem to want to know more about you and pay attention to the smallest details about you. You may find them asking random questions about your life. Most of all, they want to know if you are seeing someone else. This curiosity could be a vital sign of their interest in you.

Be Watchful
It’s natural to be curious about someone you like, and it’s okay to ask questions and get to know each other. However, if they start becoming overly intrusive early in your relationship, it may be a red flag that they are not respecting your boundaries.

2. Reciprocity

They reply to your messages, emails, and calls without taking much time. If you guys often communicate, see if they reciprocate your actions and energy. Also, observe if they are as interested in talking or meeting you as you are. To know about it, plan a date and see if they are excited.

3. Body language

Understand body language to know if someone is attracted to you

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You don’t need to be an expert to understand the basic body language of someone. Simple acts such as being nervous around you, stumbling on words, or fidgeting are signs of anxiousness. These signs could mean they are cautious about making a good impression. Uncrossed arms, open shoulders, holding a gaze, fixing the hair or shirt, and licking one’s lips are all signs that they accept your presence and want to impress you. Blushing is a good indication that they are feeling butterflies in their tummy. Also, it is natural for someone to be awkward around someone they like. So talking very fast or being clumsy might also indicate the same.

4. Smile

As simple as it may sound, if the person you like has a spontaneous smile around you or can’t stop smiling when talking to you, they are most likely interested in you. A smile is a sign of happiness, comfort, and attraction. It sends out positive vibes between you two.

5. Mirroring behavior

Mirroring behavior could be a sign of attraction

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A person interested in you will unconsciously mimic some of your behavior and actions, such as holding the glass, ordering the same coffee, or even moving their hands like you do. Often, they start using the phrases you usually use. These are signs that the person is aligning with you to create a bond. They are trying to get your attention. It could also mean they find your behavior cute and wish to incorporate them to feel closer to you.

Did you know?
Research shows that behavioral mimicry serves as an implicit self-regulatory function in relationship maintenance, as it can help establish rapport, build trust, and strengthen social bonds (1).

6. Communication

If your love-interest tries to make frequent conversations with you over the smallest of things, they could be interested in you. Texting you throughout the day, asking you about your work, seeking your advice on something, and pulling a conversation longer are signs that they are attracted to you. Also, a comfortable silence when you are together indicates romantic chemistry. All these show they want to spend more time with you.

7. Physical touch

A simple touch could raise the adrenalin levels in the body, sparking chemical reactions that attract you to someone. Physical touch, here, refers to something beyond ‘accidental brushes against your skin.’ If they put their hand on your back while crossing the street, protectively maneuvers you through a crowd, or tries to hold your hand, they are interested in you.

8. No barriers

Getting close to you is a sign of attraction

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It is a simple gesture that lets you know if the person you like is attracted to you. For example, if you two are out for dinner, they move the salt and pepper cellar on the table or a cushion placed in between. It shows they are trying to get close to you.

9. Attentiveness

It is an essential sign to notice when you both are together. If someone is interested in you, they will be attentive to your words and actions. They will make eye contact while you speak. If they are easily distracted or not paying attention to your presence or comments, they may not be interested in you as you are.

Quick tip
Reciprocate their attention by being attentive to them. For instance, put your phone on silent and make frequent remarks/ask questions. It will demonstrate that you are listening and value their thoughts and feelings.

10. Initiative

If the person of your interest takes the lead to make plans, arranges surprises for you, takes care of small details, picks you up and drops you home, invites you for a show or dinner date, they are interested in you. The person who is attracted to you will not wait for you to ask every time. They will be just as excited to make plans with you as you are.

11. Dilated pupils/ blinking

Someone interested in you will try to hold your gaze

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The eyes say it all! It may sound technical but look into their eyes when you talk and see if their pupils dilate. Big, attentive eyes indicate that they are taking in as much of you as possible. Also, someone interested in you will try to hold your gaze and blink less.

12. Glowing skin

When you are around someone you like romantically, your heart beats faster. It makes the skin look flushed and glowing. Love interests activate happy hormones, which show up through a bright radiance in the skin. If they like you, they would be gleaming around you.

13. Vocal tone

You will notice that someone interested in you will try to sound sexy and personal. They would talk in deeper and slower tones and make you feel like their words are just for you. You may even notice their excitement as they talk.

14. Leaning in

Leaning in is a sign of attraction

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The person you like often leans in to get closer to you or whisper something in your ears. They make excuses to be closer to you by moving the body forward to strengthening the conversation. It is because they are interested in you!

Research finds
A study suggests that during a brief “get-to-know-you” discussion, people tend to use flirting behaviors that correspond to their flirting style (2).

15. Introduction

The final scorer is your love interest wants to introduce you to family or friends. It’s a way to get approval and include you in their close circle. But mind you, this introduction is only during intimate family get-togethers or in a small group. Don’t mistake a house party for 50 people at their house as a sign of interest!

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What are the factors that influence attractions?

Proximity, familiarity, similarity, beauty, reciprocation of the attraction, intimacy, and responsiveness are some factors that influence attraction.

2. What does soulmate connection feel like?

The timing of meeting is perfect, you feel connected to them almost instantaneously, you may feel like you have known them for the longest, and there are no negative feelings such as jealousy or judgment, and you may even feel telepathy. To top it all off, your heart will signal that this is the one for you.

You’re attracted to them and believe they like you too. You can’t be too sure, though. After all, there’s no way to tell whether or not someone is interested in you. Some physical and behavioral symptoms may indicate that something is present, but don’t make any assumptions until they come to you and express something. Reading between the lines can sometimes lead to misunderstandings. As a result, it is preferable to directly or indirectly inquire about the person’s feelings toward you. But, in the meantime, keep things going as usual and savor every moment you have with your special someone! It will give you a clear image from which you can determine if you want to continue with them or not.

Key Pointers

  • If a person is always curious to know more about you and finds excuses to talk to you, it could be a sign they are attracted to you.
  • One of the best ways to find out whether they like you or not is to observe their body language around you.
  • Look for subtle signs they give out in your presence.


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  1. Johan C Karremans and Thijs Verwijmeren; (2008); Mimicking attractive opposite-sex others: the role of romantic relationship status.
  2. Research Defines More Behaviors That Reveal Romantic Attraction.

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