10 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Is Ignoring You And What To Do

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As an individual, it is not unusual for you to expect love, care, understanding, and support from your guy, and it can be heartbreaking when your boyfriend ignores you. There could be many reasons for him giving you the go-by and you might be unable to wrap your head around it. But before taking any drastic decision, take a step back and try to assess the situation objectively. To help you clear your confusion and overcome the plight, we bring you some common reasons for your beau ignoring you. We also share some effective tips to help you deal with the situation.

10 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Is Ignoring You

Knowing the exact reason behind your beau’s behavior will help you understand his state of mind and work towards making the relationship better.

1. He needs space

Everyone desires space in a relationship; nevertheless, the amount may vary for each person. Perhaps your man is not getting sufficient space for himself in the relationship, due to which he is giving you the cold shoulder.

2. He is facing challenges

Your beau could be fighting battles, be it psychological, financial, professional, or with his own family. Maybe he is hiding it from you to shield you, and you could be absolutely clueless about his predicament.

3. He is nervous

Your boyfriend is nervous, and so ignoring you

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If you both entered into a relationship recently, possibly he still has butterflies in his stomach while talking to you or sharing something with you. He might be waiting to overcome the teething troubles and get into the zone.

4. He’s hurt

It could’ve happened that you inadvertently hurt him deeply, and he’s unable to come to terms with it. So, he could be refraining from expressing his pain to you as he might be afraid that could lead to further complications.

5. He is stonewalling you

Stonewalling is the silent treatment given in a relationship. It could be that he’s withholding important information from you and deliberately ignoring you. This manipulation tactic can have serious repercussions on the relationship. However, stonewalling is not always a manipulation tactic. Sometimes, it can be a biological reaction that causes people to shut down.

6. He is jealous

He is jealous of you

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Guys sometimes express their envy by ignoring their partner. Your boyfriend could be jealous of your professional success or the attention you’re receiving, and he’s probably trying to vent his frustration in this manner.

7. He is cheating on you

It could be possible that he’s into someone else, and keeping you in the dark about it. However, it is better to make sure he’s actually cheating on you and also get your facts right before actually confronting him.

8. He is confused

Your man may not be as serious about this as you are and he doesn’t have clarity on where this is heading. He is probably sorting things out in his head and trying to take time, due to which he’s ignoring you.

9. He wants to unplug

He wants to unplug

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We’re living in a day and age where there is an overdose of social media and information, which could be overwhelming for some people. Your guy could be one of them and is staying away from the phone, which might be coming across to you as ignoring.

10. He wants to call it quits

Unfortunately, some people are not brave enough to admit that they want to break up, and he is perhaps using this technique to convey the message. Ignoring, giving cold replies and acting busy are some of the passive-aggressive tactics they use. Sometimes, people don’t feel unappreciated and acknowledged, so they shut down to avoid later disappointment.

What Should You Do When Your Boyfriend Ignores You?

It is not impossible to make your guy start caring for you again and shower you with all the love in the world. Following these steps can help you rekindle the romance with your boyfriend.

1. Communicate your concerns to him

Communicate your concerns

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Sometimes you may be confused about what to say to your boyfriend when he ignores you. Try to be forthright about what you feel and openly communicate the issues you’re facing. Being truthful and honest can help both of you iron out your differences and also help him open up.

2. Take a break

If you are finding it difficult to digest that your beau is neglecting you and feel that you need a break from the relationship, it’s absolutely fine. This is beneficial for both of you in the long run, but make it clear to him that you need some time.

3. Seek the support of friends

Seek support of your friends

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You can ask for support from your mutual friends or anyone you both are comfortable with to get a better picture of why he’s behaving that way. This can be helpful as sometimes people who know you closely can actually pinpoint what the exact problem is.

4. Go to a counselor

You and your guy can also go for couple’s counseling, where you can pour your hearts out individually and also together. Visit a licensed professional who can look at things objectively and help rebuild your relationship.

Mutual understanding, trust, communication, and patience are the cornerstones of any relationship. So, when your boyfriend ignores you, try to share your pain and frustration and make him understand your suffering. Both of you can work together to find common ground and try to resolve issues, and bring your love life back on track. If you don’t find a noticeable change in his behavior despite making all your efforts to save the relationship, it is better to move on. However, make sure you leave no stone unturned before parting ways.

Key Pointers

  • Being ignored by the person who means the world to you can be gut-wrenching.
  • Him feeling smothered, lack of trust, envy, and two-timing are several reasons for a guy turning his back on his love.
  • Conveying your pain, giving each other much-needed space, and seeking professional guidance can help.

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Siddharth Kesiraju

Siddharth holds a certification in Relationship Coaching and a masters degree in communication and journalism from the University of Hyderabad. He has around six years of experience in various fields of writing and editing. As an associate editor at MomJunction, Siddharth writes on Relationship and edits the writers' articles to meet the website's editorial standards. Previously, he worked in the...
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