15 Significant Reasons Why We Fall In Love

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Why do we fall in love? This is a question most people don’t have an answer for, as love is one of the strongest and deepest emotions that our mind and heart could have no control over. Sometimes, we go to extreme lengths for love and can do anything and everything for the person we love. But why is it that love has such a strong impact on us? Keep reading as we share some reasons for falling in love and the factors that contribute to it.

15 Reasons We Fall In Love

Sometimes, we do not know why we fall in love. There may be several reasons, and not just one or two. We have listed a few common ones here.

1. Compatibility

One of the crucial factors that makes you fall in love is compatibility. Compatibility is not about physical attraction but how you relate to each other and get along well. When you and your partner share the same values and similar interests, and most of your opinions match, it means you and your loved one are compatible, and that brings you closer to each other.

2. Attraction

Attraction is one of the contributing factors to falling in love, especially in the initial stages. That attraction may not be just physical, but also emotional and sexual. Some people may get attracted to shared interests, resources, status, or intellect too.

However, if the attraction becomes the major reason minus closeness or intimacy, the emotion can be considered infatuation. That means you are attracted but do not actually know more about the person. True love is a combination of attraction plus closeness, which usually develops with time.

3. Connection

When you both are deeply connected, you might fall in love. As humans, we look for a connection or a bond that enriches our lives. When we have a deep connection with someone, the feeling becomes satisfying. And we want that feeling to continue further and become a prolonged experience of life.

4. Similarities

You must have heard the expression, ‘opposites attract.’ But one of the common reasons you fall in love with someone is because you both are ‘like-minded’ or share similarities – you both love reading books, you both are travelers, you both are spiritual, or you both love exploring history. It helps establish a close and intimate connection between you two and make you fall for each other.

5. Parent’s resemblance

We have grown up seeing our parents. Some of us use our parental role models as examples of what we should look for in a partner. Finding such similar features or behavioral attributes in someone may pull you towards them and give you a relationship satisfaction. It might also help to distinguish positive versus negative traits.

6. Communication

How was your day?’ ‘Let me help you cheer up.’ ‘I love you for who you are.’

Even when two people are different, communication can become the string to connect them. Having good conversations results in exchanging positive energy. When you are able to talk freely to someone, it feels good. Sometimes, you may want someone to listen to you without judging you.

7. Completeness

Love makes you complete. You yearn for your partner’s company, and you are happy when they are around. The feeling that you do not want anything or anyone else in life as your significant other besides them makes you fall in love.

8. Sense of humor

He makes you have a loud laugh. She is hilarious.

A good laugh can fill the air with positivity. Having a partner with a good sense of humor can help you de-stress, feel good, and make life so much easier. It is one of the positive attributes that people usually look in their life partners and fall in love with.

9. Genuineness

When you feel the person is genuine with you, they are sincere in their feelings and do not camouflage their emotions to be ‘perfect’ always, that person can be someone you want to be with. This is one of the traits you might want in a romantic relationship

10. Emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is the capability of individuals to recognize their own emotions and those of others, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately. It can help a romantic relationship because it offers a feeling of being understood by one’s partner.

11. Mystery

Sounds weird? Sometimes, we tend to be captivated by enigma. There’s a feeling of familiarity that we sense from someone whom we have just met or known. They make you feel special or highlight your unique qualities that you have never realized. You may be charmed by that puzzle, and you may feel good about it and want it to continue. That’s a feeling you may fancy and fall in love with.

12. A feeling of happiness

You feel elated when they are around. You feel so good that you don’t want that feeling to stop. The theory is supported by neurochemical evidence. There are several feel-good chemicals, such as serotonin, oxytocin, and dopamine,that are released when you are attracted to some special person in your life (1). These chemicals make you feel happy and satisfied.

13. Loneliness

The myriad thoughts you have and the various emotions you go through everyday get an outlet if you have that one worthy person to share with. Say, you heard a melodious song on the way to work or saw a beautiful place during your weekend getaway, you would want to talk about it to someone. You do share with your friends, but one among them pays special attention to what you are saying, understands you better than the others, and lives that happiness with you.

14. Sense of balance

His patience and empathy move me. Her respect and understanding towards me are impressive.

When you find someone who is compatible with the serenity and stability you have brought into your own life, he/she can elevate your positive emotions. Emotional balance in a partnership can lend itself to the creation of a calm environment filled with positive feelings toward one’s self and one’s romantic interest.

15. For no reason at all

Sometimes love might just happen. You may not have time to think logically about it but realize you got drawn to the person even before you weighed in the pros and cons, and the reasons. Do not be surprised if this happens. However, step back a bit and think if this relationship does good to you in the long run.

Often, we may not be able to cite specific reasons for falling in love with someone. We fall in love and share a special connection that we want to turn into a memorable lifelong experience. We yearn for that person and want to be with them to add a new meaning to our existence. Whether or not you have a reason for falling in love, enjoy the ecstatic feeling, and create sweet memories for life.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Do we choose who we fall in love with?

Although love is an epiphany sometimes, one may choose who they want to fall in love with. They may have some ideal traits they seek in a romantic partner and might find themselves attracted to such people.

2. What are the stages of falling in love?

There are three stages of falling in love. The first stage is falling in love itself. You might feel excited to begin a relationship with the concerned person at this stage. During the second stage, you see the natural person beneath and try to understand them. In the third love stage, you tend to team up with your partner as your bond becomes stronger (1).

3. Is falling in love natural?

Falling in love is a natural process due to hormones that enhance the feelings of lust, attraction, and attachment between two individuals. Scientists found that sex hormones testosterone and estrogen, hormones released by the hypothalamus such as dopamine, oxytocin, vasopressin, serotonin, and norepinephrine, make a person fall in love (2).

Love is the strongest emotion that bonds two strangers together. Knowing the reasons why we fall in love could help you be more conscious and practical while making major decisions in your life. Compatibility, attractions, connection, similar interests, and communication are important reasons that make you fall in love. Some people may feel attracted to their partner’s sense of humor, calm demeanor, jovial nature, and emotional intelligence. On the other hand, loneliness can make people fall in love when they get to know someone. You may balance the intense emotions, understand the person, and make life-changing decisions when you feel this is the person you want forever.

Key Pointers

  • No one can specifically answer why we fall in love.
  • Compatibility, compassion, and similarities are a few reasons that contribute to our feelings of love for another person.
  • Sometimes, there is no reason for falling in love with someone, and it just happens.


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